Would like your input

[solubode 0]

I just read the post on the woman who is 40 yrs older than her Nigerian fiance, let me tell you mine. My fiance is Nigerian and we are 24 years apart, we have been together for more then 4 years now. Although he is a Nigerian national he is currently living and going to school in Finland. I went to see him this past December and stayed with him for a month. We filed for a K-1 on May 13, 2013, and received our NOA1 on May 17, 2013, after reading all the post from everyone I was a little disheartened. We have talked at great lengths about the uphill battle that we are facing because he is from Nigeria. I plan on attending the interview when we get to that step and if for some reason it does not go our way I will be flying to Finland and we will marry and file for the CR-1 and he will continue attending school.

One of the questions I have is, now that he is in Finland does that play to our favor, since it is not about getting out of Nigeria, "high risk country". I would appreciate as much input and advise that you can give.

Thank you

[Penguin_ie 5,999]

It probably helps some, yes.

One question though: am I reading this right that you have been together for four years, but met in person only once? That would be a red flag.

[clairegie 265]

One of the questions I have is, now that he is in Finland does that play to our favor, since it is not about getting out of Nigeria, "high risk country". I would appreciate as much input and advise that you can give.

I dont know if it matters that he is in Finland. The purpose of the K1 visa is to move to your fiance's country in the first place, so in a sense, it is still getting out of Nigeria, but to join you. As long as you meet the requirements, and you are HONESTLY in love and have a bonafide relationship, you should be good.

Im curious though. If your petition gets approved, what are his plans about his studies? Did you file the K1 visa but wasn't intending to migrate immediately until after he finishes?

[Boiler 46,844]

Where is there a requirement to be in love?

[clairegie 265]

As long as you meet the requirements, and you are HONESTLY in love and have a bonafide relationship, you should be good.

Notice how I said as long as you meet the requirements, AND YOU ARE HONESTLY in love and have a bonafide relationship?

Where in that did I say as long as you meet the requirements that you're in love? Please dont put words in my mouth. I am trying to help someone. Please feel free to step in if you have any help to offer.

How ironic that your signature says "If you misread it that way, read again and do not put any spin on it.".

Take your own advice.

Edited September 3, 2013 by iammrsregi

[Boiler 46,844]

Answer my question, where is Love mentioned in FAM?

[solubode 0]

Thank you for the replies, YES! we are so much in love with one another and do meet the requirements of a bonafide relationship. We were together for about 3.5 years before we met and it was unfortunately my job working 16 - 18 hours a day kept me from visiting sooner, I found myself temporarily on disability because of the job and with that I took the opportunity to visit. He has just stated his 2 year of studies and wants to continue where he leaves off once he gets to the states and we are settled into our new lives.

[stevie b 141]

Answer my question, where is Love mentioned in FAM?

+1 !!!

and there you go another newbie in attack mode

[lost_at_sea 995]

What sort of evidence did you send with your I-129f petition to show bonafide relationship? That may give an indication of how your case may go.

[clairegie 265]

Answer my question, where is Love mentioned in FAM?

It is a requirement to prove you have a bonafide relationship, which means the visa isn't just for immigration purposes, you are filing the visa with the intent of marrying the person. Why do you marry a person? It is for love. Its called reading between the lines. If this does not define a bonafide relationship, I don't know what does. If you want to continue being a smart ### about it, feel free to do so. I hope you feel better about yourself by being rude to people who are just trying to help.

[dwheels76 5,484]

I just read the post on the woman who is 40 yrs older than her Nigerian fiance, let me tell you mine. My fiance is Nigerian and we are 24 years apart, we have been together for more then 4 years now. Although he is a Nigerian national he is currently living and going to school in Finland. I went to see him this past December and stayed with him for a month. We filed for a K-1 on May 13, 2013, and received our NOA1 on May 17, 2013, after reading all the post from everyone I was a little disheartened. We have talked at great lengths about the uphill battle that we are facing because he is from Nigeria. I plan on attending the interview when we get to that step and if for some reason it does not go our way I will be flying to Finland and we will marry and file for the CR-1 and he will continue attending school.

One of the questions I have is, now that he is in Finland does that play to our favor, since it is not about getting out of Nigeria, "high risk country". I would appreciate as much input and advise that you can give.

Thank you

One thing you have to realize is he is still a Nigerian and depending on how rough or easy a country is on a applicant thats something you really need to research.

have you read all the interview reviews for Finland to see how they are? I know like Malaysia is very hard on Nigerians. Russia not so much. So it depends.

And that brings me to this. It's all about your petition and how you presented. Did you front-load? What was your evidence?

Also your visits that is really not that great but it is a K1. One thing I can say K1 Visas when you are dealing with much older people doesn't have as much validity than a CR1/IR1. That shows commitment.

You saying he is doing his studies and will continue when he gets here. On a K1 you are talking about a 6 to 1 year or longer wait he will not be able to do anything. So that there shows how bad is schooling really to him. On a CR1/IR1 he can start school soon as he gets here.

Don't focus so much on age difference but focus on the visits and be able to address that and being within child-bearing years (it may never come up but just prepare).

I have many women friends 15 to 30 years older than their Nigerian husbands and age was never even brought up. But they presented a good petition. One was denied but got it together the second time around. The key I feel was they all spent good quality time with husbands in His country. And they were all married. Which speaks to commitment.

Since you say you went to Finland that means you have not meant his family? I know some women who husbands aren't living in Nigeria they still booked a trip to Nigeria to meet the families. That is #1 for Nigeria and really shows the bonafides you meet family, stayed in village or home or whatever and was accepted.

[godlove 29]

24 years different its not thesame to 40 years so you have a a better chance if you can prove a real relationship plus the fact that the interview is going to be in Finland and Nigeria might increase your chances too. I wish you the best and good luck

[Nurseling 34]

Godlove is right this much less than 40. If you have enough evidence you maybe in with a chance.

[solubode 0]

Thanks to all of you for your replies, I followed the VJ's members suggestion on the evidence that I front-loaded. Letters, photos, letter via snail mail, email, copies of my passport, copied of my flight information, all of your guys suggestion, I sent it. I visit with his family on skype all the time, we do a conference with them on a regular basis, but to have seen them in person - no. We had planned a trip for me to come to Nigeria but unfortunately the labor strike happened on the island and closed the airports and be had to abandon our plans.

I have read the reviews for Finland and they are all positive, he recently had a friend from Nigeria also studing there in Finland that was approved but do not know if it was a K-1 or CR-1, but whatever the case if not approved for the K1 we will get married and apply for the CR-1.

He understands that he will not be able to work or go to school until his status has changes and he is ok with that, if in the end we have to apply for the CR-1 by the time that is approved he probably will be done.

I'm hoping I will get our NOA2 soon and I will make my plans to attend the interview, all I can say is I love this name more than I have ever loved before and I will do what it takes to prove that, so your responses are valuable to me and I appreciate them.

[Janelle2002 3,865]

I have heard people say that even when their spouse or Nigerian fiancé was not in Nigeria they still had a rough time. Just be prepared to fight no matter what.

Then if you do not have to fight, you will have a pleasant surprise.