Back to VJ!

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Well, this might be rather shocking to the older VJ peeps! BUT! Im back and divorced. Kinda awkward even saying that but its for the best. Would have been 10 years of marriage this coming July. For those of you who dont know of me, my ex is from Egypt and we married over there in July 2006 and filed the k3. Adam came here in Jan 2008. He didnt scam me or anything like that but he lived a very selfish life, unhappy with everyone and everything which really thats something inside of him he needs to deal with which led to me filing for divorce and it being final on May 13th.

Now, im going to Egypt to get engaged to a guy that I've known & been friends with for 13 months. Never were we anything as a couple until after Adam said "divorce" and I said ok im giving you the divorce. So, my trip is planned for June 17-July 2 to be in Egypt and spend 2 weeks there getting to know Lukes family/friends and have an engagement party with his family/friends and mine. Then, we will file for the k1 fiance visa as I dont plan on getting married in Egypt again (unless absolutely necessary). So, thats where I am for now and why Im back. I should delete me and adams picture off here or just start a new VJ profile... Im not really sure how things work since Im newly divorced but moving on in life.

~Tamara

Edited May 18, 2016 by ~PalmTreeGurl~

[MadeinIndia 2]

Okay, trying to understand...If your divorce is final...why would you still want your ex's picture in your profile? Legally you are free to marry anyone you want but if you have a history of marrying foreigners and bringing them here, there could be a closer scrutiny (It's just my opinion, might not be the case) Btw, are you Egyptian?

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

I dont have a "history" of marrying foreigners. No, im not Egyptian. Im an American who was married to an Egyptian and the marriage of almost 10 years didnt work out. In the mean time, yes Im free to marry but im not in a hurry to marry right now. I'm fine with getting engaged to someone that loves me and I love too who happens to be in Egypt where tons of my friends are from. I havent been on VJ in forever so I was giving a little back history to those who are new. Sure, I can delete Adams picture off here and probably will do that sooner than later since we arent married any more. OR maybe I'll just start a new fresh VJ page.

[coffeeAdict 6]

You said you wouldn't get married in Egypt unless absolutely necessary, may I ask why?

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

I have already married there 10 years ago & the marriage process in Egypt turned me off. I'd rather get engaged there with his family and friends & mine and marry him in the USA our American way.

[MadeinIndia 2]

I dont have a "history" of marrying foreigners. No, im not Egyptian. Im an American who was married to an Egyptian and the marriage of almost 10 years didnt work out. In the mean time, yes Im free to marry but im not in a hurry to marry right now. I'm fine with getting engaged to someone that loves me and I love too who happens to be in Egypt where tons of my friends are from. I havent been on VJ in forever so I was giving a little back history to those who are new. Sure, I can delete Adams picture off here and probably will do that sooner than later since we arent married any more. OR maybe I'll just start a new fresh VJ page.

Well it is up to you what you want in your profile picture and if you want to change it here, it is simple, go to your profile and change the picture, or till you are ready to upload another picture, you can always keep the profile blank, no need to create a whole new page.

As for "history", I did not mean a whole load of previous instances, even once sets a precedent and the second time too you are marrying an Egyptian and sponsoring his visa, so that makes two similar cases. Of course there is nothing wrong in it but I am just trying to look at it from a USCIS perspective so one can be better prepared. I wish you all the best!

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Welcome back ! Sorry it didn't work out with the ex and wishing you the best for the future !
A previous 10 year marriage with a foreigner has no bearing on the next petition, whereas a short marriage, quick divorce and

quick new relationship would be a red flag. This is not the case in your circumstance.

[Beth & Achraf 328]

Well, this might be rather shocking to the older VJ peeps! BUT! Im back and divorced. Kinda awkward even saying that but its for the best. Would have been 10 years of marriage this coming July. For those of you who dont know of me, my ex is from Egypt and we married over there in July 2006 and filed the k3. Adam came here in Jan 2008. He didnt scam me or anything like that but he lived a very selfish life, unhappy with everyone and everything which really thats something inside of him he needs to deal with which led to me filing for divorce and it being final on May 13th.

Now, im going to Egypt to get engaged to a guy that I've known & been friends with for 13 months. Never were we anything as a couple until after Adam said "divorce" and I said ok im giving you the divorce. So, my trip is planned for June 17-July 2 to be in Egypt and spend 2 weeks there getting to know Lukes family/friends and have an engagement party with his family/friends and mine. Then, we will file for the k1 fiance visa as I dont plan on getting married in Egypt again (unless absolutely necessary). So, thats where I am for now and why Im back. I should delete me and adams picture off here or just start a new VJ profile... Im not really sure how things work since Im newly divorced but moving on in life.

~Tamara

Im so sorry Tamara, and deeply shocked, I thought you and Adam were rock solid.

Beth

Edited May 19, 2016 by Beth & Achraf

[Beth & Achraf 328]

I have already married there 10 years ago & the marriage process in Egypt turned me off. I'd rather get engaged there with his family and friends & mine and marry him in the USA our American way.

A lot of running around before hand for stamps and authenticity, and a 2 minute ceremony, basically consists of signing your name 5 times. Don't even resemble a marriage ceremony, but then again, its a contract........

[Boiler 43,545]

You have known each other for 13 months, so where was that?

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending. Congratulations on knowing it was time to get out....and not staying in a unhealthy relationship.

Great news about a two week vacation to Egypt. Stay safe and I hope you have a nice time.

But GF How do you think you can tell in two weeks if this new man wont also " live a very selfish life, unhappy with everyone and everything" or become someone worse Once you go through the process again? Maybe I read it wrong but it sounds fast to go into another visa process so soon.

You look young, sound educated in your writings, and seem a good person from reading/being with you on VJ for years....Take your time.

OH and send pics...I love travel.

editted to put unhealthy relationship I had healthy which would have made crazy sense...hahaha

Edited May 20, 2016 by Inluv

[Beth & Achraf 328]

Well, this might be rather shocking to the older VJ peeps! BUT! Im back and divorced. Kinda awkward even saying that but its for the best. Would have been 10 years of marriage this coming July. For those of you who dont know of me, my ex is from Egypt and we married over there in July 2006 and filed the k3. Adam came here in Jan 2008. He didnt scam me or anything like that but he lived a very selfish life, unhappy with everyone and everything which really thats something inside of him he needs to deal with which led to me filing for divorce and it being final on May 13th.

Now, im going to Egypt to get engaged to a guy that I've known & been friends with for 13 months. Never were we anything as a couple until after Adam said "divorce" and I said ok im giving you the divorce. So, my trip is planned for June 17-July 2 to be in Egypt and spend 2 weeks there getting to know Lukes family/friends and have an engagement party with his family/friends and mine. Then, we will file for the k1 fiance visa as I dont plan on getting married in Egypt again (unless absolutely necessary). So, thats where I am for now and why Im back. I should delete me and adams picture off here or just start a new VJ profile... Im not really sure how things work since Im newly divorced but moving on in life.

~Tamara

Tamara, you had a 10 year marriage, that lasted wayyyy longer then most I've seen here on VJ. There is no way a CO can say it was fraud or if you were

being scammed, that is not the case at all.

I feel you will be okay, they may question why a engagement so soon after a divorce, but I can name a few who got engaged or married before ink was dry

on their divorce decree. I wish you the very best on this new chapter of your life.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Hey Beth and InLuv.

Yah, We had 10 years together and many good times but Adam did some really selfish messed up stuff and I had to do what was best for my health and life. He knows he screwed up. He was even telling my mom/family he was gonna fix his life and do whats right but that didnt even happen.

With Luke, I've been friends with him for 13 months and through a religion study group that we were a apart of. He works for an American company and loves people!!! He works with elderly over the phone, doc offices/nurses. Loves children too. He does not have a selfish personality and is completely opposite of Adam in maturity and financial responsibility.

I will for sure take lots of pictures. We are really excited to get to spend 2 weeks together over there. He's planning the engagement party and his family, friends and my friends will be a part of it and they are all so excited!

Adam never made an effort financially for us to have children or even get himself checked to see if he was the reason also that we didnt have children. All he did was blame me for not having kids. Also, Adam never made an effort for family gatherings with my family bcz he doesnt like people. He doesnt like his own family, he doesnt like my family, he doesnt make friends. It was literally him and I 90% of our marriage. And when he gets mad at any situation he would take it out on me even if it had nothing to do with me. And nothing was good enough for him. He had to have the expensive clothes, expensive cars, expensive electronics, never eat left overs ect. He got himself into $15,000 cc debt and then got me into $4600 debt without me knowing about it and his excuse was.... im sorry but....

He loves me but thats not good enough when his actions in some areas were unacceptable. Im not going into detail publicly on here with what took place in our marriage other than the minor things that were stated but it was enough for me to wake up and tell myself after he said 10 years of marriage wasnt worth it to him and a divorce was better... so i gave it to him. Spoiled, selfish and immature but he still loves me and its over.

Edited May 21, 2016 by ~PalmTreeGurl~

[Beth & Achraf 328]

I understand, and your business =marriage is your business and yours alone. I hope your doing okay with all of this, and wish you only happiness and health in life.

Remember I'm only down the road, and a coffee shop away, give me call one day.

Beth

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

You did your best. You are done. Take his pic off.

hahaha