How do you get along with your spouse now?

[sj5 4]

I'm curious how other couple get along after a year living together.

This is my little story:

When we were just living together and newly wedd., we were fighting. My husband said,"I've never with woman that is hard headed as you, super picky with foods, and with an attitude!", so I replied,"You already knew me before we got married, why you want to change me now?", he didn't say anything. To make a long story short. I was an azz too. We fought infront of his mother , I thought it was disrespectful.(My mother inlaw sent me an email with advice in it, when she get home to her house.) After all that crapped, we get along so much better. Our friends asked how long we have been together. So I asked my hubby and he said "Is like we have been living together for 10 years."

Edited November 29, 2008 by VJ's Opportunist

[Welshcookie 17]

You never get to truly "know" a person unless you spend time living with them...I don't care how long anyone says they spent talking online and know that person inside out....you don't...until you are dealing with life's irritations and picking up dirty underwear off the floor.

The first year I lived with my husband was hell....and I had known him personally as a friend for years.

Edited November 29, 2008 by Welshcookie

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[sj5 4]

You never get to truly "know" a person unless you spend time living with them...I don't care how long anyone says they spent talking online and know that person inside out....you don't...until you are dealing with life's irritations and picking up dirty underwear off the floor.

The first year I lived with my husband was hell....and I had known him personally as a friend for years.

Picking up underwear off the floor.

[Ban Hammer 14,183]

My husband said,"I've never with woman that is hard headed as you,

are you nessa with a different vj name?

[Sofiyya 1,687]

We're doing great! Biggest issue is about how long to stay in bed every day

[*JG* 2]

That first year is the most difficult.

[Brian-Charisma 0]

My husband said,"I've never with woman that is hard headed as you, super picky with foods, and with an attitude!",

I am a newly wed just last November 11 and we had a long distance love affair before coming here...

and adjusting with anyone is the most difficult part....he also always saying I am a hard headed and sometimes with attitude that makes him upset but we are trying to talk about it as early as we can...he is a patient person and always trying to explain things to me

and how things becomes worst if we don"t work together and the problem is I am sensitive and I am trying to overcome it.....

I am a person who don't fight back I just listened and afterward I talked to him about my feelings if I can"t handle it

and he comfort me and saying Sorry for hurting my feelings...I am so blessed to have a loving and understanding husband....

i hope we can survive for the next coming days and years!!!! :thumbs:

until you are dealing with life's irritations and picking up dirty underwear off the floor.

I also picked my husband's clothes, underwear off the floor :D

and as of now I am a plain housewife that stay at home and doing the household chores and trying to cook food for him.....

[JVKn'CVO 11]

First year has passed, and it was wonderful. Justin complements my temper perfectly, he is so sweet and calm so he helps me be that way too.

All the little things he does make me happy. We are still very affectionate with each other ... And if I want him to pick up the underwear from the floor, I just ask

Saludos,

Caro

[caybee 21]

Things were always good with us, but OMG we had little spats about such silly things during the first year! It was just the adjustment to living together and some personality differences, combined with his frustration at not having any autonomy (job, driver's license, knowing the system) and being stuck at home and dependent on the wifey so much. Now we've settled into our individual routines. He's making friends at work and being his own man and has just bought a car. His ability to function as a normal adult here has made all the difference in the world for him and for us. We couldn't be happier.

Edited November 29, 2008 by caybee

[Dr. Obvious 49]

We actually found out that we are pretty compatible living together for most issues. I think the main difficulty is that he is a night owl and I am up at the crack of dawn.

[Nessa 23]

You never get to truly "know" a person unless you spend time living with them...I don't care how long anyone says they spent talking online and know that person inside out....you don't...until you are dealing with life's irritations and picking up dirty underwear off the floor.

I agree with that.

[DanielParul 50]

It was easier than I thought (thats me, Daniel might have a different answer coz I can be really difficult at times). The only issues we had were - who's going to make breakfast on sunday mornings! And we still need to figure out a time to go to the gym that suits us both (he's a morning person and I hate getting out of bed in the mornings). Also I know better now than to take him grocery shopping empty stomach

Everything else has just been perfect

[Perseverance 1]

OMG that first year was pretty bad it makes me shutter to think about it

But things are sooooooo much better now

no matter how prepared you think you are for the adjustment period and the cultural differences... NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I felt like I was hit with a ton of bricks!!! Wha wha what just happened here...and what have you done with my sweet husabnd!!!!!

[rebeccajo 14]

You never get to truly "know" a person unless you spend time living with them...I don't care how long anyone says they spent talking online and know that person inside out....you don't...until you are dealing with life's irritations and picking up dirty underwear off the floor.

I agree with that.

Tis true.

Hopefully, though, you can use that reservoir of communication to help the 'real life' relationship. Just don't ever stop talking to each other like you did when that was all you COULD do.