NEVER never never stay at parents even temporary

[jose_leti 7]

word of advice. if you plan on bringing your fiance over from where ever shes coming. never ever accept to stay at parents. make sure you line up a place of your own you will be better off. it may ruin your fiances life. cant get into details but holy #######. that was the worst mistake i have ever made. were good now. have our own place. pushing forward.

[patient2010 93]

Glad things are better now and that is good advice!

[bsd058 296]

word of advice. if you plan on bringing your fiance over from where ever shes coming. never ever accept to stay at parents. make sure you line up a place of your own you will be better off. it may ruin your fiances life. cant get into details but holy #######. that was the worst mistake i have ever made. were good now. have our own place. pushing forward.

Ya. In-laws create drama.

[jose_leti 7]

Ya. In-laws create drama.

you know after evertyhing that has happened. im happy wiht my life. my family will never accept the fact that i chose my fiance with 2 kids. who they constantly claim are not mine. yes. im not the biological father, but i still love these kids.

i love these 2 little guys and the little one has said i go where ever you go. it hurts me to see them suffer they left everything for me. they left their friends, school,

family only to come to the usa for me. im doing my best for them. at first things seemed ok while we lived at the parents basement. then my family just created all this drama. they claimed i give the kids to much attention. yet i am the father figure for them. they need my attention. so moral of the story is be prepared to fight for what you want because some people will never see things the way you do. and will never accept things the way they are.

visajourney family here is kida like my second family where you post stuff and just reading responses. helps make things easier.

[rlogan 2,036]

Unfortunately some people get satisfaction out of the power in making other people miserable. You remove that power by distancing yourself from them.

[bsd058 296]

Unfortunately some people get satisfaction out of the power in making other people miserable. You remove that power by distancing yourself from them.

Or by making fun of them...but that's only recommended in extreme circumstances. hehehe.

Edited November 21, 2012 by bsd058

[NikLR 13,220]

It really sucks when our family cannot support our decisions. My brother has decided he's not talking to me anymore because I'm moving to the USA. My daughter lives with her father and wants to stay in Canada. She's old enough IMO to decide with whom she wants to live. Will it forever change the relationship I have with her? Yes of course. Does it mean that we love each other less? Never.

I think it's wonderful that you want to be a good dad to these little boys. There is the saying that any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad. Keep up the good work. Let time prove your decision. All in all, I generally prefer the family I pick to be in my life than some of the ones who were just allocated in.

[EminTX 131]

It sounds like you had a great opportunity to show each of the the value they have and your commitment to them right there in the beginning. That in itself may be one of the best "welcome to the USA" gifts they could have gotten.

[JohnR! 5,495]

you know after evertyhing that has happened. im happy wiht my life. my family will never accept the fact that i chose my fiance with 2 kids. who they constantly claim are not mine. yes. im not the biological father, but i still love these kids.

i love these 2 little guys and the little one has said i go where ever you go. it hurts me to see them suffer they left everything for me. they left their friends, school,

family only to come to the usa for me. im doing my best for them. at first things seemed ok while we lived at the parents basement. then my family just created all this drama. they claimed i give the kids to much attention. yet i am the father figure for them. they need my attention. so moral of the story is be prepared to fight for what you want because some people will never see things the way you do. and will never accept things the way they are.

visajourney family here is kida like my second family where you post stuff and just reading responses. helps make things easier.

You need to remind them that the true father is he who brings up a child, not he who sired one, necessarily. In some cases these are one and the same but that is not a requirement.

[jose_leti 7]

You need to remind them that the true father is he who brings up a child, not he who sired one, necessarily. In some cases these are one and the same but that is not a requirement.

you know we all make choices in thiss life and they shape our futures. i made my choice to bring her and the 2 kids into my life and promised myself that i would never let them down. even if someday they yell at me and tell me your not my father. i dont care becuase i will know that i tried my best so that they could have a better future. so im going from single to married wiht kids already. that is a big responsiblity i am the man of the family and i need to keep pushing forward. so we have our apartment. started to furnish it. some of my friends donated things to us. microwave, coffe machine and other utensils. it just goes to show you that there are some great people out there. even with tough economy they continue to shine.