Immigrant spouses vs. American Spouses

[JoeMama 0]

eBay! "one canadian, in excellent condition!!!! New With Tags MUST SEE!!!!"

Is there a return policy?

[Nikita2Charles 33]

Immigrant spouse and American spouses, It all depends on your surroundings, what kind of people you meet and interact with, I have no complain against american women, I dated in the past and could have marry any one of them it just was not meant to be faith had it otherwise. Lot of misconception regarding foreign spouses, I've been to India several times and was in charge of some outsourcing software project there, so i became very familiar with the people, the culture, that's how I met my wife, She wanted me to move and live there, was not too kin to leave her friends, family and surrounding, but when we look at what's best for both of us, We realized it's best if she moved here instead of me staying in India. People have lost of misconception, and even foreigners also, they think american women are easy, not faithful, play around, lot of negativity, my folks were married for 30years, most of my relatives been married for generation and specially i have one of my dear friends was still a virgin at the age of 30, she's smart, gorgeous, educated, the perfect southern creole belle from St Rose New Orleans, but at the time I could never see myself in a long distance relationship miles away but in the same country little did I know that a few years later my fiance would be waters away to a dfiferent, country land, time zone.

[Caladan 19]

eBay! "one canadian, in excellent condition!!!! New With Tags MUST SEE!!!!"

Is there a return policy?

You wouldn't beLIEVE the f*cking shipping costs on a 200lb Canadian.

[Louwelyn ALLen 0]

This is my personal opinion about the topic madame, it's my point of view and by any means not harsh to anyone reading it unless you are affected and hurt because it's true to you and by any means you are entitled to your own defensive opinion. That's why I said: I'm not saying this to offend all American women, this is based according to my personal encounter and experiences with dear hubby's she-friends. comprende??? And about the ho-bag, gold digger filipina..oh yeah we did condemn that lesbo madame, and we feel sorry for the Amerikano about it. God bless your heart ma'am and your briton hubby.[/size] There's no reason for you to be angry, because you aren't like them are you?? PEACE.

What the is this laughing all about? cant you see peace ))

[Portlander 0]

In college, I only see one or two women in Engineering. The rest are either liberal arts major, or choose the easy non-technical majors.

And?

No longer true!!! The majority of the Biology students are women, just about all Biology and chemistry related fields are getting more women than men these days. Also, in the alst 10 years, I've noticed a major upturn the the number of women taking drum lessons from me (I teach + play drums for a living) and other teachers.

[Portlander 0]

who started this sh!t..Matako?

I blame Bush... or the lack there of

:lol:

When the two foreign countries are vastly different in economic stability, etc...the American has a lot more 'buying power' overseas.

Anyone who can't recognize that is being silly

There are a lot of silly people out there! Anyone who doesn't recognize that stability is most important to women of any culture is being silly, too. (Myself included for a long while.)

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

There's no reason for you to be angry, because you aren't like them are you?? PEACE.

Them?

[peezey 0]

a feminist congresswoman who put in place the IMBRA

You've got to be kidding me . . . .

Obviously part of the 95%.

What a friggin joke.

[mawilson 2,133]

Also, the money-grubbing American woman stereotype goes out the window when you're talking about comfortable American women who choose men from Impoverished Country Y.

That doesn't happen very often though.

[rebex05 1]

In college, I only see one or two women in Engineering. The rest are either liberal arts major, or choose the easy non-technical majors.

And?

I want to imply the women in my University generally don't challenge themselves as much.

I don't think that's necessarily the case. Presonally, I would have found a non-technical major more challenging than a technical one. People tend to do what they're good at.

I would agree... why are some areas more highly valued or challenging? And maybe women have not been encouraged to pursue such "challenging" (as you would put it) majors, so never thought it possible.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

Yes....

One thing that remains unclear, however, is why you had to choose your wife amongst

"ex-FOB desi Born-again Christians". You don't think you could ever love someone

who is not an "ex-FOB desi Born-again Christian"?

You are quite mistaken here--by taking a specific negative point of my (late) mum's awful advice, and then expanding it to general-case.

The basic choices amongst these (without regard to religion) are:

• ex-FOB desi (due to time spent in US of at least 5 years, it is impossible to be FOB)
  
• mutually exclusive with it is the American-born desi--of which a rather high percentage are ABCD's (the "C" stands for confused; these are compatible neither with FOB, ex-FOB, nor with non-desi Americans)
  
• non-des Americans
  

Biblical command for (Born-again) Christians NOT to be "yoked" with those who aren't (this applies to business partnerships, as well as marriages).

I have never encountered a Born-again Christian who was culturally confused (though I have encountered many whom I would claim have NO culture--naturally, these would be Yanks and Canucks), so Born-again Christian ABCD is an oxymoron.

As (even nominal) Christians would be about 3% of all desis in North American (you can run the math on your own), to search for Born-again Christian desi (in ENTIRE North America) is like searching for a marble somewhere inside my old one-bedroom-split apartment.

Plus, there was also a subtle pressure in my mum's advice to let her do the searching. In critical matters, she would defer to my dad (still living, he visited us recently)--whose decision invariably is from the "last advice received" (almost always disastrous, due to his choice of "advisers"--especially when he won't exactly consult the one who has to take the consequences of it).

[Caladan 19]

CherryXS, I take you to be making an interesting point, but I'm losing it in the alphabet soup of your posts. Clue me in on the acronyms? The only unusual term I understand there is desi.

[chri'stina 190]

Yes....

One thing that remains unclear, however, is why you had to choose your wife amongst

"ex-FOB desi Born-again Christians". You don't think you could ever love someone

who is not an "ex-FOB desi Born-again Christian"?

You are quite mistaken here--by taking a specific negative point of my (late) mum's awful advice, and then expanding it to general-case.

The basic choices amongst these (without regard to religion) are:

• ex-FOB desi (due to time spent in US of at least 5 years, it is impossible to be FOB)
  
• mutually exclusive with it is the American-born desi--of which a rather high percentage are ABCD's (the "C" stands for confused; these are compatible neither with FOB, ex-FOB, nor with non-desi Americans)
  
• non-des Americans
  

Biblical command for (Born-again) Christians NOT to be "yoked" with those who aren't (this applies to business partnerships, as well as marriages).

I have never encountered a Born-again Christian who was culturally confused (though I have encountered many whom I would claim have NO culture--naturally, these would be Yanks and Canucks), so Born-again Christian ABCD is an oxymoron.

As (even nominal) Christians would be about 3% of all desis in North American (you can run the math on your own), to search for Born-again Christian desi (in ENTIRE North America) is like searching for a marble somewhere inside my old one-bedroom-split apartment.

Plus, there was also a subtle pressure in my mum's advice to let her do the searching. In critical matters, she would defer to my dad (still living, he visited us recently)--whose decision invariably is from the "last advice received" (almost always disastrous, due to his choice of "advisers"--especially when he won't exactly consult the one who has to take the consequences of it).

Your answer is kind of confusing.

Of course you are free to marry whoever you feel the most comfortable with, and for you it was someone who knew your culture as well as shared your beliefs. I think it's good that it's what made you both happy.

Maybe mawilson meant, why did it HAVE to be all of those together.

For instance, me and Sujeet have a happy marriage, and are both born again Christians, yet are of different cultural backgrounds but have succeeded in making our relationship successful. We did not seek each other out, but I never said I would only marry an American and he never said he was only seeking an Indian wife.

Obviously this is what God had planned for your life, and has blessed you and Pras to be together and very happy. But I wonder why some people limit themselves to only marrying from one ethnicity. I mean, I know the reasons, but still it doesn't have to always be that way, as shown in examples like Sujeet and I being together, having in common our faith but not background.

Do you know many Indians who are married to American girls(non-desi)? Or is it mostly everyone only marrying other Indians? Just wondering.

Edited May 10, 2007 by stina&suj

[Saddle Bronc 124]

Your answer is kind of confusing.

Of course you are free to marry whoever you feel the most comfortable with, and for you it was someone who knew your culture as well as shared your beliefs. I think it's good that it's what made you both happy.

Maybe mawilson meant, why did it HAVE to be all of those together.

For instance, me and Sujeet have a happy marriage, and are both born again Christians, yet are of different cultural backgrounds but have succeeded in making our relationship successful. We did not seek each other out, but I never said I would only marry an American and he never said he was only seeking an Indian wife.

Obviously this is what God had planned for your life, and has blessed you and Pras to be together and very happy. But I wonder why some people limit themselves to only marrying from one ethnicity.

In my case, I became a Christian rather "late" (age nearly 31)--which would make cultural adjustments quite difficult.

I mean, I know the reasons, but still it doesn't have to always be that way, as shown in examples like Sujeet and I being together, having in common our faith but not background.

Do you know many Indians who are married to American girls(non-desi)? Or is it mostly everyone only marrying other Indians? Just wondering.

Very few.

I know precisely ONE Born-again Christian currently living in Mumbai who fits that description. Three others (all brothers) have EUROPEAN (two German, one Liechstensteinese) non-desi wives. Unfortunately, this is a grand total of FOUR born-again (

Other examples of desi husband (some Hindu, one Sikh, others Catholic) with North American wife ALL involve Catholic wives. As these are all academics within my dad's circle, their spirituality can at best be considered dubious.

The basic point could be stated this way: as a Born-again Christian, my choices (amongst American citizens) would be limited to ex-FOB's and non-desis.

Edited May 10, 2007 by CherryXS

[peezey 0]

In college, I only see one or two women in Engineering. The rest are either liberal arts major, or choose the easy non-technical majors.

And?

I want to imply the women in my University generally don't challenge themselves as much.

Holy ####### you're a jackazz