Devastated

[jac_chappin 24]

I'm sorry to hear this!

Soo much pent up emotion and he does this! As someone else wrote, the bright side is that you found out before you married him.

Hang in there!

[Steph1988 11]

Good Morning Everyone... After 5 years of a " stable " relationship, long 7 months with nights without sleep and thousands of dollars spend in lawyer, USCIS fees and trips there, unfortunally I have noticed after my fiancee got his visa things has changed and two months after he got it he is not doing the effort to be here with me, instead he only respond he has six months to enter USA, and his atitude towards me and the relationship has changed, I have been aware by his sister of infidelity while me suffering here for him. At this point I do not want to marry him anymore and I would like to do a visa withdrawal. Does anybody knows what should i say and where should I send it ? I am devastated I never thought I will be going through this situation !!! Thanks

Sorry to hear about that, have you tried contacting the embassy in his country! My heart goes out to you really. I am sorry

[jrmejia 31]

Don't call it off yet. Maybe he has cold feet.

One more try..just one more try please

[Barbara J 115]

Don't call it off yet. Maybe he has cold feet.

One more try..just one more try please

Oh please the guy is a jerk and has no intention of marrying her as he is not here yet. I will bet money he thinks he can just come here and stay because he has the visa but he does not know the laws that go with the K1 so he is sadly mistaken. Why would you try and tell her to give him a second chance when he is an #### hole and cheating on her anyways. Are you mad?????????? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot. really

[Gothika 0]

Bummer. Sorry about your situation.

The visa has been issued. You can't withdraw the petition now. He can use the visa to come to the US, if he chooses to do so. However, you are not obligated to marry him or help him adjust status. If he comes to the US and doesn't marry you then he won't be eligible for a green card, and his status will expire in 90 days. He'll either have to leave the US or remain without lawful status. Because he has a K1 visa, he can only adjust status by marriage with the K1 visa petitioner, which means you. There would be no other practical way for him to get a green card.

Jim, since this man is still in DR & not travelled to US, can the petitioner send an affidavit to the US embassy in DR informing the situation and have the US embassy revoke his visa? It is clearly has weight on it as after all he got his visa because of this lady. If the lady pull the plug now he is in trouble isn't it?

[jrmejia 31]

Oh please the guy is a jerk

Sorry we need to disagree. If I do not know the name of the person I will not give such a name.

Well, maybe that is your personality to call people with name like that.

Have a good day.!

[KemalTuanaYalcin 16]

Good Morning Everyone... After 5 years of a " stable " relationship, long 7 months with nights without sleep and thousands of dollars spend in lawyer, USCIS fees and trips there, unfortunally I have noticed after my fiancee got his visa things has changed and two months after he got it he is not doing the effort to be here with me, instead he only respond he has six months to enter USA, and his atitude towards me and the relationship has changed, I have been aware by his sister of infidelity while me suffering here for him. At this point I do not want to marry him anymore and I would like to do a visa withdrawal. Does anybody knows what should i say and where should I send it ? I am devastated I never thought I will be going through this situation !!! Thanks

Wow I am so sorry to hear this and I wish things would be different for you. As others have said, just let USCIS know of your intentions and just move forward from there. I wish you the best of luck. Again so sorry to hear about this!

[Blob18 111]

Don't call it off yet. Maybe he has cold feet.

One more try..just one more try please

LOL! Give the cheater another chance. Classic.

So, if your significant other cheated on you with another, would you give them a second chance? Are you that insecure?

Edited April 27, 2011 by Blob18

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Jim, since this man is still in DR & not travelled to US, can the petitioner send an affidavit to the US embassy in DR informing the situation and have the US embassy revoke his visa? It is clearly has weight on it as after all he got his visa because of this lady. If the lady pull the plug now he is in trouble isn't it?

I just looked through the Foreign Affairs Manual. Apparently, I was wrong. The petition can be withdrawn up until the time the foreign beneficiary arrives in the United States. This is according to 9 FAM 41.81 N7.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

Nidia,

I am very sorry to know that your relationship has come to an unexpected end. I hope you can find the strength to rearrange your life, accordingly. Do make sure to call the Santo Domingo Embassy and USCIS in order to revoke the visa's validity if you are absolutely certain of your decision. It would be a shame if he decided to use the visa to enter the US without the intention to marry you or be with you, at all. Also, I know it is hard to see, but it is really much better for you to have realized this rotten truth before he came to the US and before you married him rather than having gone through with the marriage only to get a divorce later... It is better to cut your losses now.

Best wishes!

[Barbara J 115]

Nidia,

I am very sorry to know that your relationship has come to an unexpected end. I hope you can find the strength to rearrange your life, accordingly. Do make sure to call the Santo Domingo Embassy and USCIS in order to revoke the visa's validity if you are absolutely certain of your decision. It would be a shame if he decided to use the visa to enter the US without the intention to marry you or be with you, at all. Also, I know it is hard to see, but it is really much better for you to have realized this rotten truth before he came to the US and before you married him rather than having gone through with the marriage only to get a divorce later... It is better to cut your losses now.

Best wishes!

:Great advice

LOL! Give the cheater another chance. Classic.

So, if your significant other cheated on you with another, would you give them a second chance? Are you that insecure?

AM so with you on this I agree whole heartedly.:thumbs::thumbs:

This

jrmejia advised someone else on another post to do the same

Sorry we need to disagree. If I do not know the name of the person I will not give such a name.

Well, maybe that is your personality to call people with name like that.

Have a good day.!

You need to grow up and face reality my dear life is not as simple as you make it out to be. And do you even know what a Jerk is? Peoples lives are not as rosy as yours and the question is how would you feel?

Edited April 27, 2011 by Barbara J

[Aztec&Taino 144]

Don't call it off yet. Maybe he has cold feet.

I did not know cheating on your fiancee was part of getting "cold feet"...

[jrmejia 31]

You need to grow up and face reality my dear life is not as simple as you make it out to be. And do you even know what a Jerk is? Peoples lives are not as rosy as yours and the question is how would you feel?

I am a great believer of giving a second chance. But come to think about "Forgiving is an art that not many possess. "

Best of luck to the OP!

Edited April 28, 2011 by jrmejia

[HappyRs 8]

I just looked through the Foreign Affairs Manual. Apparently, I was wrong. The petition can be withdrawn up until the time the foreign beneficiary arrives in the United States. This is according to 9 FAM 41.81 N7.

awesome!