Fraud Ex Ordered Removed

[Married2009 32]

A fitting close to a terrible chapter in your life! As others have said - glad justice was served, and you are free of him in all ways.

[Leedah 22]

Thanks for the kind words.

And yes, I am very happy now and the outcome was just icing on the cake. hehehe.

In reference to someone else's question,...I did see some of the signs. Normally if the behavior had happened initially in the U.S., I would have promptly disappeared from his sight. Unfortunately, as we all tend to do, I equated the behavior to a cultural difference. I actually thought he would get to the U.S. and see the level of decorum and apply it to himself. Not. lol

Anyway, time has been good to me and I've gained a great career out of this mess as well as learned a boatload about immigration.

For those in a similar situation, know that time will help you. I was a hot mess with a side of depressed when this all happened last year. Now, amazingly, I don't feel anything bad or good; I'm ambivalent about the situation. Someone told me that love and hate are two opposite emotions. Each one has a hold on your psyche. It's only when your at the "eh whatever" point that you are truly free.

I went from the "oh my god, I have gotten him arrested,...my baby is gone",...to "he put his no good hands on me?!? After all I did for him! That rat bas*$#D is going DOWN!".....

After a year, I sometimes have to remind myself of the journey I took and the strength and fortitude I showed in getting him here. Now I apply that same tenacity to whatever I'm doing and boy has it paid off.

If you put the same energy into yourself that you put into others, imagine what you could accomplish.

Leedah

[caybee 21]

If you put the same energy into yourself that you put into others, imagine what you could accomplish.

[gina_raluca 14]

Thanks for the kind words.

And yes, I am very happy now and the outcome was just icing on the cake. hehehe.

In reference to someone else's question,...I did see some of the signs. Normally if the behavior had happened initially in the U.S., I would have promptly disappeared from his sight. Unfortunately, as we all tend to do, I equated the behavior to a cultural difference. I actually thought he would get to the U.S. and see the level of decorum and apply it to himself. Not. lol

Anyway, time has been good to me and I've gained a great career out of this mess as well as learned a boatload about immigration.

For those in a similar situation, know that time will help you. I was a hot mess with a side of depressed when this all happened last year. Now, amazingly, I don't feel anything bad or good; I'm ambivalent about the situation. Someone told me that love and hate are two opposite emotions. Each one has a hold on your psyche. It's only when your at the "eh whatever" point that you are truly free.

I went from the "oh my god, I have gotten him arrested,...my baby is gone",...to "he put his no good hands on me?!? After all I did for him! That rat bas*$#D is going DOWN!".....

After a year, I sometimes have to remind myself of the journey I took and the strength and fortitude I showed in getting him here. Now I apply that same tenacity to whatever I'm doing and boy has it paid off.

If you put the same energy into yourself that you put into others, imagine what you could accomplish.

Leedah

Wow, it's nice that you were able to transform this terrible experience into an empowering one for you. Do you mind my asking what career you are referring to?

[Leedah 22]

I became a journalist and freelance writer.

Always had a passion for it, just didn't pursue it professionally until now.

[llxxll 5]

congrats...I'm waiting to see this justice for myself too

i dont know where I am finding the energy to fight so much

Edited May 31, 2010 by llxxll

[Klins328 0]

On 5/20/2010 at 10:46 AM, Leedah said:

Thanks for the kind words.

And yes, I am very happy now and the outcome was just icing on the cake. hehehe.

In reference to someone else's question,...I did see some of the signs. Normally if the behavior had happened initially in the U.S., I would have promptly disappeared from his sight. Unfortunately, as we all tend to do, I equated the behavior to a cultural difference. I actually thought he would get to the U.S. and see the level of decorum and apply it to himself. Not. lol

Anyway, time has been good to me and I've gained a great career out of this mess as well as learned a boatload about immigration.

For those in a similar situation, know that time will help you. I was a hot mess with a side of depressed when this all happened last year. Now, amazingly, I don't feel anything bad or good; I'm ambivalent about the situation. Someone told me that love and hate are two opposite emotions. Each one has a hold on your psyche. It's only when your at the "eh whatever" point that you are truly free.

I went from the "oh my god, I have gotten him arrested,...my baby is gone",...to "he put his no good hands on me?!? After all I did for him! That rat bas*$#D is going DOWN!".....

After a year, I sometimes have to remind myself of the journey I took and the strength and fortitude I showed in getting him here. Now I apply that same tenacity to whatever I'm doing and boy has it paid off.

If you put the same energy into yourself that you put into others, imagine what you could accomplish.

Leedah

Hi, i have a very similar situation, need so advise, 

[portorusa 431]

On 5/19/2010 at 8:40 AM, Leedah said:

Hi Everyone.

Happy Day Today!!

My ex whom I married was finally ordered to be removed!

For those of you who may not remember me, my case involved a spouse whom I petitioned for using the I-130 (received a CR-1) conditional green card) 

I am not familiar with your situation and looking at your Timeline, I am confused. Marriage in 2006, entered USA in 2009, why did he get a conditional greencard? Also, does that mean that he was out of status for about 10 years in this country before being deported?

[Ban Hammer 12,901]

old thread closed.  this thread is from 2010....