Breaking up

[brigadier 0]

hello guys,

i just received the NOA2 today but me ane my fiance broke up last week. we have been having problems for the past one month now. i really need some advise or opinion on what to do. at the time, i dont wan to continue the relationship anymore and also who shouldi need to contact. another question is that, if i want to file for somebody else, what should i need to do or how long will it takes. im really stressed out because of it. thanks in advance and any suggestions are welcome

[BokkieandGuapo 4]

hello guys,

i just received the NOA2 today but me ane my fiance broke up last week. we have been having problems for the past one month now. i really need some advise or opinion on what to do. at the time, i dont wan to continue the relationship anymore and also who shouldi need to contact. another question is that, if i want to file for somebody else, what should i need to do or how long will it takes. im really stressed out because of it. thanks in advance and any suggestions are welcome

I am going to play Devils advocate, It is unfortunate that things didn't work out with you and your fiance/e, I think that it is better to break it off now than later when you are living together and more heartbreak can be caused. The fact that you want to petition for someone else so quickly may raise some red flags in the next I-129 application. I wish you the best of luck in the pursuit of happiness

[brigadier 0]

Thanks. its unfortunately too. im just trying toget myself together after all the months waiting and things did not go well. i do understand that it may raise ared flag whenever i want to petition for someone else.

[VinhBao MyTam 3]

Well, there is a lag between getting the NOA2 and the next step. It may be worth just sitting on it for a few weeks or a month, so you don't have to start all over IF you end up getting back together.

USCIS website says that requests to withdraw the I-129F must be addressed to the service center adjudicating your case. But since that was already approved, I don't know what applies...

[Kevin y Kelly 3]

I'm feeling your pain. I'm in Colombia visiting my fiancee now. It's been a difficult 4 days. First she found out 3 days before my arrival that she would start her new job the day I arrived and she would have to work 10 hour shifts everyday of my trip. I'm happy she got the job but I have only seen her awake for a few hours since Friday. Then yesterday she told me that she was having doubts about moving to the US because she doesn't want to leave her mother in Colombia alone. We went back and forth trying to work things out and agreed that she would take more time to think about everything. All I can do now is pray that we are still together when we get our NOA2. My thoughts to you is to take your time before you get into another relationship. I would hate to see you go through another bad experience. You also have a couple of months between NOA2 and the interview. You might get back together. Good luck.

[brigadier 0]

thanks. honestly , the problem started since december and we dont even communicate anymore. i just got the NOA2 today and i dont even knwo what to do right away.how can icancel it and what is the time frame if i want to do petition for someone else. sure im taking my time to think over it

[pushbrk 12,185]

thanks. honestly , the problem started since december and we dont even communicate anymore. i just got the NOA2 today and i dont even knwo what to do right away.how can icancel it and what is the time frame if i want to do petition for someone else. sure im taking my time to think over it

The visa process will not be completed without further input from you, so there's really no rush to do anything. Once you're sure it's over, you can send a withdrawal letter to USCIS with a copy to the Consulate's Immigrant Visa Unit. Deal with the next relationship when it comes. Who's to say it will be with a foreigner. If it is. you may need to add a sentence or two to a cover letter. No big deal.

[brigadier 0]

Thanks for your input. yes we dont communicate anymore.i m trying to get myself together about it. i will surely send withdrawn letter in due time. where should i send the letter to?

[Richie Rich 70]

Brigader --after the dust has settled , just take your time and get to know the next person a little longer before making a committment --it is a long and expensive process to do it again .Best of luck in future .

[VinhBao MyTam 3]

Thanks for your input. yes we dont communicate anymore.i m trying to get myself together about it. i will surely send withdrawn letter in due time. where should i send the letter to?

If your profile is correct and you went through the Vermont Service Center, then you would send it there for UCSIS.

[Utha 10]

Did you talk to another girl/s when you already file the petition?. Make sure for next petition/nex beneficiary, you take sometimes, dive deeper into your heart about what you want, how you feel about her, so you won't have the same problem in future.

[jrmejia 31]

Just one more try like those love songs.

Try to work it out.

[coraliesolms 47]

This process is very tedious, and takes a lot out of all of us. There were a few times where my husband and I almost filed for divorce because of how heartbreaking it can feel. Now that I am here though, things are wonderful and we are so happy together. Make very sure that you guys do not want to follow through with this before you send your withdrawel in. It is a lot of money to throw away. If you do truly feel like it is over, then end it, but make very sure that is what you want to do.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I will remind everyone before this topic goes much further, the OP is asking about how to withdraw his approved I-129f petition and what ramifications having one I-129f petition on file will be if/when he files for someone else. He is NOT asking for relationship advice, judgment about his current or future relationships nor any other input other than advice on the immigration process and logistics. Please answer the questions asked only, and do not speculate on nor offer more than is requested. Thank you.

-VJ Moderation Team

[Shenzhen 34]

hello guys,

i just received the NOA2 today but me ane my fiance broke up last week. we have been having problems for the past one month now. i really need some advise or opinion on what to do. at the time, i dont wan to continue the relationship anymore and also who shouldi need to contact. another question is that, if i want to file for somebody else, what should i need to do or how long will it takes. im really stressed out because of it. thanks in advance and any suggestions are welcome

You will need to write a letter something like this. Please withdraw my petition for USCIS CASE WAC#

Her name and birth date and your name and birth date.

Sign it and send it in certified mail return receipt. Keep a copy of the letter and the return receipt and postal receipt.

Send it in to the USCIS.

Sign your name

The next time you file your case will take a lot longer. You only get one easy shot. Then next time is much harder. I know I have experience.

Good Luck

Edited February 15, 2011 by Shenzhen