Fiance backed out from interview

[VadnVince 24]

I think her actions prove enough that it's "over" - whether the infidelity was true or not. As others have stated consider yourself better off finding out on THIS end rather than after going through the additional expenses of traveling, AOS, etc. There are a few stories on here that go into the horrors of divorcing someone after their arrival, worst yet after a child is involved. Let it go and move on. Further contact may just add salt to the wound. There are STILL plenty of women here in the ole US of A, including those from other countries where you don't have to get a K-1 because they're already here! - Legally, hopefully!

[jameugiekaxavilon 25]

This is sad. Sorry that you are going through this. Just keep strong and if everything is over just move on. It would be more harder that you only find this when you are already married.

[clueless55 18]

Did you help her with money along the way?

Some ladies are only after that, and have no intention to show up for the interview.

Good luck, no matter what this cost you, it's a lucky break if she wasn't sure she wanted to marry you, and she had no other intentions.

You did everything right, made multiple visits.....it's not your fault. There's always some risk in these relationships, more so than a relationship with a local lady.

Withdraw the petition.

[bigdog 377]

Better to find out now then have her end up in US. sorry.

[lilly1986 5]

http://www.city-of-brides.com/profiles/ukrainian-wives/

Really?? If you want to find true love i wouldn´t go on such pages. Same with phillipines. Maybe its just something i don´t understand but in my opinion u can´t be surprised if they are just after the greencard...Why would they talk to american guys then??

I can not understand ppl are looking for this and then complaining about the process. i dont even know how many night in my life i cried and was wishing i was in love with someone from my country...but i guess now i know what "wifeshopping" is, i read about it on here. Maybe i am just to naive to understand all this

but back to topic.......:-).i also think it shouldnt be a problem. Seems like it worked for a lot of ppl already! Good luck!

[Adam & May 4]

Sorry about what happened. But they're right, it would be more miserable if this happens when you're already married. Youre still lucky

For everyone: in my opinion, calling a guy " who sends money" to ( who they think) their fiancée a STUPID is ridiculous. It's not being stupid of him, the girl is just taking advantage of him. She is too smart to fool him. He trusts her

When we were in the process of our K1 ( we've met) I asked my then fiancé to send me money every month. I said I couldn't take care of myself anymore. I gave him the breakdown of my monthly expense and he trusted me. But he didn't know that I was saving up the money for the future so when I came to the US I have the money with me which helped us for my AOS. I would say, I tested his trust on me that until now we don't talk about financial matter. He knows everything is in good hands

[Ben and Jill 37]

IN JUNE OF THIS YEAR

While on Filipinocupid.com I had a scammer take me for $ 150 and I put her story, name and picture on dragonladies.com. I almost forgot I did that and last week a guy contacted me about a girl of the same name. He said he was shocked to find her name on dragonladies.com and he told me he had drained his bank account and sent her over $ 20,000 this year. I told him I was positive the woman was a scammer but he still believes she is not and is planning on meeting her in December. He has only seen her on cam once but talks to her everyday. I am positive it is a scam but I can't convince him because he is in love

My mouth fell to the floor when I read this....that's terrible! Wow, $20,000?? They say love is blind, but... I'm shaking my head...

You see? This was very positive, even in the face of what might devastate a guy of lesser caliber than you. It's the beginning of better things to come.Super! This will give you closure, which is never to be underrated.

I can tell you that there are a LOT of sweet, beautiful Ecuadorian women who will NOT take you for a ride (their culture is not geared toward that), and who yearn only for a guy who will treat them with consideration and respect. They'll return that loyalty a thousandfold (I speak from experience). When you're healthily past this current episode and you're completely in a position to look ahead, holler to me to get you set on the path, si man.

Awww, how nice of you TBoneTX, I'm smiling

Edited November 4, 2011 by Ben and Jill

[Joandjo 20]

My ex fiancee did not show up for her interview on september, and did not even explain her reason for not showing up. To the point of not even answering my calls. When i did talk to her, she said she's not ready to get married. And later found out from her cousin that she cheated on me with another guy. I'm devastated right now after all the time, money, and sacrifices i went through for her. What should i do now? I have no intentions of getting back with her, but i'm concerned of a future fiancee visa petition if i do finally find the right woman in my life.. Need help! Advice! Thank you!

Times are tough there and the interview would be the point of "Put up or shut up." Speculation would be that she was unable to get a CENOMAR? My suggestion would be if you are intent on marrying a Filipina and you don't have a mutual aquaintence that knows you both (we did and I'm very happy of that as my fiance is an extremely rare individual): Before you give your heart to anyone and go to meet her or when you meet her maybe, get that CENOMAR up front, she'll have to get another that's near the interview if things work out but my guess is that's the time when the few ladies that are seperated from their spouses and don't see themselves as married, would tend to back out. Sorry for this happening but the reality is that you're very lucky you didn't get her here then find out that she's capable of deception. Good luck to you!!

[Joandjo 20]

YOU WILL FIND BETTER

About 4 years ago, I got burned so bad by an American woman that I will never trust what anyone tells me until I thoroughly know them and they are worthy of it. I am sure that Whyus0heartless has learned this and will likely end up with a much, much better woman next time. That is what happened in my case anyway.

My finance told me that many women in the Philippines just want the Fiance to send them money and they have a boyfriend on the side. They really don't want to leave.

IN JUNE OF THIS YEAR

While on Filipinocupid.com I had a scammer take me for $ 150 and I put her story, name and picture on dragonladies.com. I almost forgot I did that and last week a guy contacted me about a girl of the same name. He said he was shocked to find her name on dragonladies.com and he told me he had drained his bank account and sent her over $ 20,000 this year. I told him I was positive the woman was a scammer but he still believes she is not and is planning on meeting her in December. He has only seen her on cam once but talks to her everyday. I am positive it is a scam but I can't convince him because he is in love

Thanks for posting this! I had a similar experience last year. The trust/proof goes both ways doesn't it!

[TeapotGirl 66]

Before you give your heart to anyone and go to meet her or when you meet her maybe, get that CENOMAR up front,

I can provide CENOMAR anytime but it doesn't mean I will marry you.

CENOMAR is a certificate of no marriage not a certificate of being loyal or not being in a relationship.

Willing ladies will be honest about previous but undissolved marriage. A lot male petitioner even help out with the annulment expenses.

Edited November 4, 2011 by teapotgurl1983

[tfcrew 0]

write in and formally withdraw your petition.

Probably not necessary, as this petition is good for only one person anyway and there is no refund.

[Princessblack 21]

You are lucky can escape from this heartless woman. !

Ditto!

So sorry to hear but maybe that saved you from a world of misery. ALl the best.

[Winning23 25]

http://www.city-of-b...krainian-wives/

Really?? If you want to find true love i wouldn´t go on such pages. Same with phillipines. Maybe its just something i don´t understand but in my opinion u can´t be surprised if they are just after the greencard...Why would they talk to american guys then??

I can not understand ppl are looking for this and then complaining about the process. i dont even know how many night in my life i cried and was wishing i was in love with someone from my country...but i guess now i know what "wifeshopping" is, i read about it on here. Maybe i am just to naive to understand all this

but back to topic.......:-).i also think it shouldnt be a problem. Seems like it worked for a lot of ppl already! Good luck!

OMG. you read my mind

[Turboguy 6]

I know it seems like a heartbreaking disaster right now but you are one lucky dude. You found out what she really was before you let her really mess up her life.

I went through a K-1 with my first fiancee who did show up for the interview but really was not the kind of woman I thought she was. My first fiancee came over for 89 days and went back. While she was here with me she was corresponding with a bunch of men and I happened to see one email where she was discussing how to do a K-1 without really meeting. The guy was real slezzy and could not afford to go to visit her when she returned to her country. When she got back she was writing me saying she had made the biggest mistake of her life and wanted me to do another K-1. I sent in the second K-1 and a week later found out she was going to Germany for two weeks to meet a guy she had the hots for. I cancelled the application.

She did stay in touch with a friend of mine and after the K-1 with me she did a K-1 with a guy from Florida and decided at the last minute not to show up for the interview. Then she did another K-1 with a guy from Florida. She had decided to return to her country rather than marry him but supposidly he said he would not buy her a ticket and she had to marry him. She did and a month later took off and divorced him. I lost track of her after that but she was a woman who seemed like an angel but really was a devil and left a trail of broken hearts and busted dreams in the wake.

I resumed my search and found an amazing and wonderful woman. We have been married for nearly 4 years now. I had to do a waver when I applied for the last K-1 but that was no big deal and it didn't create any problems for us.

Count your lucky stars. You could have married her. She is not ever going to make a man a good wife. You would have ended up far more heartbroken and much more financially drained. There are good, sincere, wonderful women out there. Try to get over the last and start a search for a new one. Some day you will look back on this disaster as something that saved your neck and the best thing that could have happened. Good luck.

[the Maxx 0]

As sad as this is for you try and see the good side of this. It would have been a whole lot worse for you if she emigrated to the US and then you seen her true colors and intentions. There is a website created for those who have suffered this worse fate. Its called www.immigrationfraudvictims.com On this site there is a forum that contains the stories of American men and women who have been victimized by a foreign spouse. Reading these peoples stories may help you see that your situation was really more of a blessing than a curse.

Maxx