Another End of the Road

[digbeezgrl 0]

Well folks, it must be break-up time. After 160 days of waiting, I received my NOA2 via email.

Unfortunately, last night we decided to end the relationship. We just can't get along for more than 10 minute intervals, and the stress of not knowing how this would turn out was just too much for both of us.

I thought I'd be celebrating today as one of the happiest days of my life. Now, I cannot stop crying.

drlewis - I know how you feel - BELIEVE me.

To all the rest of you, I pray that you do not meet the same fate as me. This has been one hell of a ride, and not one that I will ever make an effort to do again.

Thanks to all of you for answering dumb questions, listening to me ###### and moan, and just generally offering a friendly ear when needed. You guys rock.

[no name 1]

Shoot, I misread that. I'm so sorry to hear that.

Edited August 23, 2006 by devilette

[meng 0]

Well folks, it must be break-up time. After 160 days of waiting, I received my NOA2 via email.

Unfortunately, last night we decided to end the relationship. We just can't get along for more than 10 minute intervals, and the stress of not knowing how this would turn out was just too much for both of us.

I thought I'd be celebrating today as one of the happiest days of my life. Now, I cannot stop crying.

drlewis - I know how you feel - BELIEVE me.

To all the rest of you, I pray that you do not meet the same fate as me. This has been one hell of a ride, and not one that I will ever make an effort to do again.

Thanks to all of you for answering dumb questions, listening to me ###### and moan, and just generally offering a friendly ear when needed. You guys rock.

I am so sorry. Makes me wanna cry too. It is hard enough to not be able to see each other ... then this happened to you guys.

I hope you the best luck!

[Arazia 0]

Two in one day, doubly sad to hear.

It always is a bit depressing and distressing for all of us going through the process when others can't make it. You have my sympathy and best wishes for your future.

[lisaf 0]

Well folks, it must be break-up time. After 160 days of waiting, I received my NOA2 via email.

Unfortunately, last night we decided to end the relationship. We just can't get along for more than 10 minute intervals, and the stress of not knowing how this would turn out was just too much for both of us.

I thought I'd be celebrating today as one of the happiest days of my life. Now, I cannot stop crying.

drlewis - I know how you feel - BELIEVE me.

To all the rest of you, I pray that you do not meet the same fate as me. This has been one hell of a ride, and not one that I will ever make an effort to do again.

Thanks to all of you for answering dumb questions, listening to me ###### and moan, and just generally offering a friendly ear when needed. You guys rock.

ohhh no, have you spoken again since getting the NOA2? AS you said its the stress of not knowing that puts the strain on, I hope you can work it out with this news.

[digbeezgrl 0]

Well, maybe I should specify.

He's been here on a 90 day visitor's visa since the end of June, with plans of returning to England at the end of September, where we'd wait out the rest of the process separated.

I just feel compelled to mention that having a fiance come over and not be able to work places and INCREDIBLE amount of strain on a relationship. I make enough money to support us both comfortably, but all of the other factors remain, for him, unfortunately. (Feeling isolated, missing home, driving woes, hating America's throw-away attitude) and this puts tension on everyone in the house.

Unfortunately, I have somewhat of a short fuse, as does my fiance. (He's more guilty of that than I). As a result, we clash HARD and fast and get very frustrated with each other very easily.

I was kidding myself to think this would all be a perfect fantasy relationship, when it seems nothing BUT that when's he's so far away. Now that we are in each other's faces daily, I want to clunk him on the head more times than not.

We both decided that we did not want to risk spending the next 50 years as the "Bickersons", which we call ourselves now, and that we'd both rather move on with our lives and seek less volatile relationships. (that said, another man is the LAST thing on my mind, and I can't see that changing soon. I think I'm done with men for a while alltogether. This last one did my head in.)

So...

My only suggestion to you all is: If you have an opportunity to do the 90 day thing (you can financially hack it) try it out. We found out the hard way that day-to-day life is not all it's cracked up to be.

I feel bad that we've spent SO much time, effort, tears, money, joy, and sadness on this past year and a half, that it just makes me sick that it was all in vain.

[Mew 0]

Aw, no, how sad is that? I'm so sorry for you...

[Robor007 0]

It's sad to read another 'end of the road' story. You're from the same town as me too. I have to admit my long distance relationship is much more difficult than I imagined it would be. Throw in the stress of the visa process and that only complicates and stresses it further. I wish the best for you neighbor.

[digbeezgrl 0]

Thanks dude. Unfortunately, there is no helping this situation we're in. We tried yesterday to make one last go of it, and we were arguing within 5 minutes. Some relationships are just not meant to be, I guess.

[aj1 1]

Thanks dude. Unfortunately, there is no helping this situation we're in. We tried yesterday to make one last go of it, and we were arguing within 5 minutes. Some relationships are just not meant to be, I guess.

I am so sorry to hear this. I wish you both the best in your lives.

AJ1

[AndyMisiu 0]

Well, I guess this is one case where the IMBRA delay has been a blessing. Just imagine, if not for the delay your fiancee wouldn't have been here on a visitors visa, it would have been the K-1 visa. You would be married by now. So, I guess it's a small blessing that you were able to figure this out before the marriage. Good luck on the rest of your lives

(ah, short and sweet and not too involved, I like my new attitude)

[bebop + rocksteady 0]

I'm so sorry. Here's to a fast healing to the heartache.

This process really turns a magnifying glass on ourselves and our relationships, which, I suppose, is what it's supposed to do.

Good luck!

Cass (bebop the great)

[noblehero 0]

Thanks dude. Unfortunately, there is no helping this situation we're in. We tried yesterday to make one last go of it, and we were arguing within 5 minutes. Some relationships are just not meant to be, I guess.

Been there. My sympathies.

[Rob&Marife 0]

Hence why I say the K-1 is the best way to go because it gives you that 90 day test drive… As I have told and ex-gf just because two people love each other doesn’t mean they can live together.

[noura 0]

so sorry to hear it... best of luck to you both in healing your heart and moving on. don't know what else to say...