Possibility of more than 1 K1 for the same Fiance?

[Bluerose001 4]

Hi,

Like you, my then bf now husband and I wanted for me to check out US first before deciding to migrate here. It would really be hard to move to another country without really knowing how it is living there.

Luckily, I was granted a 10 year multiple entry B2 tourist visa as I was able to show STRONG TIES to the Philippines (stable job in a multi national company, a property, etc.). Like your gf also, I have a sister in the US and when the consul asked about it I just said that I was not going to visit her but will be staying with my bf.

2 months after visiting my bf, we filed for a K1 visa.

Like what others have said here, filing for a K1 visa means there is intent to migrate already but if you are just looking to get a visa for a visit, it would be the B2 tourist visa.

Goodluck!

Edited May 1, 2011 by Bluerose001

[thelastpetitioner 218]

OP there is a great advice behind peoples mean-ness

lets say you do all this and it works,the second time around,your fiancee will be given hell at the interview and they will ask the same things people did;" why didnt you get married the first time?"

on and all,if youre serious about this,and do see yourself eventually living with your fiancee i suggest not doing it,because its risky.

who can predicte the future?what if you move to philipines and for some reason like a natural disaster or war you get forced to move back to the states?whats when the first k-1 will come back to hunt you.

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the biggest phrase is mahal ko, or mahal na mahal kita, or mahal kita. or if you say I love you and she says mahal din kita, also mis din kita. There are many ways to look at things. Going to her dad's funeral is HUGE. the fact you spent 3 months with her is HUGE. Even more impressive is going to a birth. IF you ACTUALLY witnessed the birth, you are CONSIDERED part of the family. You may even partly be considered a leader of the family. If the men seek and come to you with questions, or consult you on matters. You are a clan leader. Not marrying the girl WILL SHAME her as well as bring shame to the family clan. If you and her slept in the same house together in the same bed, YOU ARE ENGAGED. She is ready to marry you. the family has accepted you. She will go where you go. Your friends and family WILL BE her friends and family. I know the mindanao area very will. I have spent time in Butuan and gingoog city and the in teh villages around there. One of the villages there has many, many people from the village here in Phoenix. A best friend of my fiance's dad actually lives here in phoenix. Another way to tell is does she call you gwapo, nyobo, ang aking soulmate, miss ko ang aking asawa, masakit ang sikmura ko (stomach has pain from missing you), did she take napkins and wipe sweat from your brow and face, did she unfasten and fasten your shoes, did she comb your hair, wash your clothes, help you get dressed or undressed, did she give you massages, did she let you wash or brush her hair, did she always want to hold your hand, were you ever left alone, did she leave you alone with her fmaily, filipinas love very very very intensely. telling me she is a provincial girl, I can tell exactly what to look for and know. I am engaged to a provincial girl myself and many of my filipina friends are provincial girls. She will follow your lead. In provincial areas, it is very traditional, nearly the same as the "family" here in America. Men rile, women follow. Their showing of live is being a servant to their husband and having many kids. the more kids, the more they show how much they love their husband. In her heart, in her village, in her family, she may be already married to you. She will have not one problem here. going back to the village unmarried after coming to America will be a shame on her. Are you willing enough to love her as deep as she loves you? She will give you your freedom, but the more you do together, the more you make her a complete part of your life, the more you will be loved by her. She WANTS to marry you if you spent 3 months in her village and attended her dad's funeral but she WILL NOT force you to. Her way of forcing you is to love you with a servant's heart and pray to God each day. If you need someone to talk with, please contact me.

There are around 45 million Filipino women. Each one is individual. Yes there are differences between "provincial" and "city" women, but these differences probably apply everywhere in the world. Please be careful generalizing about all Filipino women's behavior and intentions based on your knowledge of a few individuals.

Good luck on your visa journey.

[Zara_ 3]

...filipinas love very very very intensely. .....

I'm not a filipina, but I love very very very intensely too ; )

[baron555 934]

Yes, no problems if she doesnt overstay the first.

No on the sister unless she is a USC.

[Shenzhen 34]

I can tell you from experience this is a horrible idea. Marry and do a CR-1 where you guys live after that it doesn't matter. Your 2nd k-1 will take well over a year to process. You will have red flags all over your case. You might have to hire an attorney. Been there done that. My friend did the same thing for a different country and the same girl. He had to get his congressman involved it was a night mare. One I am living now. Once you file a 2nd k-1 you are a SINNER in the eyes of our government.

[gretchen_darren 67]

I am not trying to generalize, not make light of how any girl loves. Every girl loves in HER OWN way. And how she was raised. The showing of love is different. Filipinas go from 13 to 30 when they get engaged. I am not trying to generalize. I have just dated many different types of girls and know many girls. Each girl is different. However, their country heritage, and their upbringing make a difference. Filipinos and Filipinas express much with their faces without saying anything. A city girl and a provincial girl are VASTLY different because many city girls can eat with a knife, plus are more mature. A city girl follows old traditions, but will not be tolerant of things as a provincial girl would be. A city girl will express her displeasure. (A provincial girl will express it facially, but not say anything.) A provincial girl is raised in the old traditions and very, very, very rarely as those traditions broken. those traditions are vastly adhered to. A Father's blessing is important to her. She will not date you without it. And in lack of a father, the elder clan leader will decide. Girls in the province are treated like 13 year olds until married. when engaged they go from 13 to 30 in a heartbeat. when you are engaged to a provincial girl, she becomes your responsibility at that point. the father expects you to take care of her, plus in turn care for her parents and family while she is still living at home. in provincial areas. the dad rules the house. No questions asked. No one dissents from the dad. As long as the girl lives in the house with her dad, you give your assent and follow the dad as well. You as an outsider, can break rank, but do it carefully with great consideration for the anger which will be vented at your fiance. the girl is expected to do certain things and perform certain tasks, especially in front of her family. If you do not allow her to perform these tasks the family questions the relationship. She is doing certain things because she is expected to, the hard part is letting her do those things. I am not trying to generalize. He is dating a girl from the Mindanao region. I am also engaged to a girl in the Mindanao region, plus I know several, several girls from the Mindanao region.

the problem is NOT the girl. Yes, she will miss home. She will miss her friends. BUT she will NOT WANT to go back. She wants to be his wife. This guy HAS to determine if HE is STRONG enough to rule HIS own house. If HE commits to helping her make it here, she will. But if HE is even indecisive, or leaves her alone a lot. SHE WILL want to go back. SHORT of a miracle HE will NOT be allowed back in the village IF she goes back. RIGHT NOW it is TIME for HIm to "do HIS duty or get off the pot". The first 12 months he will: be teaching her how to shop, the value of the dollar, how to get around, helping to make friends, teaching her to drive, possibly going through a car accident, helping her with english, taking her everywhere she wants to go, going shopping. HE will also be made fun offor having such a small girl as a wife. HE should expect name calling here in the US. She will be completely dependent on him, as he is on her there. SHE will ONLY FAIL to adapt, if HE FAILS to recognize HER NEEDS. He is asking for advice and help. the problem is not looking at what is he is posting, but why he is posting it. HE is concerned. HE is worried about her not liking it here. HE wants to know if she does not like it here, if HE can file to bring HER back, or if HER sister can. The one question not asked, do THEY have kids together? DOES SHE have kids, how old are they? Either HE LOVES THIS GIRL COMPLETELY and RULES the house, or leaves her alone. HIS LEVEL of intensity when she comes to the US will DECIDE HER LEVEL of adaptation. SHE HAS CHOSEN to come be with HIM in a new country. TO HER, she is coming to a land of MILK and HONEY.

[akosi 2]

I really appreciate everyone who took the effort to reply. I have learned a lot, even though the opinions were extremely varied....... Since there is even a CHANCE or raising red flags, i will not be considering possible multiple K1's.

Thanks again and best to all.

[Ready to do it 101]

Personally, I think you need to do what you want to do and not listen to people's "opinions." Advice/facts/explanations of way of life... yes. The posts about, "but that's not what the K1 is for, or it makes me mad because people like you make it longer for all of us, etc" should be ignored in my opinion. We are all free to think what we want and do what we want. Cut through all the posts that seem like people just want to complain that you are going for a K1, when you aren't 100% sure you will marry and do what you want to do.

I really appreciate everyone who took the effort to reply. I have learned a lot, even though the opinions were extremely varied....... Since there is even a CHANCE or raising red flags, i will not be considering possible multiple K1's.

Thanks again and best to all.

[Steph1988 11]

Personally, I think you need to do what you want to do and not listen to people's "opinions." Advice/facts/explanations of way of life... yes. The posts about, "but that's not what the K1 is for, or it makes me mad because people like you make it longer for all of us, etc" should be ignored in my opinion. We are all free to think what we want and do what we want. Cut through all the posts that seem like people just want to complain that you are going for a K1, when you aren't 100% sure you will marry and do what you want to do.

We are only trying to help the op and steer them in the right direction so they dont have any problems!

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Personally, I think you need to do what you want to do and not listen to people's "opinions." Advice/facts/explanations of way of life... yes. The posts about, "but that's not what the K1 is for, or it makes me mad because people like you make it longer for all of us, etc" should be ignored in my opinion. We are all free to think what we want and do what we want. Cut through all the posts that seem like people just want to complain that you are going for a K1, when you aren't 100% sure you will marry and do what you want to do.

K-1 is an expensive way to go, if you are not sure you are going to get married. Like many said, live with your potential bride for a while overseas, and if things work out, then get married and do the CR-1/IR-1 route. K-1 is for the serious folks that can't wait, and don't mind all the extra expenses and multiple visits to the local service center, biometrics, social security office, DMV, etc.

[Rooted in Grace 5]

really good information and i thank you for your effort. She is a province girl,,,, i have spent 3 months with her i the last 7 months.......... went to her dads funeral and the same day to witness the birth of her newest niece,,,, she is from Mindanao and so Visayan is her native language...... dont know if i haveheard her say "mahal, innibig or Mamamatay ako kung wala ka..."

i am learning so much and thanks again.........

Hi, I am sure you didnt hear from her mahal or iniibig kita...hehhe..Because in Visayan "Mahal Kita" is Gihigugma ko Ikaw". or in Iloggo, "Palangga Ko ikaw". Bisayan directly say, I love you in most part. God bless you both...

[sunandmoon 450]

You can always file and ask for an extension to marry under the k-1 once arriving.

just as a point of clarification, there is no extension of the requirement to get married within 90 days. If the marriage occurred after 90 days, you would need to file a I-130 petition and 1-485.

the fact her sister has not brought her over is bothering. You need to ask why her sister has not yet sponsored her.

not a fair statement. do you realize how long it takes for a USC to petition a sibling from the Philippines?