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My husband sucks. Period. Its a LOOOOONG story I can't add everything in but I've put up with his lazy excuse for a husband for over a year now and I can't take it anymore!

(I am the USC)

He just received his green card (but it is not delivered to us yet. Just got the approval letter though) and has been awfully abusive emotionally and I just can't take it. Its the last f*cking straw! I've tried everything. Exhausted every posibility to make things work between us...but he doesn't put in ANY effort. All he does is lie and promise me things, then not deliver.

Today he started packing his bags like he's done in the past (he usually comes back an hour later) and we began to fight afterward. I told him I wanted a divorce and that I would buy him a ticket back to his country...but he refuses!

What can I do? I know I can't make him go...but I'm so scared once he's out on the streets he'll do something drastic and end up in the hospital, or God knows what! And I'll be financially responsible for it.

Which brings me to my main question...

what exactly ARE we responsible for with the affidavit of support that I signed? I just wish he'd go back to his country and that would be that (and myself heartbroken) but he refuses.

What can I DOOOOOOOOOOOOO???????? :crying:

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My husband sucks. Period. Its a LOOOOONG story I can't add everything in but I've put up with his lazy excuse for a husband for over a year now and I can't take it anymore!

(I am the USC)

He just received his green card (but it is not delivered to us yet. Just got the approval letter though) and has been awfully abusive emotionally and I just can't take it. Its the last f*cking straw! I've tried everything. Exhausted every posibility to make things work between us...but he doesn't put in ANY effort. All he does is lie and promise me things, then not deliver.

Today he started packing his bags like he's done in the past (he usually comes back an hour later) and we began to fight afterward. I told him I wanted a divorce and that I would buy him a ticket back to his country...but he refuses!

What can I do? I know I can't make him go...but I'm so scared once he's out on the streets he'll do something drastic and end up in the hospital, or God knows what! And I'll be financially responsible for it.

Which brings me to my main question...

what exactly ARE we responsible for with the affidavit of support that I signed? I just wish he'd go back to his country and that would be that (and myself heartbroken) but he refuses.

What can I DOOOOOOOOOOOOO???????? :crying:

From what I understand at this stage in his process Human Services won't allow him to apply for any type of welfare so I don't think you have to worry about paying his bills yet.

Edited by Haole

K1 denied, K3/K4, CR-1/CR-2, AOS, ROC, Adoption, US citizenship and dual citizenship

!! ALL PAU!

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You can not do anything.

Probably best to forget the Immigration aspects.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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The Affidavit of support is a contract between the sponsor and the US government. Conceptually, the sponsor is obligated to compensate the US government for the value of any meants tested benefit the sponsoree received.


YMMV

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If I were you, I'd try to find him another place to stay, or perhaps you can leave the residence.

I caution you not to engage in any physical fights, if you have to stay there with him but really

feel that the marriage is over, just try not to let him get to you mentally. (Easier said then done)

By now he knows which buttons to push to make you want to fly off the handle please try to re-

main calm and deal with him as less as possible.

It could be he's just waiting for his greencard and then will leave you anyway. There are more things I'd like to share with you so PM me and we can chat there if you like.


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NSC, NOA1 September 26th,03

received NOA1 in mail Oct. 03,03

RFE - received in mail March 29th,04

RFE returned April 17th,04

RFE received April 21,04 at NSC online

NOA2 received April 29th,04 via online

NOA2 received May 03,04 in mail

NVC receives file May 6th,04

NVC sends file to Nigeria May 11th,04

Lagos receives our file, notified thru e-mail May 19th,04

Victor goes and picks up packet #3....May 20th,04

Sent request for earlier interview date via e-mail May 20th,04

May 27th, Lagos won't change date.

August 16th, 2004 fly to Nigeria for Victors interview

August 19th, 2004 Interview date, visa approved.

August 25th, 2004 Victor picks up passport with visa stamp.

August 26th, 2004 fly back to USA

September 18th, 2004 Victor arrives in USA, Lord willing.

October 9th, 2004, we become husband and wife

October 25th, 2004 I learn that I'm pregnant.

Feburary 25th, 2005 AOS Appointment

( went to appt. and requested a reschedule)

June 7th, 05 gave birth to a boy child.

July 5th, 05 Victor packs he suitcase and leaves for good.

July 2005 2nd AOS appointment

( went and requested a reschedule )

August 2005- I file for divorce. and withdraw immigration paperwork.

Washington State/ Nigeria

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