really pissed and hurt:(

[Welshcookie 17]

[mychelle 1]

I just got off the phone with my husband. He is such an a## today. So we are actually having a big fight right now, because he wants me to ask for his permission if we can discuss a problem or not. What the #### is going on here???? I thought it is part of being married to talk about problems. I am so pissed right now. So I actually decided to take a break for at least a week. If he wanna have his precious time on his own, FINE he can have plenty!

Im so hurt Why is he doing that to me?

Isabel

umm...don't feel bad. my fiance actually asked me once to please put an argument on hold and to reschedule it for the next day because he had an exam and he was studying for it. he was actually pretty nice about it and said....he really wanted to talk about our problems but at that time he had something more important to do. at first i was annoyed but then i realized...his exams were more important. anyway, i forgot about the argument the next day (it seemed to petty already....we'll actually it was just didn't know it at that time.)

i'm just saying...i'm sure if it was REALLY REALLY important...he probably wouldn't say that to you.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

ouch

[Ban Hammer 14,078]

ouch

kinda like that one i've seen about divorce is having one's wallet ripped out thru their genitals

[I'm Gone 60]

I guess we know who's husband will have FTD on speed dial. LOL After being married 4 1/2 years wife not talking to me for a week might be a good thing. LOL

[Dina 0]

My parents were happily married for nearly 29 year, until my mother passed away. They certainly had arguments during that time but even as a child I always knew that they loved each other. The best piece of relationship advice my mother ever gave me is this: Choose your fights carefully.

For example, how important is it to you that he puts the darn toilet seat down, is it really worth an argument? Or is it worth a fight when he forgets to put the toothpaste cap back on (my own pet peeve.)

Watching the relationship my parents had I learned that the ability to communicate and compromise were essential. For example, I buy toothpast that is a pump or has a flip cap so the issue of the toothpaste cap is no longer a problem.

Newlyweds in particular fight of the silliest things. The first argument I had with my ex was over the laundry, specifically, should the detergent go in first (my way) or on top of the clothes (his retarded way)? I won that one.

So, in summary, communicate (not speaking to him for a week would not qualify as communication, incidentally), compromise and choose your arguments.

Good luck!

Edited July 23, 2006 by Dina

[thesnowman 1]

I think that as soon as a men realise that they are never going to win an arguement against a woman, even if you have compelling and overwhellming evidence that you are right, couples will be all the better for it.

Took me two years to realise that, if I have a greivance I bring it up in a social way and when she wants to get all 'argumentative' I get all 'yes dear' and wait for the storm to pass

[Peter Miami 1]

I hope the best for both of you but you guys need to open up the communication lines. Approach it from a different direction.

Good luck,

Peter Miami

[Fetaria 0]

Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.

Good book about how we communicate differently and how to not change each other but understand and help connect.

[Fandango 1,440]

Think more like a man and let the small stuff roll off your back. I sure wouldn't want to be a man with a woman constantly nagging about little things all the time.

I have a theory about why that is so. Most women were raised and encouraged to be the nurturers - to show sympathy, compassion and console or confront someone when they sense something is wrong. Men have been taught to persevere even when they get hurt - be tough, be strong. Those traits are in essense good traits that both men and women should have interchangeably. The problem is when they are taken to an extreme - the woman MUST know what is wrong and do whatever she can to remedy the problem, while the guy will keep taking it on the chin proudly even if his jaw is broken until he makes it to the finish line.

So the secret for the woman is to know when he's made it to finish line so she can tend to his wounds and the man just needs to know where the finish line is.

I think this is a bunch of bullchit right here....Seriously. And no offense, Bethanie..cos you know I love ya girl...but what's this 'think like a man' stuff?

I think both posts here reek of sexism....it's like that shite 'television for women' ####### that shows nothing but tearjerkers. I'm a woman, and I wouldn't watch it. Just like I don't hapeen to think 'being tough and strong' is a male characteristic either. I also don't think women are NOT taught to perservere when they're hurt...my family certainly didn't say 'oh honey you have a uterus, so take a tissue and have a moment' I take stuff on the chin, I am strong...just like my partner is sympathetic and compassionate. This 'men are from mars, women from venus' chit is just that....######.

btw, 'take it on the chin proudly even if the jaw is broken' omG how up your own azz does that sound? 'I am man hear me raor'

the secret is for a woman to tend to a man's wounds? and to know when he's made it to the finish line??? #######? what finish line? and ####### does the WOMAN need to tend to the man? Its a mutual job...each should tend to each other.....omG get over yourself!!!!

The bottom line is this: a woman can't seem to air summat that's bothering her without being labeled 'a nag' 'a stereotypical woman' etc....yet if a man airs his grievances, he's 'in touch with his feelings'. It's #######. Just like I can be a biotch and some smart azz can come out with 'PMS time?'

Take things for what they are, and stop trying to put everything in a nice neat box. A PERSON has the right to tell his/her partner what's bothering HIM OR HER without everyone bein all 'omG what a girl'

[KarenCee 3]

I think that as soon as a men realise that they are never going to win an arguement against a woman, even if you have compelling and overwhellming evidence that you are right, couples will be all the better for it.

Took me two years to realise that, if I have a greivance I bring it up in a social way and when she wants to get all 'argumentative' I get all 'yes dear' and wait for the storm to pass

Hmmm....maybe that's the way things work in your marriage but it isn't like that in ours. I can and do admit when I am wrong or when my husband is right and the same for him. When we have a problem we don't have to bring it up "socially"...we actually sit down and talk about it. Novel idea, isn't it! It's that little thing called communication.

[Fandango 1,440]

Think more like a man and let the small stuff roll off your back. I sure wouldn't want to be a man with a woman constantly nagging about little things all the time.

I have a theory about why that is so. Most women were raised and encouraged to be the nurturers - to show sympathy, compassion and console or confront someone when they sense something is wrong. Men have been taught to persevere even when they get hurt - be tough, be strong. Those traits are in essense good traits that both men and women should have interchangeably. The problem is when they are taken to an extreme - the woman MUST know what is wrong and do whatever she can to remedy the problem, while the guy will keep taking it on the chin proudly even if his jaw is broken until he makes it to the finish line.

So the secret for the woman is to know when he's made it to finish line so she can tend to his wounds and the man just needs to know where the finish line is.

I think this is a bunch of bullchit right here....Seriously. And no offense, Bethanie..cos you know I love ya girl...but what's this 'think like a man' stuff?

I think both posts here reek of sexism....it's like that shite 'television for women' ####### that shows nothing but tearjerkers. I'm a woman, and I wouldn't watch it. Just like I don't hapeen to think 'being tough and strong' is a male characteristic either. I also don't think women are NOT taught to perservere when they're hurt...my family certainly didn't say 'oh honey you have a uterus, so take a tissue and have a moment' I take stuff on the chin, I am strong...just like my partner is sympathetic and compassionate. This 'men are from mars, women from venus' chit is just that....######.

btw, 'take it on the chin proudly even if the jaw is broken' omG how up your own azz does that sound? 'I am man hear me raor'

the secret is for a woman to tend to a man's wounds? and to know when he's made it to the finish line??? #######? what finish line? and ####### does the WOMAN need to tend to the man? Its a mutual job...each should tend to each other.....omG get over yourself!!!!

The bottom line is this: a woman can't seem to air summat that's bothering her without being labeled 'a nag' 'a stereotypical woman' etc....yet if a man airs his grievances, he's 'in touch with his feelings'. It's #######. Just like I can be a biotch and some smart azz can come out with 'PMS time?'

Take things for what they are, and stop trying to put everything in a nice neat box. A PERSON has the right to tell his/her partner what's bothering HIM OR HER without everyone bein all 'omG what a girl'

Didn't want this lost on the last page because I reall feel strongly about this & would like a response.

[luvaLimey 0]

I think this is a bunch of bullchit right here....Seriously. And no offense, Bethanie..cos you know I love ya girl...but what's this 'think like a man' stuff?

I think both posts here reek of sexism....it's like that shite 'television for women' ####### that shows nothing but tearjerkers. I'm a woman, and I wouldn't watch it. Just like I don't hapeen to think 'being tough and strong' is a male characteristic either. I also don't think women are NOT taught to perservere when they're hurt...my family certainly didn't say 'oh honey you have a uterus, so take a tissue and have a moment' I take stuff on the chin, I am strong...just like my partner is sympathetic and compassionate. This 'men are from mars, women from venus' chit is just that....######.

btw, 'take it on the chin proudly even if the jaw is broken' omG how up your own azz does that sound? 'I am man hear me raor'

the secret is for a woman to tend to a man's wounds? and to know when he's made it to the finish line??? #######? what finish line? and ####### does the WOMAN need to tend to the man? Its a mutual job...each should tend to each other.....omG get over yourself!!!!

The bottom line is this: a woman can't seem to air summat that's bothering her without being labeled 'a nag' 'a stereotypical woman' etc....yet if a man airs his grievances, he's 'in touch with his feelings'. It's #######. Just like I can be a biotch and some smart azz can come out with 'PMS time?'

Take things for what they are, and stop trying to put everything in a nice neat box. A PERSON has the right to tell his/her partner what's bothering HIM OR HER without everyone bein all 'omG what a girl'

I completely agree with you.

and I LOVE the pic in your sig! XD

Edited July 24, 2006 by luvaLimey

[CarolineM 0]

I need a standing ovation smiley.

[KarenCee 3]

You know...this is just what those guys are expecting...a whole bunch of us women to respond to their comments just so they can say "look! we were right!" are you going to give them that satisfaction?