The Cake Smoosh

[Sister Fracas 5]

Nah, I've always found it silly...and it would have been even more out of place in England, since it's not a tradition they have. We did give each other a bite of the cake though.

We also didn't do the wedding bouquet or garter tosses....instead we decided to honor the longest married couple by giving the wife a smaller version of my bouquet and the husband a small bottle of champagne.

[silvanski 1]

We did it, under loud cheering from the family "shove it up, shove it up!!!!"

they were saying ."shove it up"

yeah , this is TX y'know

[chri'stina 190]

We didn't smash the cake...plus, Sujeet's 1st American wedding experience was ours so he had no idea that people even do that. Indian weddings are very different than ours.

I didn't wear a garter, didn't see the point of it. Even if I was wearing one, there'd be NO WAY we'd do the whole show of taking it off weirdly at our wedding. I wore Indian clothes anyway. I did throw a bouquet though! My sister caught it, but she was not the next one who got married.

Edited July 4, 2006 by stina&suj

[tomica52 0]

Ok, so I'm watching TLC while sipping my wine and the program is about 'Wild Weddings'. Can someone explain the 'tradition' that some couples adopt of smooshing cake in each other's faces? Yeah, it's cute. Yeah it cuts the tension... but c'mon.

Thoughts anyone?

Yeah... I find that to be weird as well. I mean, what are you supposed to do at that point?? Stay messy and sticky throughout the wedding? Go and clean up??

[ChristinaM 0]

Always strikes me as an odd "tradition" - for one, it's messy and most people pay good money for dresses and tuxes and the like, and secondly, smooshing not eating is a waste of good cake IMHO!!

[jelti 0]

No cake smooshing for us. We just fed it to each other, and I dabbed a bit of frosting on Aidan's nose. It was cute.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

We didn't have a wedding cake Still waiting on that reception maybe we'll get around to it in time for our 5th wedding anniversary. But then, can one really smoosh cheesecake, cause that's definately what we're oging to have.

[Ban Hammer 12,897]

omG never...seriously there'd be no wedding booty...NONE

No cake smooshing for us. We just fed it to each other, and I dabbed a bit of frosting on Aidan's nose. It was cute.

that sounds like a very good alternative. i'm not gonna do the cake smoosh, i think it's disrespectful to one's partner and plus....nessa will kick my butt

[Welshcookie 17]

I have never heard of it before

Just as well we aren't having cake!

[CanGal 1]

We did the smooshing! It was fun, messy but fun. we got a big cheer for doing so

[luvaLimey 0]

omG never...seriously there'd be no wedding booty...NONE

No cake smooshing for us. We just fed it to each other, and I dabbed a bit of frosting on Aidan's nose. It was cute.

that sounds like a very good alternative. i'm not gonna do the cake smoosh, i think it's disrespectful to one's partner and plus....nessa will kick my butt

I agree, I've always thought it was incrediby disrepectful. Have you seen some of those videos? smearing it around on each other's faces... trying to "get" the other person good. As Gemma pointed out, some brides have gotten nose-bleeds from it. Way to start your married life together: giving your wife a bloody nose.

Besides that, it's just plain tacky.

I'd rather do something completely non-traditional... like get married in an airplane and then jump out. yeah, there's a chance for a nose-bleed with that, but it wont be because we're trying to hurt each other, or make the other person look bad.

[JenT 0]

Interesting replies... I expected both ends of the spectrum, of course. After posting this, I asked David about it.... he shares the same opinion as I... there are other ways to have fun at one's reception. We're not planning a big to-do, but when brides do, and spend a fortune on hair, makeup, and the dress, not to mention all of the other little details that one tries so hard to 'control', why spoil that with a wad of sugar and flour smooshed all over the place?

We are planning to have Black Forest Cake as our wedding cake, seeing as how we met in the Black Forest area. Seems appropos...

[sparkofcreation 0]

I hate that "tradition" and was glad G. had never heard of it. We fed each other a bite of cake politely.

I have friends who got married who each stuck their pinky fingers in the icing then touched each other's faces (he put it on her cheek, she put it on the tip of his nose) and that was kind of cute, but I still prefer the old-fashioned cake-feeding a million times over!

[Miranda&James 8]

My mom threatened to kill James if he did it! I think it's tacky - you've probably paid a LOT of money for that makeup and dress and you don't want to ruin it! A little icing on the nose is cute but I'm not into the cake smashing.

[tigretigre 0]

Now don't get offended, y'all. I can understand the pressure to smoosh, seeing as how it rarely fails to delight the assembled gathering.

That said, no way are D and I smooshing. First of all, we wouldn't do anything like that in real life. If we were feeding cake to each other, we would do it properly and as neatly as possible. If one of us said to the other "wanna play with our food and make a mess?" then that would be different, of course.

We also just don't like the marital hostility implied by the gesture. We feel the same way about the smoosh that we do about those awful cake-toppers featuring the groom trying to run away and the bride dragging him to the church door by his collar: plenty of people find them hilarious, and they aren't an appropriate decoration for a wedding cake (or thing to do with a wedding cake, in the case of the smoosh). But maybe we're just no fun.

As for the other traditional reception antics, tossing the bouquet is sweet but I'm carrying a silk fan instead of a bouquet, and I could put someone's eye out if I threw that. When it comes to throwing the garter, the very idea of hitching up the smart 1930s-style wedding gown made by my mother, removing one of my undergarments in public, then tossing it to a group of gentlemen guests horrified my fiance. He's just like that. I love him.