Petition to be canceled

[max+patricia 24]

Long story short - things have been rough the past few months as they often are for alot of people in this waiting game - and sadly for my fiancee and I, we've decided to call things off. We had been going back and forth with it for a few weeks and the decision was not something either of us took lightly. There aren't really any hard feelings between either of us after having been so close for 8+ years, for which I'm very thankful. It just didn't work out.

I have 3 questions in particular - a few threads I've read while searching have addressed some partially, but not entirely. I'd appreciate some advice.

1. Our petition arrived at the embassy last week. I know I need to contact them directly to formally withdraw the petition - but can I do so by email? Sending a posted letter to her country is a nightmare and will likely not get there at all. I'm not exactly thrilled about spending $60+ to Fedex it there either.

2. Do I need to also contact the NVC and inform them of the cancellation?

3. Probably most important here - will the petition or the cancellation of the petition in any way affect her existing B-2 tourist visa? She has had a tourist visa for virtually her entire life and her current one still has 9 years validity on it. She travels to the US often - so even though we obviously are no longer together, I don't want this hiccup between us to cause her drama at whatever POE today, tomorrow, or down the road. Will POE even know we had this petition in the works? If I sent her a copy of the withdrawal confirmation to use in case she needed - would it help or harm her in the eyes of an IO? I'd hate to have them think we're trying to mess with the situation, when genuinely, it's the end of the road for us.

Thanks again for any input. Take care guys, best of luck to you all.

[milimelo 4,747]

Long story short - things have been rough the past few months as they often are for alot of people in this waiting game - and sadly for my fiancee and I, we've decided to call things off. We had been going back and forth with it for a few weeks and the decision was not something either of us took lightly. There aren't really any hard feelings between either of us after having been so close for 8+ years, for which I'm very thankful. It just didn't work out.

I have 3 questions in particular - a few threads I've read while searching have addressed some partially, but not entirely. I'd appreciate some advice.

1. Our petition arrived at the embassy last week. I know I need to contact them directly to formally withdraw the petition - but can I do so by email? Sending a posted letter to her country is a nightmare and will likely not get there at all. I'm not exactly thrilled about spending $60+ to Fedex it there either.

2. Do I need to also contact the NVC and inform them of the cancellation?

3. Probably most important here - will the petition or the cancellation of the petition in any way affect her existing B-2 tourist visa? She has had a tourist visa for virtually her entire life and her current one still has 9 years validity on it. She travels to the US often - so even though we obviously are no longer together, I don't want this hiccup between us to cause her drama at whatever POE today, tomorrow, or down the road. Will POE even know we had this petition in the works? If I sent her a copy of the withdrawal confirmation to use in case she needed - would it help or harm her in the eyes of an IO? I'd hate to have them think we're trying to mess with the situation, when genuinely, it's the end of the road for us.

Thanks again for any input. Take care guys, best of luck to you all.

Contact USCIS, NVC and the US Embassy - letter signed withdrawing the petition and also include NOA2 copy. You can also fax it to the Embassy. Snail mail is also acceptable.

Ex-girlfriend can reply to any letter she receives (paperwork to fill) by sending them a copy of the withdrawal letter from you.

Should not affect her tourist visa, she still needs to have strong ties to her home country at POE.

[Paul + Tonieta 4]

I'm very sorry to hear this. Our timelines are similar. It must be hard even though you sound like you talked this over thoroughly. Good luck to you both. Aloha....................................Paul

[jameugiekaxavilon 25]

oh no so sad!! :(

I hope it will be fix. You two look a good couple.

[motam 0]

Gosh...I hate to hear this, but I completely understand. I really hope that me and my fiance' get tired of the waiting game. I don't even know you and hearing this really upsets me. I am sorry. Maybe things will change between the two of you.

[I+H 11]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It is a rough time for all of us. I really hope you two find a way to work it out before you cancel your petition. You two have gone through this whole process together and you have spent more than 8 years together. You seem like you have thought this through, but one can still hope. You have been a great help here on VJ too, I often run into your posts.

I wish you both the best and again I am so sorry.

[C Med 14]

I am also sorry to hear about your decision to part ways. I know that there must be a lot more to it than just the whole wait time, especially after 8+ years together, and after receiving your long awaited NOA2. I wish you both the best of luck in the future.

[max+patricia 24]

Thanks guys - and thanks for the info. We'll both be fine, just one of those bumps along the road of life I guess.

Good luck to you all!

[LoveMyMohamed 6]

I'm very sorry to hear this news, but everything for a reason, it's said! Also, just a personal note - I've seen you often post your help and I've enjoyed seeing your bright happy faces every time you've posted, in your photo. Just wanted to wish you both the best in what awaits in your futures. May it all be great! ~ Kathy

[lola12 1]

soory to hear this guys! I wish you both all the best

[Now&Forever 0]

Sorry to hear this guys...i just wanted to wish you both the best in life.

[MRStee 19]

Im sorry things didn't work out for you. One good thing is that you two decided early enough to withdrawl your petition which is a brave thing to do. I wish you much success in life and wherever your journey takes you!