I am a non-immigrant male, that came here to the United States, on a F1 Student Visa. Upon completing my OPT, I was sponsored for an H1b work visa. Met my wife in 2011. Were friends for 3 years as she was dating someone else at the time. When she broke up with her ex, we started dating in 2014, and after 1 year, we got married on Oct 1st, 2015. After she moved in with me, came to realize she was taking anti-anxiety drugs like Xanax and Valium because she said she suffered from anxiety and panic attacks. I thought nothing of it since I am not knowledgeable on mental health and anti-anxiety medication.
Long story short, she is apparently addicted to the pills, to the point where she has threatened me that if I don't help her to gain access to more pills, she will not show up to my green card interview. She has attempted to inflict pain on herself by cutting her wrists so as to make me afraid and make me feel guilty that she is suicidal because I as a husband have not met to her demands of helping gain pills illegally (buying them on the streets from a dealer). She has drawn money out of our bank account to go get the pills herself. I have suffered PTSD and depression from this whole ordeal as I did not realize that I married someone who became a drug addict to the point where they were affecting my well-being. I have seen a psychologist and sought therapy sessions because I am going through a rough time.
Meanwhile, I discussed this issue with my lawyer and he said to file a VAWA petition. And given that the lawyer represents the petitioner, my wife, he said he could not represent me because of "conflict of interest". Thus, I consulted with another immigration attorney, who happened to be a woman, and she said I had a weak case simply because I am male, and immigration officers tend to attend to more women-based acts of cruelty than men. She also said that my wife is simply a victim of drug addiction, and she does intentionally mean to harm me, but more so, she just takes it out on me. I argued, the same can be said of an alcoholic man who abuses his wife while drunk. No one says he's a victim of alcohol abuse, and thus, he didn't intentionally mean to harm his wife. So the lawyer says to fix my marriage, and just go to the marriage interview and suck it up. Well, I want to go to the interview, as my wife and I did have a "bonafide marriage", but how do I know she's not going to go through her mood swings, or decide not to show up last minute to the interview? How do I know she won't stumble on simple questions asked of her? I am living in fear and torment right now as I don't know what I should do. My friends said that the female lawyer was being sexist, and seems like she is just holding a bias opinion. I am open to thoughts from the public here on what your opinions and advice are. I appreciate some feedback.
My VAWA file so far:
1. Proof of bonafide marriage: marriage certificate, wedding photos, dating photos, photos from trips, joint auto-insurance, driver's license under same address, joint bank account, joint tax return, joint Roth IRA, joint COSTCO membership, affadavit letters from her dad, friends, my brother.
2. Proof of living together: letter from landlord, lease agreement, and joint renter's insurance with our address listed.
3. Good Moral Character: Police report from department that clears me.
4. Personal declaration letter: I outline how our relationship developed, why we married, how was living together, how the abuse started, what were the forms of abuse, and how I felt. Discussed my good moral character (volunteer work with children after-school tutoring).
5. Witness affadavits: my brother, friend.
6. Psychologist report outlining my emotional abuse and that I am diagnosed with PTSD and depression. Therapist sessions transcripts.