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Hi everybody. So it has been 7 months since I arrived to the US in my k1 visa. My husband and I applied for AOS and are still in the process of waiting.

Now, what I have going on is something that is bugging the heck out of me. I have a 44 year old aunt, she is my late mother’s sister and she is calling me EVERY single day to push me to:

1. Find a WIFE for her husband, so that them two would divorce, he would marry this fictional US citizen woman, divorce her once he gets US papers and marry my aunt again and bring her to the US. I know how it sounds, makes me sick to my stomach.

2. Divorce MY husband in couple of years and MARRY my uncle so he would get papers-similar scenario as in number 1.

3. Last thing she came up with today(just got a message this morning) is that  my uncle will apply for tourist visa to come see us and then he would somehow stay in the US.

I don’t want anything to do with any of this, me and my husband have a baby and I am already stressed enough with being a new mum and still struggling to adjust to a new life here. It is also offensive when she suggests I divorce because I love my husband.

I also don’t know anybody here, so no way on earth could I find a woman to marry my uncle, it is ludicrous even to suggest that. All this does is making me not want to talk to her, I even started ignoring her calls. Which is sad because she was always wonderful to me when I was growing up. 
in future I do want my sister to come for a visit, so I don’t want my uncle to apply for a tourist visa and then to disappear once here. God knows if that could bring us in trouble, so I don’t like her even suggesting it. 

Me being a very meek person it was always hard to say NO, even though my dad and my sister told me to tell her to leave me alone. So what I do is just ignoring her and changing the subject as soon as she starts talking about it, but it seems not to be working very well-she doesn’t want to stop with her suggestions! 
Has anybody had similar thing happening, or is anybody in the same situation now? It is not fair to stress me out every single day with this, you can’t imagine how pushy she is. 

Just wanted to share this that I imagine must happen to others. And to get it off my chest. 

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Block her number, her email whatever means she uses to communicate, job done.

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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20 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Block her number, her email whatever means she uses to communicate, job done.

Hah, I just called my dad to complain to him and he gave me such hard time! Said how it is my fault for getting stressed out because I didn’t tell her months ago to knock it off with all this crazy talk. He told me the same thing - to ask her to stop or I will be forced to block her. 

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I think it's time to change your number, block her number, and stop responding to her? :)

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Filed I-129F: 10/4/14 - Packet received: 10/7/14
NOA 1 email + ARN assigned: 10/10/14 (hard copy 10/17/14)
Touched on website (fixed?): 12/9/14 - Poked USCIS: 4/1/15
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1 hour ago, PelagijaP said:

Me being a very meek person it was always hard to say NO, even though my dad and my sister told me to tell her to leave me alone.

Muster your strength and follow this advice.  You'll be pleasantly surprised at how much better you feel after you apply this "targeted boldness."

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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