help... Im depressed now..

[NinjaLadyBug 23]

No disrespect to anyone but I agree with Bob. Its not for anyone to judge someone else attachments to any country, person or thing. She's here asking for advice and advising her out of judgement or what we would 'personally' do doesn't seem quite fair.

When I left my home 10 years ago, I was a teenager going to college and within a year I was suprised that I had a very strong connection to this country. All my ties were not severed to my home coutry but I certain began my love for America very early on. 10 years later, this does feel like my 'home' but the attachment started off very strongly early on.....

Bottom line, people leave their homes for many reasons, but when you leave, you get rid of your apartment, leave your job, sell your belongings severe any ties that you may have built. All to be with the one you love and to built a new life in good faith...

I would say, we give her the advice that she's asking for and not to project our personal opinions in a way that is seemily unhelpful to her...

[Brother Hesekiel 2,235]

Vanessa,

that's excellent advice and will work like a charm until the U.S. becomes home for you as well.

No, I wasn't being sarcastic. At some point the U.S.A. becomes home. I live for close to 20 years in Southern California now, and it has become home for me a very long time ago. I didn't direct my comment to the O.P., more toward you. Once you have lived here for a certain amount of years, have a home you like, a job you like, friends you like, the U.S. may become home for you as well. If you then get divorced in 8, 10, 15, 25 years, I'm not sure you'd be returning to Australia. If you do, that would mean the U.S. has not become your home in all those years. Home is where the heart is; my heart is here. In fact, I haven't been in my old stumping grounds since April 1994. There's nothing I'm missing by not going there, and it has nothing to do with poverty. It's just so much better here in Southern California, regardless of the surrounding circumstances.

[philhome 1]

i just want to pick up the pieces here that's why im asking help if i have the chance to stay.. i already sacrificed everything in my home country... thank you to everyone, i will be back on china this december..

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we're in same situation. thinking of going back to philippines as soon as i will have money even my daughter could stop her study here. I am not here for just america am here for him and expecting have a happy family but not then why i should stay here. I understand your situation.

[SuperDuper! 230]

No speculating, please! Full scientific analysis required B4 posting.

[ginapb77 6]

I haven't replied to any of these threads and I have been reading them for days. However, just telling an individual to go home kind of sickened me. I moved to Turkey for a man (it did not work out, he left me to go to "work" my 4th week there). Before I left, my stepmother told me that I would be home in 2 months. I had a pride I had to uphold. I was raped in Istanbul my sixth month there. I wanted to leave but I was ashamed that my stepmother would be correct and I would come home like a dog with my tail in between my legs. My friend (female), encouraged me to stay in Turkey. I went to the southeastern region. I met my husband there. One of the most wonderful people I have met in my life. I stuck it out. Sometimes home is not the answer. I am sorry but sometimes, you have to prove to others and yourself you are strong enough to make it in a foreign land. I stayed in Turkey for 2 and 1/2 years. I moved back to the States because Turkey is too different for me. However, if someone is comfortable in a place they are in and want to stick it out. I say more props to 'em and good luck!!!

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

put you in jail?????? for what reason? he cant put you in jail, dont give importance to that nonsense. you can always go home, but if you really wanna stay, you can apply for VAWA, the mental abuse is a little harder to prove but you can always try.

now lets be serious if she wants to stay its HER choice and hers only. i gave up everything i had in my country so going back would be suicidal without anything there. let's not judge this

[Penguin_ie 5,986]

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