New May Support and Rant

[Soloenta 2,218]

Welcome to the May Support and Rant Thread, we are hear to help and comfort each other through this very difficult and arduous journey. You can complain, get angry and cry here you can ask questions and we will do our best to answer them but links below will be helpful to you in this process please use them. Also feel free to be happy and announce good news of any kind we are here for each other happy or sad.
There is no such thing as off topic here, this is your thread, we are family and will stand by your side when you need us.

Please no negativity we are under enough stress to deal with it ty.

***** If you need questions answered during your NVC processing please go to the NVC Filers - May 2015 thread:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/547081-nvc-filers-may-2015/

Please on this http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/547081-nvc-filers-may-2015/ study the first page
If link above doesn't work please enter NVC Filers - April 2015 in VJ search and you'll find it there.
Saylin aka has for you

it is full of very helpful information you will need for this part of the process, read it over and over again.

When you are done with NVC and receive Case Complete you will need to go to Dwheels thread, for those waiting for
interviews she's a sweet heart and is extremely helpful, link: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/547122-june-2015-interviews/
If link above doesn't work please enter May 2015 Interview in VJ search and you'll find it there.
Please also read the first page here carefully so you will be prepared and it will answer a lot of you questions.

Please call Her Dwheelsness her Majesty or just plain Her Dwheelsness She is royalty you know.

Let the games begin. This way

NOTHING IS OFF TOPIC ON THIS THREAD!

Links for Emotecons use them as freely as you wish.
http://www.sherv.net/emoticons.html
http://www.freesmileys.org/
http://yoursmiles.org/index.php
http://www.picgifs.com/smileys/

Edited May 1, 2015 by Soloenta

[Maharosa 251]

I'm Heeeeeeeeeeeere! This is my 7th thread... Really, I can't believe I'm still here.

[JennyLu 65]

what do you do when you're at the end of your rope?? I try to stay positive but frankly I don't even want to be positive anymore! I want to be angry! I'm so sick & tired of saying..."it'll come when the time is right" ? I want the time to be now!!! Is that so stinking much to ask!!!??? I just want our interview date to be scheduled so I can REALLY see an end to this nvc nightmare!! I'm so done with it all!!! ?

[Maharosa 251]

what do you do when you're at the end of your rope?? I try to stay positive but frankly I don't even want to be positive anymore! I want to be angry! I'm so sick & tired of saying..."it'll come when the time is right" ? I want the time to be now!!! Is that so stinking much to ask!!!??? I just want our interview date to be scheduled so I can REALLY see an end to this nvc nightmare!! I'm so done with it all!!! ?

You need to let it all out, whether it is by yelling, turning the music up and singing at the top of your lungs, punching a punching bag, crying your eyes out, or all of the above, you just need to let the waves of emotions out. At the end of it all, you will eventually find peace again, even if it is only temporary.

I do this on a regular basis. Have a total meltdown, then I am fine again for a couple weeks, until I just can't hold in anymore.

[JennyLu 65]

You need to let it all out, whether it is by yelling, turning the music up and singing at the top of your lungs, punching a punching bag, crying your eyes out, or all of the above, you just need to let the waves of emotions out. At the end of it all, you will eventually find peace again, even if it is only temporary.

I do this on a regular basis. Have a total meltdown, then I am fine again for a couple weeks, until I just can't hold in anymore.

Thanks! That's exactly what I need to do! I've always been the one who holds it all together but I think it's time for me to let loose!! Yep...think I'll go out in the back yard and take a stick to a tree!! Then cry...lol!! Thanks for the reminder that it's ok...and probably necessary, to loose it once in a while!!

[glamgirl88 38]

I feel really down today and have been crying all week. I can't concentrate on work and feel extremely stressed, I am getting restless legs syndrome because of this. I know most people here have been waiting way longer but I just don't know how to feel any bettr. My hubby is stuck, if he accepts a job he will need to sign a contract and if he starts school he would be wasting the semester if he has to immigrate in between. We are not sure how long this would take and can't make any plans. Hubby is extremely depressed him due to being far from me and not getting anywhere. I am currently working for home but I cannot relocate to Pakistan with my current employer. I have found jobs that are purely remote and can be done anywhere in the world in my field but I haven't been considered for them yet.

I am thinking about asking for my hubbys passport back from the Embassy and try to have him apply for a visit visa. It wouldn't hurt to try even if he has 1% chance. It's only been a month but it seems like a year already, I don't know how not to be glued to the CEAC website. I am hoping for the best but seeing my hubby in stress and depression is making it all worse for me. I wish I could hug him and be with him at least during this time.

[glamgirl88 38]

I feel so much energy stuck inside me recently, I scream and cry, I turn on the music and sing on top of my lungs too and punch around but nothing helps. I think I will finally openly scream in happiness when my husbands visa says "Issued" instead of AP.

[glamgirl88 38]

@JennyLu

I feel you I can understand what it must feel like to wait so long for an interview. I hope you spouse gets an interview super fast. All the staying positive and everything, only we know how frustrating it sounds when we hear it. I feel like I always hold everything together too and I am going crazy now that it's not in my hands. I just hope all goes through well for you, I will keep you in my prayers. All we can do is scream, cry, act crazy and stay positive. I visualize the "Issued" screen everyday in CEAC.

[glamgirl88 38]

@Maharosa

I hope and pray that a day comes so fast where you never have to come back to one of these threads. I am with you, I have a total meltdown, do all the screaming, punching, crying, acting crazy singing weird stuff and then I am okay for couple of weeks.

However, now I want it done just to have my husband feeling better. I appreciate him so much and cannot bear see him go through this. He has waited 15 years for me and I wished I would've started this earlier and I wish I had known it would take so long. I just want to make him feel better and be with him, he had his career on hold and I just wish I could control this.

I wish that the govt realizes what we are going through, my hubby has no bad record of any kind but has a common last name. I just hope and pray that soon enough you don't have to come back here and pray that your case is resolved soon. Love and Hugs for you!!!!

[Maharosa 251]

@Maharosa

I hope and pray that a day comes so fast where you never have to come back to one of these threads. I am with you, I have a total meltdown, do all the screaming, punching, crying, acting crazy singing weird stuff and then I am okay for couple of weeks.

However, now I want it done just to have my husband feeling better. I appreciate him so much and cannot bear see him go through this. He has waited 15 years for me and I wished I would've started this earlier and I wish I had known it would take so long. I just want to make him feel better and be with him, he had his career on hold and I just wish I could control this.

I wish that the govt realizes what we are going through, my hubby has no bad record of any kind but has a common last name. I just hope and pray that soon enough you don't have to come back here and pray that your case is resolved soon. Love and Hugs for you!!!!

Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm really struggling just thinking I have been at this process for 6 1/2 months and 6 of those months have been at the NVC. I don't understand why USCIS even bothers to expedite cases just for them to get hung up with the NVC. 10 1/2 weeks since case complete still no sign of an interview. It's so depressing...

[glamgirl88 38]

@Maharosa

I bet it is. NVC was not too long for but even I was going crazy, 6.5 months at NVC is just retarted and way too excessive. It's 60 days for them to review so what's taking them so long? Try to speak to a manager, did you get an RFE that delayed the process? I would be depressed too if I was in your situation so I completely understand. We have our life on hold and these people just don't understand.

[glamgirl88 38]

@Maharosa

NVC received my case from USCIS on August 18th and I was finally scheduled for an interview on February 5th I believe. They clearly need to hire more people because they can't do their work on time.

[glamgirl88 38]

I kept sending them expedite letter even at NVC and even though they didn't approve even though I had a legit strong reason, but I think it got them to keep looking at my application. I literally cried on the phone with a manager because the system showed my IV application was not complete even though I had completed it 4 months prior and 2-3 days after that converstion my interview was scheduled. I don't know if it was just time or that manager actually looked into it, she actually called me back after I hung up and she said to submit it again and she will look at it.

[Maharosa 251]

@Maharosa

I bet it is. NVC was not too long for but even I was going crazy, 6.5 months at NVC is just retarted and way too excessive. It's 60 days for them to review so what's taking them so long? Try to speak to a manager, did you get an RFE that delayed the process? I would be depressed too if I was in your situation so I completely understand. We have our life on hold and these people just don't understand.

We had no checklists, we submitted our documents as soon as our AOS fee was paid, we completed each step as soon as it was available. They reviewed our documents 62 days after they were submitted. Spoke to a supervisor a couple of times but that didn't make a difference. Requested expedite several times based on the reason USCIS approved our expedite but have continually been denied. I even tried after case complete on 2/17 but still nothing. You're right, they don't understand.

[Karmalious 50]

C'mon Nebraska, I seek a quick NOA2!!!!!

Edited May 2, 2015 by Karmalious