I married a woman, not a country

[mendeleev 69]

Anyway, despite not receiving even a hug on February 23rd, I am still going to honor my wife on March 8th, because she's indeed a WOMAN, regardless of where she is from. March 8th is a holiday declared by the UN. However, the USA has always abhorred the UN. Maybe the reason why this holiday is not even mentioned in this country.

That's the way it works here!

The UN declared it a holiday -- a sign they value innovation coming out of the good old USA. But, in this country, innovation is only acceptable if it comes from politically acceptable quarters. That's why Women's Day isn't celebrated here: the US originators of the holiday are deemed politically incorrect by those who decide these things.

VV will understand.

[Darnell 8,480]

Good Morning VisaVeteran.

Hey - I was asking a real question - had no snide comments or snarkiness in it.

Can you address it, soonish?

[Martyshk 137]

I don't like engaging in debate with VV. It is an exercise in futility.

Also, I am a she.

I apologize for my ignorance

[Martyshk 137]

Mart...you really are a rookie calling eekee a "He." Get with the program.

And have I ever claimed anything else? Your shot failed miserably. You can see the date I joined VJ in my profile, and it hasn't been long. But if it's a measure of some "skill", that's kind of sad.

[Brad and Vika 129]

Although ekee and I haven't always agreed on everything, I have always found her to be tactful and reasonably patient. She should decide to take offence or not if some one isn't clear about her gender from the screen name, no? Apparently she didn't, so 'nuff said.

[visaveteran 0]

Just one further point...if someone (Mart) chooses to invoke or provoke someone (eekee) into "taking me on" then they, at the very least, ought to know who the person is. This is not just an innocent mistake, it was in provocation.

Edited February 27, 2010 by visaveteran

[Martyshk 137]

Just one further point...if someone (Mart) chooses to invoke or provoke someone (eekee) into "taking me on" then they, at the very least, ought to know who the person is. This is not just an innocent mistake, it was in provocation.

I think you take yourself too seriously.

I've got much more important things to worry about other than invoking someone or provoking anyone for that matter.

You started a topic, all I wanted is another person's view on it.

[visaveteran 0]

You started a topic, all I wanted is another person's view on it.

Oh, right...the topic you called "#######." Yes, I see your intention was to simply add to the topic discussion. I know you'd never try to stir up trouble.

Turns out you asked the very least informed person on Russian marriage on the forum. A young, American. unmarried female college student.

[Cixelsyd 1]

Turns out you asked the very least informed person on Russian marriage on the forum. A young, American. unmarried female college student.

[eekee 182]

I wouldn't take offense to mart assuming that someone on the RUB forum is male, because 95% of the time, he'd have been right. It'd be like walking into a gay bar and being mad that someone thought you were a homosexual.

[Martyshk 137]

Oh, right...the topic you called "#######." Yes, I see your intention was to simply add to the topic discussion. I know you'd never try to stir up trouble.

Turns out you asked the very least informed person on Russian marriage on the forum. A young, American. unmarried female college student.

And have you ever offered an advice to anyone, besides on how to hate on one's Russian wife's country?

Seriously now, this is a legitimate question.

[slim 1,533]

I've got a great idea -

NO MORE REPORTING in the RUB forum.

Whenever MODs stop by they usually do so to interject a quip about this or that, not to actually moderate something here on the forum. Only when you guys started tattle-telling on each other for calling names and saying mean and hurtful stuff did we start having threads locked and people getting booted. Time was when the men on this forum were men and we didn't need to call mom every time johnny said something mean about us.

If I wanted to read petty arguments and name calling, I'd head over to Off Topic where that ####### is abundant.

If you guys have problems with each other or problems with mods, that's your business. Take it elsewhere. Or, fine, hash it out here on the RUB forum but for goodness sakes, quit involving the mods.

[Brad and Vika 129]

I've got a great idea -

NO MORE REPORTING in the RUB forum.

Whenever MODs stop by they usually do so to interject a quip about this or that, not to actually moderate something here on the forum. Only when you guys started tattle-telling on each other for calling names and saying mean and hurtful stuff did we start having threads locked and people getting booted. Time was when the men on this forum were men and we didn't need to call mom every time johnny said something mean about us.

If I wanted to read petty arguments and name calling, I'd head over to Off Topic where that ####### is abundant.

If you guys have problems with each other or problems with mods, that's your business. Take it elsewhere. Or, fine, hash it out here on the RUB forum but for goodness sakes, quit involving the mods.

Reported for telling us what to do. You aren't the boss of me

Seriously though, I agree that we SHOULD be able to play together (nicely or otherwise). Barring that - everybody should get the same enforcement or penalty.

[slim 1,533]

A few years back there was no moderation needed here in the RUB forum. We still don't need it and we're not getting moderated because people are having real and actual issues, we're getting moderated because people are being petty and clicking the report button instead of just pressing on with their business and/or doing it in true internets style - PWNING their competition!

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

Well, Feb.23rd came and went and nobody posted about the great gifts or royal treatment they received for "Defenders of the Fatherland" Day from their wives. Or did I miss something?

My wife never even mentioned it to me and I'm glad...as I did not defend the fatherland and I get enough attention on Veterans Day and Father's Day...American celebrations. And soon Int.Woman's Day will arrive and I will respond similarly. You see, I never joined the American Communist Party.

I get that most American men on this forum married a country as well as a woman. OK, good for you if you can't hold onto your own heritage. I married only a woman. I'm not Russo-centric or play games about honoring Russia...as there's little to honor. I think Boris Yeltsin represented Russia in the modern context most accurately...a stumbling drunk who let a historic opportunity slip by; and after he was done, he turned the country over to a KGB dictator. I used to fear the Red Army but now I see that most of their soldiers were drunk, armed with inferior weapons and poorly trained. The best thing Russia produced was the KGB which still runs Russia.

My wife does not ask for Russian TV or movies. Never celebrates Russian holidays and has adapted well to living as an American. She understands...I married her, not Russia.

What a shame. I find the difference in our history and culture and language to be stimulating and interesting. I certainly hope my wife never gives up her heritage and cuture. I certainly hope we keep our place in Ukraine and we go there often, even more often than we do now. It is a country with a lot of "texture" and I always have and always will enjoy ebery moment I spend there. I feel I say this without any loss of loyalty or interest in my own country. I hope my home will always be bi-tri-quad-lingual. I have no problem that our home language is 80% Russian, Alla and the boys get plenty of English and now that Alla is TEACHING English (how do you like that VV? The former pinko-commie is teaching AMERICANS to speak English ! Actually you ought to be thrilled...yes? Not only can she "speak American" she can teach "American")

Maybe I am just old, but I have found that if you make the inevitable an enjoyable part of your life you will be much happier. If doing things for your family and children are your SOURCE of fun and enjoyment, you never have ill feelings. My wife's culture is part of our relationship, I cannot ignore it, I am glad it is enjoyable for me.