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[~Jess~ 0]

ok so i am here in New York. George is in Saudi Arabia.

Before i left Saudi we went to the american embassy to citizen services and George filled out a general affidavit stating he is the father of the baby and wants his name on the birth certificate. it was notarized by the Consular at the embassy and Georges signature and mine are on this form.

Well here in NY apparently both parents must sign the birth certificate worksheet packet in order for the fathers name to be included on the birth certificate. problem...George isnt here and cant be here.

I called the clerks office in the county he will be born in and they said they are pretty sure that the affidavit we have will not hold up and the only way to ad his name on the birth certificate is if we went to court later.........ummmm George cant come back here.

So big problem...if his name isnt on the birth certificate....We cant file or register him for his Lebanese citizenship...and even bigger problem, George can not apply for a visa to Saudi for him. BIG PROBLEMS.

i dont know what to do.

everything ive found online suggests that if the parents are married at the time of birth the husband is recognized as the father of the child...but other things i have seen say he must be present to sign. im confused and so down hearted right now. i just wish i could get on a plane and go back now and just deliever him over there.

George is calling the lebanese consulate here in ny as well as the lebanese embassy over there. they are ding bats over here so im not putting to much hope in what they can do for us.

I am leaving it in Gods hands because if i dont, i will go crazy.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Maybe get a lawers advice

[SaadBell 0]

Jess,

Oh this is not something you need at this time, ####### is wrong with the government, idiots most of the time.

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

what about fathers who are deployed during their kids births and situations like that? does that mean their name cant go on the birth certificate? im sure there is a way around it...u just need to talk to the right person...good luck

[~Jess~ 0]

im really hoping for a way around it. im thinking that there are military exceptions..but that isnt our case. i am REALLLLY hoping to get some good news.

i have contacted a few lawyers and i will again soon. a long with calling the support and collections agency and finding out if i can get some paperwork in advance to get filled out. ughh

[~Jess~ 0]

Is it possible to move this to off topics? maybe ill get some other advice there too...............please and thanks

[~Jackie~ 30]

Does this issue also affect babies born to K1's, K3's and CR1 that are conceived BEFORE he comes over and born here? I

've only had one cup of coffee so if that sounded stuipd just scroll down and pay no attention to me.

jackie

eta: hi jess! I love you and I miss you. Hope you are in good health. I watch your myspace updates all the time.

Edited April 20, 2008 by just_Jackie

[~Jess~ 0]

i have no idea if they are included......i would assume the birth certificate would have to be amended after the father arrives...in which case he can sign after he arrives...................

[Aymerlu 3]

Seems strange. I know with my son and daughter, I wrote in everything and sent it off myself......ex didn't sign a thing. Maybe it differs state to state? Wishing you all the best Jess

[~Jess~ 0]

On second thought lets leave this here in MENA......

Seems strange. I know with my son and daughter, I wrote in everything and sent it off myself......ex didn't sign a thing. Maybe it differs state to state? Wishing you all the best Jess

Yep it differs by state from what ive been told. My ex had to sign at the time Daemian was born....

I talked to my grandmother and she told me she will take me up to the clerks office tomorow so i dont have to try and explain this situation over the phone.....soooooo hopefully we can get something figured out tomorrow...but im not holding my breath.

[Aymsgirl 0]

Jess,

I will PM you my experience.

Tasha

[~Jess~ 0]

Jess,

I will PM you my experience.

Tasha

Thanks you..i look forward to reading it.

I just want to stop being stressed out.

tomorrow will be a day full of running around in hopes of finding some good news.

[SaadBell 0]

Jess - Just take it easy today, tomorrow will come fast enough, kick back, eat something naughty, watch some trash TV, and know that everyone here is right here to support you, we will all make it

Soon you will be seeing your little ones having a good time, and than it will be help, how do I clean this mess up

[~Jess~ 0]

i can relax until about 4 when George gets online to chat.....and then it will be back to stressing because he is freaking out cause of all the problems this can cause.

oyyyyy.

[belinda63 2,981]

Each state's laws are different. I know for a fact in Texas and Kentucky if you are married the husband's name will go on the birth certificate. In Kentucky even if it is later proven by genetic testing that your husband is not the father he is still considered the "legal father" and the state will not pursue any action against the biological father.

I would look on the internet for the laws specific to your state to see exactly what they are. I don't understand why an officially notarized statement would not be accepted by the department of vital records even if done outside of the hospital.

Maybe even contact the hospital to see if there is a form they use to Acknowledge Paternity that will be accepted since they are the ones who send the paperwork to the vital records department of your state.