The saddest day of my life!!!

[Nwanyioma 11]

It comes with great saddness today to announce that my fiancee was denied the visa in Nigeria. Im really upset right now but according to my fiancee he said that the consular officer denied him the visa because I didnt meet his parents and he didnt meet mine. I dont know what to do? How can I request a second interview? She said its for immigration purposes. Buts its not true. He answered all the questions correctly. Well let me continue crying. I need all your help right now.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

It comes with great saddness today to announce that my fiancee was denied the visa in Nigeria. Im really upset right now but according to my fiancee he said that the consular officer denied him the visa because I didnt meet his parents and he didnt meet mine. I dont know what to do? How can I request a second interview? She said its for immigration purposes. Buts its not true. He answered all the questions correctly. Well let me continue crying. I need all your help right now.

Nwanyioma,

Oh, dear, i'm so sorry to hear this! My hubby was denied as well and it was the most shocking and painful thing - so I know you feel a complete mess right now... however, there are a great amount of people here who will hopefully be of help, I can offer my input but I'm not so knowledgeable so I know you will get much more advice. People are reapproved.

First of all, I am not sure if this applies to fiance - but, some have made efforts via their senator or a lawyer to stop their petition that is denied from returning to the U.S. - for example I am not certain one can be recommended as denied for not meeting the parents. There are many situations where it is a hardship for the couple to meet each others in-laws. The goal in my opinion would be to get someone with some leverage, find out the reasons specifically for denial and then give them reasons to offer a second interview. I know they do this for spouses, I can't imagine it's different for fiance. You need to get the denied petition from leaving Nigeria if possible!

Also I know you will remember that an embassy/Consulate can send a recommendation of review or denial, but it doesn't mean you're denied - flat out, remember that is not the final decision.

Also I would look to see when your fiance visa petition is due to expire. It may say it expiration date on the approval notice. If the embassy does not reaffirm that expired visa petition generally the U.S. will send a letter to you saying it's expired and to feel free to reapply.

I know you were probably more then excited to be welcoming home your guy, there is no words that soothe that loss for you - I know others tried to soothe me but I felt so confused and exhausted and scared because I knew I couldn't just move to Africa. So I can imagine in some way just how painful this day is for you. I hope others give you some good advice too...

Take Care,

[evanscholly 1]

It comes with great saddness today to announce that my fiancee was denied the visa in Nigeria. Im really upset right now but according to my fiancee he said that the consular officer denied him the visa because I didnt meet his parents and he didnt meet mine. I dont know what to do? How can I request a second interview? She said its for immigration purposes. Buts its not true. He answered all the questions correctly. Well let me continue crying. I need all your help right now.

My dear I really don't know what to say but i did remember that one of the pictures they CO looked at when my husband went for his interview was the picture he took with my uncle, he said she kept asking him about the picture and the name of my uncle. I am so sorry to hear this, i was so looking forward to hearing good news this morning but all is not lost, you can always go back home, get married and file for a K3 if you can do that. I feel for you and believe me i can imagine what you are going through right now. Be strong and take some time off to plan your next step. May God's comfort be your portion.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

I am so sorry for your pain.

I do not think that is a valid reason for denial. They must ahve several reason, because I never met my

SO's parents and he never met mine. We met through a mutual friend as I believe you did.

Does your SO's parents live in the same town? That would be definatly a red flag. My SO's family did not live in travel distance and are extreemly ederly. Although with his intenions I was not going to meet them anywho.

[Nwanyioma 11]

Whats so funny is that my Im igbo and my fiancee is yoruba. We're from two different tribes. She said "How can you stay with a stranger"? The CO doesnt know anything. That our relationship is not bonafide? What nonsense. Im done crying I have a headache. I miss my fiancee so much. Im looking for airline tickets to Nigeria in April. Im just so devestated right now. Words can express how I feel right now.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Whats so funny is that my Im igbo and my fiancee is yoruba. We're from two different tribes. She said "How can you stay with a stranger"? The CO doesnt know anything. That our relationship is not bonafide? What nonsense. Im done crying I have a headache. I miss my fiancee so much. Im looking for airline tickets to Nigeria in April. Im just so devestated right now. Words can express how I feel right now.

Hi Nwanyioma again,

I imagine there are no words to express your feelings, once you have gotten some rest - if I was you I would try to find out every detail possible - in writing from your SO. When I was upset and listened about the interview it was not until later that when I wasn't exhausted by my feelings that I could think about what the next step was.

From what little I have read, it appears that there are many times in which there is a denial based on a not bonafide relationship. That is a very painful thing to hear. I know my SO brought our photos and videos and emails and such and it was never even looked at - that alone made me feel upset when we too heard the no bonafide responce.

What is the issue with your tribal differences? This is 2010. Before you two forget anything, write every detail you can remember - so later you can prepare yourselves using it. This day too will pass, and I really hope you fly over, plan a trip to be with your love and you remember what's most important, your love.

Take Care... [[[[[hugs]]]]]]

[Y's_habibitk 2]

there are many people here who have been where you are now.

You can also check out the pinned topic in MENA about petitions being sent back... there are some lovely strong women who have suceeded in getting an approval after denial.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=3896 Its a large thread and alot to take in, but when youre ready I suggest you read it all.

Im sorry for your pain and dissapointment.

[Twisted K 2]

there are many people here who have been where you are now.

You can also check out the pinned topic in MENA about petitions being sent back... there are some lovely strong women who have suceeded in getting an approval after denial.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=3896 Its a large thread and alot to take in, but when youre ready I suggest you read it all.

Im sorry for your pain and dissapointment.

we are nearing the end of this second round of immigration this weekend. my now husband will have his interview on monday morning (sunday night here). it has been a long, rough road, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

[Starlight95 1]

It comes with great saddness today to announce that my fiancee was denied the visa in Nigeria. Im really upset right now but according to my fiancee he said that the consular officer denied him the visa because I didnt meet his parents and he didnt meet mine. I dont know what to do? How can I request a second interview? She said its for immigration purposes. Buts its not true. He answered all the questions correctly. Well let me continue crying. I need all your help right now.

I can completely relate to what you are going through. There are tons of people on this site who have succeeded the 2nd time. I know the waiting is the toughest part, but like Twisted K said there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes it takes us a bit longer.

[momov31 2]

Im sorry, im praying it works out some kind of way. Stay blessed

[GabiandVi 34]

So sorry to hear your sad news. I'll keep you in my thoughts. I hope it all works out as soon as possible.

[idocare 3]

It comes with great saddness today to announce that my fiancee was denied the visa in Nigeria. Im really upset right now but according to my fiancee he said that the consular officer denied him the visa because I didnt meet his parents and he didnt meet mine. I dont know what to do? How can I request a second interview? She said its for immigration purposes. Buts its not true. He answered all the questions correctly. Well let me continue crying. I need all your help right now.

[idocare 3]

So sorry to hear that your fiance was denied a visa. The good thing is that you can now go and live with him in his country. He was willing to come here for love, so can't you also do the same? If being together is the most important thing, then you do have a way to be together.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

try reading the travel advisory on the travel.state.gov site for a few of the reasons NOT to run to Nigeria.

CRIME: Violent crime committed by individual criminals and gangs, as well as by some persons wearing police and military uniforms, is a problem, especially at night. Crime is particularly acute in Lagos. Some visitors and resident Americans have experienced armed muggings, assaults, burglary, carjacking, kidnappings and extortion, often involving violence. Home invasions remain a serious threat in Lagos, with armed robbers accessing even guarded compounds by following, or tailgating, residents or visitors arriving by car into the compound, subduing guards and gaining entry into homes or apartments. Armed robbers in Lagos also access waterfront compounds by boat. U.S. citizens, as well as Nigerians and other expatriates, have been victims of armed robbery at banks and grocery stores, and on airport roads during both daylight and evening hours. Law enforcement authorities usually respond slowly or not at all, and provide little or no investigative support to victims. U.S. citizens, Nigerians and other expatriates have experienced harassment and shakedowns at checkpoints and during encounters with Nigerian law enforcement officials. Traveling outside of major cities after dark is not recommended due to both crime and road safety concerns.

sounds like that place any lovers would want as their first home.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

try reading the travel advisory on the travel.state.gov site for a few of the reasons NOT to run to Nigeria.

CRIME: Violent crime committed by individual criminals and gangs, as well as by some persons wearing police and military uniforms, is a problem, especially at night. Crime is particularly acute in Lagos. Some visitors and resident Americans have experienced armed muggings, assaults, burglary, carjacking, kidnappings and extortion, often involving violence. Home invasions remain a serious threat in Lagos, with armed robbers accessing even guarded compounds by following, or tailgating, residents or visitors arriving by car into the compound, subduing guards and gaining entry into homes or apartments. Armed robbers in Lagos also access waterfront compounds by boat. U.S. citizens, as well as Nigerians and other expatriates, have been victims of armed robbery at banks and grocery stores, and on airport roads during both daylight and evening hours. Law enforcement authorities usually respond slowly or not at all, and provide little or no investigative support to victims. U.S. citizens, Nigerians and other expatriates have experienced harassment and shakedowns at checkpoints and during encounters with Nigerian law enforcement officials. Traveling outside of major cities after dark is not recommended due to both crime and road safety concerns.

sounds like that place any lovers would want as their first home.

"here here" I agree, while idocare means well and normally someone could and should be willing to move to their foreign love's place - if anyone is traveling or planning a lengthy stay to this country more then the extra caution is needed, it's an unusually unstable place, and no one at the state department will advise you live there now, hopefully things will change for the people there one day, it's a sad thing. The answer for what is next is in your heart, with careful thought, time, prayer, etc... you will know what's best for you. Wishing you peace for now.