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5 Things My Ex-Husband Could Have Done To Save Our Marriage

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1. Make me feel special. The once girlfriend, me, used to feel treasured and important to the once boyfriend him. This is an all-to-common predicament of romantic relationships. The initial glow of dating brings out the best in all of us, and we see the best in each other. Over time, the feelings of excitement and admiration tend to fade behind the drudgery of everyday responsibilities and familiarity.

2. Help out. According to traditional gender roles, the man works outside the home and completes more manly jobs, such as mowing the lawn, while the wife cares for the children and the home. My relationship mirrored those ideals, with the exception that I also worked full time. My days became filled with running in circles working, taking care of children, and eventually being responsible for all of the household chores.

3. Make the marriage a priority. A marriage is like a flower that requires love and care to flourish. By the time we work eight hours or more in a day, sleep another eight hours at night, complete daily chores, and run around with the kids, theres not much husband-wife time left.

5. Break up with the porn habit. I understand that men like to look, and temptations for lust are everywhere. I wanted to please my husband and be available to him. We became out-of-sync when I often went to bed at about 9pm to be ready to get up early the next morning while he often stayed up past midnight. I discovered that after I went to sleep, he would stay up to watch porn.

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I agree with with the above.


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Did you read the comment section? The people don't she with her.

Nope. I only read the section you posted on VJ


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Porn is not good for marriage IMO


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I looked at them. I'm starting to think men are more thin skinned than women...


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What's the fascination with men and porn anyway? Especially if you're married?

Because, in some marriages, it's either one of two things:

1. After the fire burns down(in her case) routine takes over. As she stated, she was too tired for anything else outside of the kids, which led for him to watch porn behind her back. Since he couldn't be with her, he turned to the next best thing in his case.

2. If you're not into the person you married, sex won't come as easy nor be as eventful. You can love a person, but without that passion, that fire, there will be problems down the road.

Remember what I said, when you look at a person with those you complete eyes, that's something you want to keep as long as you can.

Um, this is the secret that all women know :secret:

I'm just saying, I looked at the comments and all these dudes in they feelings for a guy they don't even know. She even went as far as to blame herself for some of the demise and they still roasting her.


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Why is it so painful for the man to help a little with the kids and the house so that the woman will have enough energy and time to break him off some?

It's such a logical solution

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Why is it so painful for the man to help a little with the kids and the house so that the woman will have enough energy and time to break him off some?

It's such a logical solution

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I'm one of those people who doesn't think porn consumption is a problem if it's not done behind the other partner's back, and it doesn't impair one's sex life (either through preferring porn over sex, or demanding that sex be like porn). Some people like porn or find it useful at times to, uh, hurry things along, and others don't. It's not always the man that the greater consumer. ;)

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