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[LoriT 16]

Hi!

My story (actually, our story) is not unfamiliar or extraordinary to anyone but us.

I met Colin playing a silly game on Facebook. We became friends. I was in a horrible loveless marriage. He had a girlfriend. We just clicked as friends. I knew long before I met Colin that my marriage was over. I left my husband and took some time to find myself again.

Colin and I remained friends and both of us knew that there was much more growing in our hearts. We still stayed only friends. I dated others, he dated others. But we always came back to eachother. We knew we were in love but never in a million years thought it would work. He is much younger and lives 4000 miles away. How could I possibly go against everything everyone said and follow my heart. Lucky for me, I tend to do the exact opposite of what everyone says. We finally admitted we loved eachother. The weight of the world was lifted, the sky was bluer, the birds sang more clearly. And for the first time in my life I knew what real love was. I was able to be completely myself with him and he loved me no matter what.

We still never thought it could work. But in our hearts we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. He planned a visit. The second he walked off that plane, I knew I had to do everything possible to spend my life with him. There were no awkward moments. We already knew eachother so well. Colin knows what I am thinking and what I need before I know. He fell right into place in my insanely busy crazy life. My kids fell in love with him. It was the most amazing 2 1/2 weeks of my life. And the day he left my heart left with him. I got to know his family and fell in love with them as well. I would instantly move over to the UK if possible. But I have 2 children that I cannot leave and cannot take away from their father. So Colin decided to give up everything he's ever known to move to America and be with us. Someday, we hope to move back to the UK or at least visit A LOT!!!

We filed our I-129F on October 22nd. We know it will be a long, complicated process. We spend hours and hours every day on the phone, emailing, texting, webcam via msn. Rarely does an hour go by without some sort of contact. Yes, it is a fairy tale. Yes, he is my prince charming. I don't hesitate to admit that at all. It's a love that little girls dream of. It's a love everyone deserves.

Every single day of my life I hear that I am crazy for doing this. How could it possibly work. Our answer, how could it possibly not? So... we start our journey and hope things go quickly and smoothly. Hope that this is the last Christmas, last birthday, last Valentine's Day we will have to spend apart.

Just wanted to share my story. I wish you all the very best in your journey.

Lori and Colin

[amykathleen2005 441]

Good luck!

[Kittyfang 6]

That was beautiful! Good luck guys!

[SweetHome_Alabama 5]

We all know and share in your feelings and believe me we all usually have friends or family who try to discourage us or have negative things to say and they judge without knowing or talking to our loved ones. Noone but people here on VJ and who has been and is in our shoes know how we feel when you share so much time to one another and you meet who you feel is the love of your life. Others judge from the outside and can't possibly see how we can love with a few visits and forced to have an internet romance. They think we are crazy except the family members and friends who trully love us and who want us to be happy. What is the most important is our happiness. we only live once and we should live for ourselves too. Always believe in your love and keep your love alive and you should always keep these warm welcomed feelings.

They make us feel special don't they? I love my husband dearly and I feel and know with all my heart he feels the same and we are also smart enough to know there is still lots to learn about one another as we share this journey together.

I wish you the best life together. You deserve to be happy.

[LoriT 16]

We all know and share in your feelings and believe me we all usually have friends or family who try to discourage us or have negative things to say and they judge without knowing or talking to our loved ones. Noone but people here on VJ and who has been and is in our shoes know how we feel when you share so much time to one another and you meet who you feel is the love of your life. Others judge from the outside and can't possibly see how we can love with a few visits and forced to have an internet romance. They think we are crazy except the family members and friends who trully love us and who want us to be happy. What is the most important is our happiness. we only live once and we should live for ourselves too. Always believe in your love and keep your love alive and you should always keep these warm welcomed feelings.

They make us feel special don't they? I love my husband dearly and I feel and know with all my heart he feels the same and we are also smart enough to know there is still lots to learn about one another as we share this journey together.

I wish you the best life together. You deserve to be happy.

Wow.. I think you are one of the only positive responses I've ever had to our story here on this site. Everyone usually says there is no way we could be in love. Thank you.

[Samoray 165]

Hi!

My story (actually, our story) is not unfamiliar or extraordinary to anyone but us.

I met Colin playing a silly game on Facebook. We became friends. I was in a horrible loveless marriage. He had a girlfriend. We just clicked as friends. I knew long before I met Colin that my marriage was over. I left my husband and took some time to find myself again.

Colin and I remained friends and both of us knew that there was much more growing in our hearts. We still stayed only friends. I dated others, he dated others. But we always came back to eachother. We knew we were in love but never in a million years thought it would work. He is much younger and lives 4000 miles away. How could I possibly go against everything everyone said and follow my heart. Lucky for me, I tend to do the exact opposite of what everyone says. We finally admitted we loved eachother. The weight of the world was lifted, the sky was bluer, the birds sang more clearly. And for the first time in my life I knew what real love was. I was able to be completely myself with him and he loved me no matter what.

We still never thought it could work. But in our hearts we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. He planned a visit. The second he walked off that plane, I knew I had to do everything possible to spend my life with him. There were no awkward moments. We already knew eachother so well. Colin knows what I am thinking and what I need before I know. He fell right into place in my insanely busy crazy life. My kids fell in love with him. It was the most amazing 2 1/2 weeks of my life. And the day he left my heart left with him. I got to know his family and fell in love with them as well. I would instantly move over to the UK if possible. But I have 2 children that I cannot leave and cannot take away from their father. So Colin decided to give up everything he's ever known to move to America and be with us. Someday, we hope to move back to the UK or at least visit A LOT!!!

We filed our I-129F on October 22nd. We know it will be a long, complicated process. We spend hours and hours every day on the phone, emailing, texting, webcam via msn. Rarely does an hour go by without some sort of contact. Yes, it is a fairy tale. Yes, he is my prince charming. I don't hesitate to admit that at all. It's a love that little girls dream of. It's a love everyone deserves.

Every single day of my life I hear that I am crazy for doing this. How could it possibly work. Our answer, how could it possibly not? So... we start our journey and hope things go quickly and smoothly. Hope that this is the last Christmas, last birthday, last Valentine's Day we will have to spend apart.

Just wanted to share my story. I wish you all the very best in your journey.

Lori and Colin

I am touched by your words, i hope you become together soon

[Damian&Kelly 16]

I wish you both the best of luck! My story is very similar and I know exactly how you feel. Hope that your journey is smooth and quick!!

[Nik+Heather 121]

Hey Lori!

Nik and I knew of each other and had some interactions online (we met in a game too! - but not on Facebook) for years before we started any sort of romantic involvement, and certainly felt strongly before we met in person, where it was just perfect as well!

Wow.. I think you are one of the only positive responses I've ever had to our story here on this site. Everyone usually says there is no way we could be in love. Thank you.

I think you're still blind to what was being said in that thread, and it seems to have given you a toxic view of a lot of this site. People aren't perfect and aren't always able to express themselves perfectly, so when the only medium for communication is text, you have to work a little harder to understand the meaning in what someone may have in-expertly articulated. Online relationships that blossom in real life are not at all uncommon on here, and there's no disagreement that relationships started online don't have the POTENTIAL to be viable in real life. Just like yours. Just like mine too. Both successful, both in awe of how wonderful our partners and our love is. The contention was only that not all online relationships are viable in real life. Naturally anyone posting on VJ is in the group that survived, because of the premise of the website. No one was attacking relationships which started online, only the idea that all online relationships would survive real life meetings. I've had more than one online relationship. I felt very much in love before, but only the last one with Nik actually worked out. That was all that was being said. Anyway, I hope we can all understand each other a little better in the future for some fruitful and meaningful discussions, even if we don't always agree!

[LoriT 16]

Thanks Heather.. you are right, I did get quite a toxic view after that thread. Colin and I are very different and have had to deal with other people doubting our sincerity and our love for a long time. I guess I get a bit defensive. This site has been very helpful and I'm thankful for all the advice I have been given.

[Brad and Vika 129]

I want to add my voice to Heather's here, and say that we see lots of relationships that start online, and are very happy. I think it is important to distinguish the ones like yours (gaming, facebook) with dating site or agency meetings. They get lumped together by some. Furthermore, age differences in my home regional forum (Russia, Ukraine, and Belarus) go out as far as 35 years, and most of the members seem very happy. Just saying.

[Tumbleweed 0]

Just wanted to say hi....our stories have some striking similarities...wishing you the best in your journey!

[LoveMyCanadian 0]

Hi Lori! Our story is quite like your's as well. Its hard for people to understand sometimes, but that is not their fault. Your love is true (obviously!) and no one can take that away from you. Congrats to you on finding such a great man

[Leng198 0]

Your story is beautiful and gave me goosebumps. Good goosebumps. I wish you all the best and hopefully things move quickly for u.

[misterbigtoe 45]

Such a beautifully heartfelt retelling of the beginning of your happily ever after! All our best.

[O & C 3]

Welcome to V.J. Wishing you a great journey...