Help, my husband has turned into mean person.

[pam31037 0]

My husband has now became this alcoholic, non working, lying, cheating man! He is wanting me to move out our home! He has been here 14 months now. He said he dont have to go back to morocco even though its not been 2 years. I want to revoke my sponsorship. Im also filing for divorce.

What are the steps for me to revoke my sponsorship?

How do I notify imigration of him, or do I?

Do I need to do anything else???

Desperate for answers...

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You can't revoke your sponsorship. If you proof of fraud report it. Otherwise move on

[pam31037 0]

I have found him on dating sites, saying he is single man, I have found him on sites since couple months after he arrived. Is this something I should report?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Yes that could imply that on his part the relationship isn't real and he married you for a green card. There are contacts on the bottom of the page to report fraud to.

[pam31037 0]

Thank you for the info, I ll report the dating sites he is on.

Any more info anyone has, or ideas to do, Id be interested in hearing.

I dont see where to report the fraud?

[Possiblymaybe 371]

If he has a green card, then he's right in that he does not have to go back to morocco. If you sponsored him for that green card, then you can not revoke that sponsorship.

Immigration is not like Walmart. Your husband cannot be returned because you no longer like him or because he no longer works as was advertised.

[Novembro 1,763]

Thank you for the info, I ll report the dating sites he is on.

Any more info anyone has, or ideas to do, Id be interested in hearing.

I dont see where to report the fraud?

VisaJourney.com recommends that if any member or user knows directly of someone involved in fraudulent or illegal activity, that they report such activity directly to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration and Customs Enforcement. You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423.

[NikLR 13,220]

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[MrMadCat 18]

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.

If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?

I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?

You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

Edited July 3, 2014 by MrMadCat

[flora01 37]

My husband has now became this alcoholic, non working, lying, cheating man! He is wanting me to move out our home! He has been here 14 months now. He said he dont have to go back to morocco even though its not been 2 years. I want to revoke my sponsorship. Im also filing for divorce.

What are the steps for me to revoke my sponsorship?

How do I notify imigration of him, or do I?

Do I need to do anything else???

Desperate for answers...

To be on dating site stating you are single when you are not completely not justified on both parts no matter what's the issue in marriage. Only a cheater goes to dating site after being married. If its your home nobody can force you to leave. If you are not happy with your married life and have proof of husband cheating on you, you can file for divorce on this basis. You can notify immigration by mailing letter stating that you found your husband cheating and got to know that he married you only for green card (make sure you have enough strong proofs to prove it). You can't cancel sponsorship at this stage but these things will defenitely harm to his immigration status. Keep all the records of him abusing you or your family.

I strongly believe you can't think of your future with cheater so better take decisions at this stage.

Edited July 3, 2014 by flora01

[MrMadCat 18]

To be on dating site stating you are single when you are not completely not justified on both parts no matter what's the issue in marriage. Only a cheater goes to dating site after being married. If its your home nobody can force you to leave. If you are not happy with your married life and have proof of husband cheating on you, you can file for divorce on this basis. You can notify immigration by mailing letter stating that you found your husband cheating and got to know that he married you only for green card (make sure you have enough strong proofs to prove it). You can't cancel sponsorship at this stage but these things will defenitely harm to his immigration status. Keep all the records of him abusing you or your family.

I strongly believe you can't think of your future with cheater so better take decisions at this stage.

The thing is though, it's a game of both people wanting to do bad things to each other in a way. How can you suggest he's a cheater, when the op is trying to play the game too and get him punished? She has admitted her evidence is not strong against him (on a betrayal/scam level). She doesn't even know what's truly going on. This is a case for marriage counselling or divorce, not "I think our marriage is over now I want to destroy your life because you hurt me". I understand where you are coming from but we don't know the whole story.

Perhaps after marriage he learned that his wife was not whom he expected her to be, and vice versa. Yeah it's not cool to list on a dating site as single, but it ain't cool to try to ruin his new life either. As an immigrant myself I see both people as doing bad behavior and showing signs of inability to handle married life here. Their conversations as described seem more like roommates, and that's coming from both sides. Something ain't right about this and I'm not going to point fingers at the immigrant, only advise the damage that can be caused. And if it backfires, he can make the USC a misery. There's that affidavit of support thing, and if he does manage to fight it and eventually get his conditions removed, he could get some payback if he knew that his "ex" tried to ruin his life. It's a dangerous game to play and I think people should just move on, deal with their marriage/divorce and get on with life.

[user19000 18]

No, you can't revoke your sponsorship, just like you decided to have a child and then now the child's already here but doesn't behave the way you want it to, you wish you could put it back in but in fact you can't.

Best move would be to divorce and move on.

Good luck.

Thank you for the info, I ll report the dating sites he is on.

Any more info anyone has, or ideas to do, Id be interested in hearing.

I dont see where to report the fraud?

My USC ex was on dozens of dating sites since we were still married. Should I report him to the USCIS too?

[flora01 37]

The thing is though, it's a game of both people wanting to do bad things to each other in a way. How can you suggest he's a cheater, when the op is trying to play the game too and get him punished? She has admitted her evidence is not strong against him (on a betrayal/scam level). She doesn't even know what's truly going on. This is a case for marriage counselling or divorce, not "I think our marriage is over now I want to destroy your life because you hurt me". I understand where you are coming from but we don't know the whole story.

Perhaps after marriage he learned that his wife was not whom he expected her to be, and vice versa. Yeah it's not cool to list on a dating site as single, but it ain't cool to try to ruin his new life either. As an immigrant myself I see both people as doing bad behavior and showing signs of inability to handle married life here. Their conversations as described seem more like roommates, and that's coming from both sides. Something ain't right about this and I'm not going to point fingers at the immigrant, only advise the damage that can be caused. And if it backfires, he can make the USC a misery. There's that affidavit of support thing, and if he does manage to fight it and eventually get his conditions removed, he could get some payback if he knew that his "ex" tried to ruin his life. It's a dangerous game to play and I think people should just move on, deal with their marriage/divorce and get on with life.

Exactly, if you learn anytime in life that the person you married is not the one you loved the best step is divorce.

Searching someone on dating site while being married and stating single is called over-smartness, opportunist and cheating. Husband just wants to remain married for immigration purpose. If his status had been cleared, he must had dumped her after getting permanent GC. So technically he is waiting for time to dump her and searching another woman on a dating site. I don't understand the meaning of 'his new life'.

I never said that thinking about withdrawing sponsorship or ruining his life is justified on the part of OP. She can file for divorce on the basis of cheating or send letter to USCIS for the beneficiary's immigration intentions of marriage and move on in her life.

Thinking about ruining beneficiary's life after getting him/her here is completely wrong.

Edited July 3, 2014 by flora01

[otter~ 17]

I'm so sorry this happened.

If it is your own house, you don't have to go anywhere. If he is violent to you please report it to the police.

How soon did he start behaving this way? If this behavior started after receiving the GC then it does seem a bit iffy to me :/

Please stay safe!

[Avery Cates 1,141]

My husband has now became this alcoholic, non working, lying, cheating man! He is wanting me to move out our home! He has been here 14 months now. He said he dont have to go back to morocco even though its not been 2 years. I want to revoke my sponsorship. Im also filing for divorce.

What are the steps for me to revoke my sponsorship?

How do I notify imigration of him, or do I?

Do I need to do anything else???

Desperate for answers...

Wait, so... he's the immigrant, doesn't work, supposedly you do, and he wants YOU to move out of the house?