What to do next?

[oldlipa 0]

After almost a year of submitting the K1 petition, my fiancee finally arrived from the Philippines yesterday. Great news right? Not quite. The first thing she did was ask where the computer was so she can go on the internet. I asked if she had a Facebook page and she said no but later on I stumbled on the history of websites visited and she actually did have a Facebook page and also a new email address. Her cellphone also had no signal even though her Globe sim card was suppose to be setup for roaming. I thought maybe there was no signal because the cellphone was not setup correctly for the right network. So I check her phone and I stumbled on her saved text messages which had whole bunch of I LOVE YOU messages ..the only thing is the messages wasn't for me or from me. So at this point, despite all the money I spent on getting her here, I can't marry a person who is lying to me all this time. Now do I have to tell immigration that I will not pursue marriage (fill out forms)...and she will probably go back to the Philippines? Because I know I signed an affidavit of support and I don't want to be liable for her anymore. Thanks for any suggestions.

[patient2010 93]

If I were u I would ask her about the facebook page and the txt msg just to be sure I hope u can get to the bottom of this good luck

[jkelly07 120]

don't marry her,call 1-800-375-5283 tell them you want to withdraw your petetion,mybe write a letter also to immigration, send your back home, sorry that happen to you; you have to be so careful. good luck

[Angeli 5]

I am sorry but I think it's good that you found it out this early rather than after your wedding. About your question, I think the I-134 affidavit of support is not law-binding, the I-864 is, which will be used when she's going to adjust her status. I think you should contact the USCIS about this. Hopefully someone can share detailed steps on what to do.

[naypime 8]

After almost a year of submitting the K1 petition, my fiancee finally arrived from the Philippines yesterday. Great news right? Not quite. The first thing she did was ask where the computer was so she can go on the internet. I asked if she had a Facebook page and she said no but later on I stumbled on the history of websites visited and she actually did have a Facebook page and also a new email address. Her cellphone also had no signal even though her Globe sim card was suppose to be setup for roaming. I thought maybe there was no signal because the cellphone was not setup correctly for the right network. So I check her phone and I stumbled on her saved text messages which had whole bunch of I LOVE YOU messages ..the only thing is the messages wasn't for me or from me. So at this point, despite all the money I spent on getting her here, I can't marry a person who is lying to me all this time. Now do I have to tell immigration that I will not pursue marriage (fill out forms)...and she will probably go back to the Philippines? Because I know I signed an affidavit of support and I don't want to be liable for her anymore. Thanks for any suggestions.

thats sad....did you confront her about this...???you have to get married within 3 months then if 3 months have passed and you guys didnt get married yet she has to go back to the philippines....if you know that theres something going on already tell her what you found out and get her plane ticket and send her back here...Im also a filipina and cant understand why they can do this...im only new here in this site too but i read a lot of stories like this already which making me feel bad being a filipina...

heres the forum that has same situation as you..maybe you can get some ideas on what to do on your case

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/283097-heartbroken-and-deceived-need-helpadvice/

once a cheater always a cheater...if you are really sure that she is cheating on you as early as now...its a good thing cause it will hurt you more if you gonna find out later after you guys are married already or when you have kids already...well dont loose hope...everything happens for a reason...hope you feel better soon..

[Angeli 5]

Yes I feel awful reading stories like this and knowing I am a Filipina too. I hope they realize that quite a number of fiancees and wives who are very faithful are waiting to be reunited with their loved ones while these kind of women had that chance to be there. It's such a shame.

[Zen Den 18]

After almost a year of submitting the K1 petition, my fiancee finally arrived from the Philippines yesterday. Great news right? Not quite. The first thing she did was ask where the computer was so she can go on the internet. I asked if she had a Facebook page and she said no but later on I stumbled on the history of websites visited and she actually did have a Facebook page and also a new email address. Her cellphone also had no signal even though her Globe sim card was suppose to be setup for roaming. I thought maybe there was no signal because the cellphone was not setup correctly for the right network. So I check her phone and I stumbled on her saved text messages which had whole bunch of I LOVE YOU messages ..the only thing is the messages wasn't for me or from me. So at this point, despite all the money I spent on getting her here, I can't marry a person who is lying to me all this time. Now do I have to tell immigration that I will not pursue marriage (fill out forms)...and she will probably go back to the Philippines? Because I know I signed an affidavit of support and I don't want to be liable for her anymore. Thanks for any suggestions.

if all evidence prove 100% that she's lied to you all this time, there's no reason to continue the relationship with her. yes, report her to immigration so she doesn't do it to others in the future. good thing you saw all this before you got married. this is sad but you have to do what's good for both of you (you'll be saved from marrying a fraud) and her (she'll learn that she can't full everybody all the time). if she did it to you, she could do it to that other person she was texting.

[james&olya 1,121]

Don't confront her yet!!! If she has lied to you she will also lie to the police and may allege you have abused her. She may know that this is a way of staying in country. You need first to notify USCIS and the other agency (is it ICE?) and then take steps to protect yourself from any false accusations that might be headed your way. So sorry to hear about this happening to you!

[amykathleen2005 441]

She isn't a toy, you can't just return her to the store. She is free to do what she wants really. If you don't marry her she will have no status in the US and will theoretically be forced to return home. Whether she does or not is her problem. All you need to do is contact USCIS to share your concerns about her intentions, also try to have her live somewhere else so she does not attempt to frame you for abuse or anything in an attempt to get a greencard.

[james&olya 1,121]

She isn't a toy, you can't just return her to the store. She is free to do what she wants really. If you don't marry her she will have no status in the US and will theoretically be forced to return home. Whether she does or not is her problem. All you need to do is contact USCIS to share your concerns about her intentions, also try to have her live somewhere else so she does not attempt to frame you for abuse or anything in an attempt to get a greencard.

Agreed. Hopefully not only will she be thwarted in her attempt at fraud against not just you but the USA but also she will carry the label of visa fraud preventing her from hurting anyone else this way!

[Dan and Judy 614]

If I were u I would ask her about the facebook page and the txt msg just to be sure I hope u can get to the bottom of this good luck

It dosn't sound to me like you have any doubts in your mind about her "guilt". but if you do, Instead of confronting her about it, you could download keylogging software off

of the internet tonight. Ive never used it, but I know it is available. You could just google "Keylogging" to learn about it. Some programs even take screen shots of every web site visited. I dont know what was in the texts besides "I love you" and I dont know if you can tell when they were sent or not. With a keylogger you can tell exactly what

has been said in email messages etc. I understand it is very popular with people who think their spouse is cheating. There is even a small chance it could vindicate her.

If you confront her and she comes up with some kind of explanation for what you've seen already you may decided to give her the benifit of the doubt but you would be plagued with doubts yourself well into the future.

I know this is devasting. Obviously you were blindsided by this I am in the process of filling out my I-129f right now. Im not realy suspecting my fiancee at this point, but

I have to admit your story scares me. I also know you are already asking yourself this question, so I will ask you to share your reflections. In retrospect were there any

red flags from her that you chose to ignore? Perhaps when you went to meet her in person. I will understand, if you choose not to answer my question.

Thanks

Dan

[charlize56 4]

why other filipina women did this to an american guy that proved themselves that they are serious to them,there are many filipina women here that are serious and have patiently waiting for the time they get approve to be with their love ones,your fiance doesnt have consience!!so do what the best thing to do,send her back to the philippines!

[rlogan 2,036]

After almost a year of submitting the K1 petition, my fiancee finally arrived from the Philippines yesterday. Great news right? Not quite. The first thing she did was ask where the computer was so she can go on the internet. I asked if she had a Facebook page and she said no but later on I stumbled on the history of websites visited and she actually did have a Facebook page and also a new email address. Her cellphone also had no signal even though her Globe sim card was suppose to be setup for roaming. I thought maybe there was no signal because the cellphone was not setup correctly for the right network. So I check her phone and I stumbled on her saved text messages which had whole bunch of I LOVE YOU messages ..the only thing is the messages wasn't for me or from me. So at this point, despite all the money I spent on getting her here, I can't marry a person who is lying to me all this time. Now do I have to tell immigration that I will not pursue marriage (fill out forms)...and she will probably go back to the Philippines? Because I know I signed an affidavit of support and I don't want to be liable for her anymore. Thanks for any suggestions.

You need to review threads on the "Effects of Major Changes on Immigration Benefits" page. There you will find great advice, and principle amongst these is preparing for the worst, which is an unbelieveable but common tactic of setting the sponsor up for a VAWA claim - the assertion she has been abused by you and therefore she is entitled to immigration on her own without marrying you.

She has already demonstrated herself to be a fraud with bad intentions so the only question is how vicious she is capable of being. You thought you knew her but you don't, so it is important to be prepared.

You have an enormous advantage in your defense if you immediately collect as much information as you can on her attempt at immigration fraud through bad faith marriage. This is not an attempt to damage her, but rather to defend yourself. The text messages, emails, etc: Save them. At the same time, contact USCIS and ICE, notifying of your intentions and what happened.

Some will advise getting her out of the house immediately, changing the locks if she had a key, protecting your bank accounts, credit cards, etc.

It's a bad news/good news situation. Despite the disappointment, you caught it before she could really destroy your life. It has to be a terrible shock for you, and I am sorry for that. Now you must have determination to protect yourself from a bad person who could do you some real harm.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Hi RC.......I remember you from here in the Philippines forum. I'm really sorry to hear that you ended up with a scammer.

Don't worry about the I-134 affidavit of support that you signed because it's not legally binding. So, you have no worries there.

Also, I believe she won't be allowed to file a VAWA abuse claim against you since you two are not married.

I seriously hope you collect the evidence of her scam and report her to ICE.

She doesn't have to return to the Philippines within 90 days. She simply has to leave the U.S. So, just buy the scammer a bus ticket to Mexico and let her find her own way back to the Philippines.

I hope you don't give up on Filipinas because the right one will rock your world. Hang in there.

[jandk 6]

Yeah that sucks that you found text messages.. to be honest the girl sounds young and naive. You sound mature and wanting a mature relationship with her, but she rather not be honest with you from the start that she got here. Like previous posters had mentioned.. 1. She isn't a toy, you cant return her because you think she is broken, and 2. Dont try and demand or control what she should do. If you ask me, I would go out, make plans with her to have some exploration. I am not to sure on how far and how well you know her, but get to know each other.. IF the things that your finding out esculate, then I would mention to her what a marriage is all about, honesty loyalty, respect, and dignity. And let her know nicely that if she cant come around to a mature relationship then maybe its best if she goes back.. you HAVE to go after what you need and want. In a relationship/marriage, you CANT expect 1 side to go 100% give give give.. If she cant go that 50+% to you, then let her know about finding that right person on her own time, especially with the text messages.

Were these text messages from Philippines? If so dont mind it. My wife dont have too many boyfriends to worry about, she is a "to herself" but if she did any of what you mentioned.. I would really sit down, have a heart to heart and let her know what you expect out of relationship, and I would ask her what she expects.. meet in the middle... good luck and let us know the outcome..