Frustrated in the U.S.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

OP, do as advised and contact the commander and/or a pro bono attorney OR pay the bill, close the account and
get a deposit for a new account (you may be able to transfer the previous deposit to the new one.
Show them evidence that he called to cut off your service.

Block the Ghana numbers.
You may never know why he is not taking his name off, he may be clueless on how things work here in regards to

utility companies.
Glad you moved on, sorry you had to go through this and it's ok to vent about this, it's frustrating to have a cling -on
messing up your name and credit.
 

[Villanelle 4,122]

I dont know why this thread is so messy. 

 

The ex husband is the account holder with the electric company for the OPs home. She may be listed on the account but she is not the account holder- he is. There is NO WAY for her to get the electric company to transfer HIS account into HER name with out him asking/telling them to. I dont see how a mayor or legal aid group can help with this.

 

I mean- if you have a utility bill in your name- you would be outraged (and righteously so) if the company took the bill out of your name and put in someone elses with out your direction to do so!! 

 

He attempted to cancel the electric service. The worker that came shouldve shut it off. They were being nice in giving the family a break and some time to get the service switched. But HE is under no obligation to switch the bill to her name. He can simply shut it off and let her obtain the service in her name. Sure it needs a deposit and thats unfortunate but you cant make people "do the right thing". 

 

The right thing would be for him to switch the service to her. But again, he dosent have to do the right thing.

 

Probably when they married SHE switched the service to his name to help with AOS paperwork. Now the account is HIS and he doesnt have to give it back. She will have to get new service and pay the deposit since he wont.

 

(a lot of times these kinds of things can/should be handled in the divorce. Esp if you know the other person can or is being difficult. However they didnt seem to address joint bills in their divorce sadly.)

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

18 minutes ago, Damara said:

I dont know why this thread is so messy. 

 

The ex husband is the account holder with the electric company for the OPs home. She may be listed on the account but she is not the account holder- he is. There is NO WAY for her to get the electric company to transfer HIS account into HER name with out him asking/telling them to. I dont see how a mayor or legal aid group can help with this.

 

I mean- if you have a utility bill in your name- you would be outraged (and righteously so) if the company took the bill out of your name and put in someone elses with out your direction to do so!! 

 

He attempted to cancel the electric service. The worker that came shouldve shut it off. They were being nice in giving the family a break and some time to get the service switched. But HE is under no obligation to switch the bill to her name. He can simply shut it off and let her obtain the service in her name. Sure it needs a deposit and thats unfortunate but you cant make people "do the right thing". 

 

The right thing would be for him to switch the service to her. But again, he dosent have to do the right thing.

 

Probably when they married SHE switched the service to his name to help with AOS paperwork. Now the account is HIS and he doesnt have to give it back. She will have to get new service and pay the deposit since he wont.

 

(a lot of times these kinds of things can/should be handled in the divorce. Esp if you know the other person can or is being difficult. However they didnt seem to address joint bills in their divorce sadly.)

OP said she had this account for many years but added him to it to show co mingling for the K1.
Now they won't take him off. It has always been her account.
I did not address any joint utility accounts either, never crossed my mind, just financial accounts.
I took my ex off my utility account without any problems, some towns make this difficult.
 

[Lemonslice 5,135]

15 minutes ago, Damara said:

I dont know why this thread is so messy. 

 

The ex husband is the account holder with the electric company for the OPs home. She may be listed on the account but she is not the account holder- he is. There is NO WAY for her to get the electric company to transfer HIS account into HER name with out him asking/telling them to. I dont see how a mayor or legal aid group can help with this.

 

I mean- if you have a utility bill in your name- you would be outraged (and righteously so) if the company took the bill out of your name and put in someone elses with out your direction to do so!! 

 

He attempted to cancel the electric service. The worker that came shouldve shut it off. They were being nice in giving the family a break and some time to get the service switched. But HE is under no obligation to switch the bill to her name. He can simply shut it off and let her obtain the service in her name. Sure it needs a deposit and thats unfortunate but you cant make people "do the right thing". 

 

The right thing would be for him to switch the service to her. But again, he dosent have to do the right thing.

 

Probably when they married SHE switched the service to his name to help with AOS paperwork. Now the account is HIS and he doesnt have to give it back. She will have to get new service and pay the deposit since he wont.

 

(a lot of times these kinds of things can/should be handled in the divorce. Esp if you know the other person can or is being difficult. However they didnt seem to address joint bills in their divorce sadly.)

Utility companies have people move and forget to disconnect, people die, people run away from apartments ALL THE TIME .  Switching an account to another name is usually not a problem (with tenants, I've done it dozens of time as they forget to notify all providers that they're moving out), provided you give them what is required (in this case, it seems they're asking her a security deposit, which she's refusing/unable to pay).   Sadly, divorces and separation are costly - money, energy, emotions...

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Ebunoluwa said:

OP, do as advised and contact the commander and/or a pro bono attorney OR pay the bill, close the account and
get a deposit for a new account (you may be able to transfer the previous deposit to the new one.
Show them evidence that he called to cut off your service.

Block the Ghana numbers.
You may never know why he is not taking his name off, he may be clueless on how things work here in regards to

utility companies.
Glad you moved on, sorry you had to go through this and it's ok to vent about this, it's frustrating to have a cling -on
messing up your name and credit.
 

Thank you. I was told that if I show them the final divorce decree I could be able to do it, later I wss told I was misinformed. He would have to sign off. That was the only reason it wasn't written in. Other than that I wss happy to sign my divorce papers.  Like a weight off my shoulders. They sent him several emails because he is in another state.  He will not sign it.   I was like F it. I will Just. Continue to pay the Bill. I am on call 24/7 on my job. My children are home at times alone. To call the electric company to have my power Switch off while my kids  are there along is Just low down.  I will get this done.  Again this was one things of many since the divorce.  I am getting back on track,  He has tried to mess up my credit and my name.  Determine to get this done.  

[Michael and Ganna 105]

Instead of wasting time with this thread, lawyers and the riffraff. Just write a letter to his military company commander. Believe me you will see action to your request....Good luck

 

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Ebunoluwa said:

OP said she had this account for many years but added him to it to show co mingling for the K1.
Now they won't take him off. It has always been her account.
I did not address any joint utility accounts either, never crossed my mind, just financial accounts.
I took my ex off my utility account without any problems, some towns make this difficult.
 

I really thought it would be easy.  Had this account for years.  Even when they said all he had to do was sign and return. I really thought no problems.....this is crazy.  The joint account wasn't hard to closed. I talk to the bank about my situation and it was over.  I am determined now more than ever get this done. I will update later today. Crossing finger.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

Agree the whole thing is both weird and nothing to do with Immigration.

 

I would have thought most posting on this thread have had to set up new accounts when moving. No biggie.

Not sure what account you are referring to.  I didn't move.  He lives in another state.   He probably has his own bills and deposit.  He was added to my account. K1 is showing joint accounts,  other things.   I will get this done one way or another.  You think this is weird, if you only knew...lol

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Lemonslice said:

Utility companies have people move and forget to disconnect, people die, people run away from apartments ALL THE TIME .  Switching an account to another name is usually not a problem (with tenants, I've done it dozens of time as they forget to notify all providers that they're moving out), provided you give them what is required (in this case, it seems they're asking her a security deposit, which she's refusing/unable to pay).   Sadly, divorces and separation are costly - money, energy, emotions...

I know what you mean about people leaving without paying.  I have never/would never do that. Those same people lose their security deposit, and this is in some cases put on your credit report. That's just not something I would do.  That will at times affect you from getting a job. Most companies check your credit report.  Here in my town if your family dies, you will have to bring a death certificate to turn the utility off.   Some people don't care how it will affect their life. My credit. affects my car insurance, home insurance, your credit period.  

[Penguin_ie 5,999]

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[CAPRICEJAH 19]

On 4/25/2017 at 9:13 AM, Penguin_ie said:

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Just wanted to write a update. I want to Thank the ones for the great advise. I Did get a chance to talk to my mayor and he  had the electric company to send him another notice. He has 30 days to respond. If not.....I will let it stay just like it is. After I explain to him about my issue with the deposit and losing my old deposit. He said he made sure they have noted that my ex will not be able to turn anything off.  He can take his nane off, but no authority to turn anything off.  I am fine with that.  I have no intention on moving, nor opening new accounts.  No more worrying about his nane.  If late, or skip a payment, it will reflect on both of our credit report. I wouldn't do that.  I know some of you saw this not a big deal,  until you have to deal with it....I pray you don't.  A peace of mind is priceless.  Now case closed👍

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

if i were you, I will let it default for 2 months . and lets see how quickly he will remove his name on the account..petty!