Need a dvice please

[lucho562 0]

Sorry bro, but end it now. Easier said than done, however its a must. Find innerstrength. Cut all ties with this woman. Do not communicate with her at all. If you keep talking with her, chances are you will forgive her and let her back into your life. Ask yourself, how can you look her in the face knowing that she slept with another person. Hate to be so blunt, but you need this. You deserve better, we all do.

[brnidokiegurl 1]

Its a trust issue, most on here are seperated from their special person, she just wasnt ready for the seperation issue. Money talks and there will always be someone around to offer it. You owe nothing. Sorry

[reach449 2]

I agree with everyone. I am so sorry that this has happened to you. But she has shown her "true colors". Of all the things for her to do; this has to be the worst. Trust is extremely important in a relationship and perhaps even more in all of our situations, with the miles and the wait between us all here at VJ.

If she has broke the trust now, do you really want to take the chance with her later on? I would say move on and don't let her threats of suicide bother you. She is just trying to manipulate you. You deserve better.

Randy

[davort 0]

Sorry bro, but end it now. Easier said than done, however its a must. Find innerstrength. Cut all ties with this woman. Do not communicate with her at all. If you keep talking with her, chances are you will forgive her and let her back into your life. Ask yourself, how can you look her in the face knowing that she slept with another person. Hate to be so blunt, but you need this. You deserve better, we all do.

Thank you, for all your comments. this is what she wrote me before she go:

Hny i sad coz i cant hear ur voice in a week end ill

miss u. Tommorow i will fly plz pray 4 me. Im afraid

with height. I love u hun i will send u email b4 i fly

n will try send u too in sing if it available. Im so

sad now. Ill miss u my love. Te amo xxx

And this is one of the e-mils they share:

Would you please check with some first time indonesian traveller to Singapore if you need a visa before hand? I understand you may get visa for Singapore for 5 days on arrival, but you need to have some documents like purpose, forward and return tickets (that i will arrange), hotel booking confirmation (that i will do), and documents to support enough finance etc.

So please talk to other people who have been there, since immigaration officer at SIN airport would definitely ask you the purpose of visit etc etc. And you shall be required to fill the application form at the airport too for SIN visa. Would you need a invitation letter or so or anything like that at that time? confirm all this, then in totality I will arrange all the things for you. But first I need to be clear what you must have to get SIN visa. I know for indonesians it is much easier and not a problem, still it would be good that you verify all things and get all information. Okay my luv.

luv u.

I feel very sad because I done many things for here I was also suporting her becaue she did not mke anoug money there I send her 130dls plus 22 for sending this every two weeks. Plust as you know I was requesting a visa waiver due of a disability I have so I pay a lawyers 1000dls for this too plust I had sen ther the ring and some gifts. I really feel like dying. How can did she do this to me? This guy that slep with her is very nice she never talk bad about her. He told me that she is a very caring girl and that I will not find a woman that has not sleep with a man before that if I love her just keep going with the prosses but Just imagine her with him breaks my heart. he even told me that she has good skills to satisfy a man well this is the unswer he gave me when I ask hem to tell me the true is she sleep with him. Do I need to do anythings to cacel the k1 prosses or if will cancel automatically when I not repply back to cis? Thanks for all your support I hope she will not convince me to go back with her. I not what to belive her anymore...

[JenT 0]

Sad, davort, very sad. I'm sorry for your loss.

You can phone USCIS and tell them that you are abandoning your petition. No further action is required.

[Sweet Love 0]

Sorry bro, but end it now. Easier said than done, however its a must. Find innerstrength. Cut all ties with this woman. Do not communicate with her at all. If you keep talking with her, chances are you will forgive her and let her back into your life. Ask yourself, how can you look her in the face knowing that she slept with another person. Hate to be so blunt, but you need this. You deserve better, we all do.

Thank you, for all your comments. this is what she wrote me before she go:

Hny i sad coz i cant hear ur voice in a week end ill

miss u. Tommorow i will fly plz pray 4 me. Im afraid

with height. I love u hun i will send u email b4 i fly

n will try send u too in sing if it available. Im so

sad now. Ill miss u my love. Te amo xxx

And this is one of the e-mils they share:

Would you please check with some first time indonesian traveller to Singapore if you need a visa before hand? I understand you may get visa for Singapore for 5 days on arrival, but you need to have some documents like purpose, forward and return tickets (that i will arrange), hotel booking confirmation (that i will do), and documents to support enough finance etc.

So please talk to other people who have been there, since immigaration officer at SIN airport would definitely ask you the purpose of visit etc etc. And you shall be required to fill the application form at the airport too for SIN visa. Would you need a invitation letter or so or anything like that at that time? confirm all this, then in totality I will arrange all the things for you. But first I need to be clear what you must have to get SIN visa. I know for indonesians it is much easier and not a problem, still it would be good that you verify all things and get all information. Okay my luv.

luv u.

I feel very sad because I done many things for here I was also suporting her becaue she did not mke anoug money there I send her 130dls plus 22 for sending this every two weeks. Plust as you know I was requesting a visa waiver due of a disability I have so I pay a lawyers 1000dls for this too plust I had sen ther the ring and some gifts. I really feel like dying. How can did she do this to me? This guy that slep with her is very nice she never talk bad about her. He told me that she is a very caring girl and that I will not find a woman that has not sleep with a man before that if I love her just keep going with the prosses but Just imagine her with him breaks my heart. he even told me that she has good skills to satisfy a man well this is the unswer he gave me when I ask hem to tell me the true is she sleep with him. Do I need to do anythings to cacel the k1 prosses or if will cancel automatically when I not repply back to cis? Thanks for all your support I hope she will not convince me to go back with her. I not what to belive her anymore...

Davort!

I feel more sad after read those above. huuuu. It makes me cry.

I can't believe there is a girl like her.

You are so very nice, kind and sweet man (from what you did to her).......

It seems never enough to her. The man is nice that he told you the truth about her.

She played love games to you and him (not sure if there is someone else). And still playing that game with you.

Be clear-sighted; lucid; perspicacious; politic; sagacious; judicious......

She is not deser for you and any man.

*Big hugs*

--Hang.

[Sweet Love 0]

Call USCIS or you can ask your laywer help you to cancel it. Do it before it's too late and Start YOUR NEW LIFE again. It never late.

Hope everything will be fine and hear happy things from you soon.

[lucho562 0]

Davort,

Be strong and end it now. We all support you. I hope you find the strength to do the right thing.

[Ban Hammer 14,598]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

flush that #######.

[Lizzy 0]

" Quote:He told me that she is a very caring girl and that I will not find a woman that has not sleep with a man before that if I love her just keep going with the prosses but Just imagine her with him breaks my heart. he even told me that she has good skills to satisfy a man: Quote

What the hell!!! Did you actually talk to the man who slept with your fiancee?

Get out.. run, don't walk... call USCIS and tell them to stop the petition..... I am gobsmacked.

[sereia 0]

...NEXTTTTTTTTTTTTTT! Kick her to the curb. Seriously.

So sorry you went through this. You don't deserve a woman like that! Be strong. *hug*

[bostonparis 0]

No matter how long I live, people continue to surprise me. I'm disgusted reading what this woman did (to you, and to herself). She prostituted herself, for what? It's just gross. I'm sorry for you and your situation, but you will find someone who loves you for you, not for the reason that you can bring her into the US.

Best wishes.

[Fandango 1,440]

I thought this thead was called 'i need a device'

OP, she didn't just cheat...she pimped herself out for money. But these are all our opinions, and tbh, you already know what you're going to do. To us, it's crystal clear what you should do...and the fact that you started this thread makes me think you came here hoping to hear 'oh give her a chance...blah blah blah' If that's the case, I'm sorry you didn't get what you are looking for.

You need to do some soul searching on what kind of woman you want by your side. The money you wasted now will be nothing compared to the money you'll lose later should you continue. But if it's ok to you to have a woman who whores herself out for money even though you're already sending her some....to have one lie to your face (you know what I mean) and deny until you show her you have the proof...well, that's not much of a person imo...and I'd rather be alone than with someone like that.

I'm sorry you're going thru this...keep strong! This too shall pass!

[archie07 0]

Hi Guys, I'm a december filer and I don't know if I want to keep going with the prosses. This is what happend. I found out that my fiance was unfaiful to me. She said that she travel to singapore for a working purpose and I found that she really went there to spend a weekend with a guy. I feel really bad because I was taking things seriously with her. I can't not sleep because of this. There is not doubt that she sleep with this guy. One of my fiancee cousing knows her pass word and she feel bad of what she was doing to me and she told her that she gave her 24hours to tell me the real reasons she went to singapore or she will tell me the true. so my fiance all wasy said that she did not sleep with this guys so what I did write the guy that was with her and singapore and he told me that yes that she spent the weekend with him. That he paid her for the ticket and give her 250dls. Then I thought that her couising should know more about this history and she did sent me a e-mail where she wasn sending him her pass port and tell him that she can not wait to be with him. This really broke my heart. Afther I show her the e-mail with the pass port that she sent to him she admited and told me that she god blind with money that she does not know what she was doing...A few hours ago I talked to her in the camera and she was crying and told me that she will kill herself if I liave her....could anyone tell me what I should do? After this all that is in my mind is that if she love me she should not had done this to me....please help.......should I just stop talking with her? she is being calling me and calling me trying to get my forgiveness

Sure sounds like you have a prostitute for a girlfriend. If she travels for money, I would wonder what she does in her home town. Your petitioning her for marraige and she is vacationing with other men. She definitely gets around. The answer to your question here would be can you accept this type of behavior? If so, then let it go, if not, then say goodbye.

[BgnElf 0]

Well, ultimatly, you have to ask yourself one thing. What would you do in her situation? If a woman came up to you and invited you to a hotel, would you join her? If the answer is yes, then you are not ready to get married. My guess, however, is that you would say no. You are intelligent enough not to put yourself in that position. If you go on in this relationship she will probably cheat again. It is not a certainty, but those who cheat tend to do it again and again. I would recommend you end this relationship. Perhaps one day she will be ready to get married, but that day has yet to come.