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Have you spoken about finances with your fiance? Before my husband and I got married we sat down and had the "I have ____ amount of money and _____ amount of debt. Your turn"
Frankly I think everyone should have this converstaion.
What happens when you go to the US and both of you are out of work?
Have you asked him to detail where all your money goes?
Good luck

Would it not be more appropriate to have a female family member visit?

I will keep track of this thread and will try my best if i can help any one.

What exactly happened at his interview? You need to be very clear about this so someone can help you understand. ANd what do you mean by they didnt tell him to bring any evidence? Did he bring any with him at all just in case?

What exactly happened at his interview? You need to be very clear about this so someone can help you understand. ANd what do you mean by they didnt tell him to bring any evidence? Did he bring any with him at all just in case?

I pray for everyone that your adjustments with your new husbands and your children come together as well as one can hope for. When one comes as a package deal, so to speak, you pray that the man who receives that package treats it with much love and respect.

We are still in the Waiting process after interview but I personally also think it depends on how we approach the whole idea of immigration/relationships and how to best be a normal family.
My husband has been involved in our lives for almost 4 years ... close to two years as my husband. My children saw the relationship with my ex and how disrespectful and uncaring and abusive it was so they clearly see how my husband talks to me with respect and love even when they see we have a disagreement.
We have created a home together even with this damn pc... He is online as soon as he is home from work... he reads to our littlest one, he helps with the homework with the other two and recently my daughter has suffered a major medical issue and yet he calls her from work to be sure she's ok. He plays online games with them... we eat dinner together and even watch online movies. They also beg him to bring ice cream home lol... one day that will happen.
He has been around his neices and nephews and his parents taught him the roles of being a good man/husband/ and future father. It's not all black and white.. there will be issues its dependant on how you approach them and discuss them. Yes he even disicplines them... if he hears them fighting he will ask me to move the cam and then he calls their name one by one saying to them... you know i love you... you know i think you are a wonderful person but right now your choice of arguing and fighting isnt a good one... maybe you need to take some time to relax and regroup and the come back.
HE's never yelled at them or me... he speaks with love and respect and listens to each of them and each of their problems even if it's that our little one can't stand spelling tests at school or the one with medical issues hates feeling bad.
I dont lock us away separate from the family ...he's in the middle of whats going on always all evening from the time we come from work even until we leave in the morning... even asking each one if they have everything for school and to have a wonderful day etc... when we do go to bed we sleep with the pc on together and most nights the little one will climb into bed and say.. mommy ....papa... can i sleep with you .. he says... hannah baby yeah sure.. tonight only... lol... and then he will say it again the next night.
I'm sure there will be some issues we face but the fact that we have a very honest respectful loving relationship and involve our children with everything and not shutting them is most important.
I didn't rush to marry my husband.. i knew him for 2 years before we got married. But i know i married the right man... and while he isn't the children's father he will be a good role model and great supporter of the children and they in turn will also see what a good marriage should be with great love and respect
We are each different each with different needs and issues so we really can't put everybody into one group... but all we can do is do what is right for each of us.

My advice is to make normal out of the abnormal distance.... We skype from the time we get home from work, sleep on the pc (i know it sounds silly but its the only way to hear his breathing at night) and don't leave skype until we both go to work the next day... luckily our timing is similar as he works nights and i work days...
While on skype, i pay the bills, cook, clean fold laundry help the kids with home work, he reads to them and helps with their homework too.. we try to create our family unit even tho we aren't physically in the same home yet. He offers me tea when he makes it.. we have candlelight dinners at times.. we even watch movies online together.
Try your best to create a way to make it feel as if your together already. YEs the distance hurts and i know firsthand how long it can take.. we got married oct 2 2010 and filed in Nov 2010 had interview june 15 2011 and are still dealing with the black abyss of AP. I was planning on taking a trip very soon to visit but our little girl has suffered from medical issues from an arachnoid cyst she was born with in her brain (takes up 33% of her brain cavity) and due to this we are having to see a neurosurgeon in a few weeks ... she's been told she can't attend school until this is resolved and all i want now is this to end and my husband to be home so we can deal with this together. But we still try to make even this issue as normal as we can. I involve him in everything the Drs are doing and saying and praying for a miracle.. actually two within the next few weeks.
I love the fact my husband and I can forget everything when we talk.. and we talk a LOT!!! But it brings me calmness and peace and I can't wait until the day we share the same home and forget all this distance!
Good luck to you and just know you aren't alone... none of this is easy but in the end it's totally WORTH every minute!!!

My advice is to make normal out of the abnormal distance.... We skype from the time we get home from work, sleep on the pc (i know it sounds silly but its the only way to hear his breathing at night) and don't leave skype until we both go to work the next day... luckily our timing is similar as he works nights and i work days...
While on skype, i pay the bills, cook, clean fold laundry help the kids with home work, he reads to them and helps with their homework too.. we try to create our family unit even tho we aren't physically in the same home yet. He offers me tea when he makes it.. we have candlelight dinners at times.. we even watch movies online together.
Try your best to create a way to make it feel as if your together already. YEs the distance hurts and i know firsthand how long it can take.. we got married oct 2 2010 and filed in Nov 2010 had interview june 15 2011 and are still dealing with the black abyss of AP. I was planning on taking a trip very soon to visit but our little girl has suffered from medical issues from an arachnoid cyst she was born with in her brain (takes up 33% of her brain cavity) and due to this we are having to see a neurosurgeon in a few weeks ... she's been told she can't attend school until this is resolved and all i want now is this to end and my husband to be home so we can deal with this together. But we still try to make even this issue as normal as we can. I involve him in everything the Drs are doing and saying and praying for a miracle.. actually two within the next few weeks.
I love the fact my husband and I can forget everything when we talk.. and we talk a LOT!!! But it brings me calmness and peace and I can't wait until the day we share the same home and forget all this distance!
Good luck to you and just know you aren't alone... none of this is easy but in the end it's totally WORTH every minute!!!

My advice is to make normal out of the abnormal distance.... We skype from the time we get home from work, sleep on the pc (i know it sounds silly but its the only way to hear his breathing at night) and don't leave skype until we both go to work the next day... luckily our timing is similar as he works nights and i work days...
While on skype, i pay the bills, cook, clean fold laundry help the kids with home work, he reads to them and helps with their homework too.. we try to create our family unit even tho we aren't physically in the same home yet. He offers me tea when he makes it.. we have candlelight dinners at times.. we even watch movies online together.
Try your best to create a way to make it feel as if your together already. YEs the distance hurts and i know firsthand how long it can take.. we got married oct 2 2010 and filed in Nov 2010 had interview june 15 2011 and are still dealing with the black abyss of AP. I was planning on taking a trip very soon to visit but our little girl has suffered from medical issues from an arachnoid cyst she was born with in her brain (takes up 33% of her brain cavity) and due to this we are having to see a neurosurgeon in a few weeks ... she's been told she can't attend school until this is resolved and all i want now is this to end and my husband to be home so we can deal with this together. But we still try to make even this issue as normal as we can. I involve him in everything the Drs are doing and saying and praying for a miracle.. actually two within the next few weeks.
I love the fact my husband and I can forget everything when we talk.. and we talk a LOT!!! But it brings me calmness and peace and I can't wait until the day we share the same home and forget all this distance!
Good luck to you and just know you aren't alone... none of this is easy but in the end it's totally WORTH every minute!!!

Representing yourself as a US citizen when you aren't will get you a ban for life doubt any waiver will allow you to stay

Representing yourself as a US citizen when you aren't will get you a ban for life doubt any waiver will allow you to stay

Representing yourself as a US citizen when you aren't will get you a ban for life doubt any waiver will allow you to stay

Representing yourself as a US citizen when you aren't will get you a ban for life doubt any waiver will allow you to stay

They don't have to say specifically AP even if they are going to put him on AP. Yes it sounds like they wanted to see if he could be the father of your baby. Islamabad embassy is one of the most difficult to get thru without AP ... We have a real relationship but have been on AP 11 months. Just send them everything they ask for and expect it to take some time. I need my husband here too.. the baby misses him badly and the stress is affecting my health but all we can do is do what the embassy asks and hope for the best.
Document review can also take up to a couple of months or more... Try calling DOS and get updates... they told us when our requested docs had gotten there and when they were under review.. took about two weeks but there are those that has taken several months.... Hang in there...
Good luck and hopefully it won't take too much more time

You need to Call USCIS talk to a tier 2 operator ASAP and ask to put in a service request OR you can contact your congressman right away and get them on it. It has taken a little longer lately but at this point you need to see movement.
Once your case is approved it will move to NVC and take a few weeks if you go by the short cut for NVC.. then it could be another couple of weeks before knowing when the interview is and is usually scheduled a month out or more
Our NVC took us 6 weeks total and then another month before the interview
As far as the k3 goes.. You should be filing IR1 for his 10 yr green card since you have been married since 2006 not a k3
Islamabad is very strict with poverty guidelines..if you don't think your current co sponsor earns enough then you need to find another co sponsor who can exceed the guidelines
Age differences are a red flag but aren't reason for denial just reason to look at the case closer

Tell that to the ppl that had that happen to them
The only time it will be an issue is if there are things to contradict your relationship to the petitioner/beneficiary
We did have them open our fb page in our interview so it does happen at interview stage but it wasn't a big deal or a worry since there wasn't anything to contradict our relationship and actually it validated everything we said

They are the ppl giving you the visa so you can be with your spouse/fiance

You will have to have a family member petition you again and start all over. What family members do you have in the states ? If they have all left then you could try a work visa.

no no no no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no man should treat any woman like that... it will hurt YOUR future if you have him come to you and his intentions are all wrong.. YOU end up paying the price for that... IM damn lucky that my husband was brought up in a home in karachi full of unconditional love was taught respect and what love was and how to take care of his wife even if it meant cooking or cleaning and ironing... yes he was taught ironing...
No you should NOT worry about his future... you should be worried as hell about your own right now.... do what protects you... otherwise you are responsible for him for a very very long time....and btw mental and emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse...

thats only for you to say not me... you said hes never hurt you physically but my first marriage was similar to this and he was American... i nearly died in that marriage due to the mental and emotional abuse... thank god i came out of my depression put my big girl pants on and got divorced.... I have never had these same issues with my husband from pakistan...
But you must consider... your husband was way more comfortable in his own home so he definitely treated you the way he probably will if not worse later... if thats what you want in your marriage that is totally up to you and i can't say it either was or wasn't.. im just saying from experience... my first husband never hit me but the emotional hurt was excruciating....

thats only for you to say not me... you said hes never hurt you physically but my first marriage was similar to this and he was American... i nearly died in that marriage due to the mental and emotional abuse... thank god i came out of my depression put my big girl pants on and got divorced.... I have never had these same issues with my husband from pakistan...
But you must consider... your husband was way more comfortable in his own home so he definitely treated you the way he probably will if not worse later... if thats what you want in your marriage that is totally up to you and i can't say it either was or wasn't.. im just saying from experience... my first husband never hit me but the emotional hurt was excruciating....

no no no no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no man should treat any woman like that... it will hurt YOUR future if you have him come to you and his intentions are all wrong.. YOU end up paying the price for that... IM damn lucky that my husband was brought up in a home in karachi full of unconditional love was taught respect and what love was and how to take care of his wife even if it meant cooking or cleaning and ironing... yes he was taught ironing...
No you should NOT worry about his future... you should be worried as hell about your own right now.... do what protects you... otherwise you are responsible for him for a very very long time....and btw mental and emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse...

no no no no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no man should treat any woman like that... it will hurt YOUR future if you have him come to you and his intentions are all wrong.. YOU end up paying the price for that... IM damn lucky that my husband was brought up in a home in karachi full of unconditional love was taught respect and what love was and how to take care of his wife even if it meant cooking or cleaning and ironing... yes he was taught ironing...
No you should NOT worry about his future... you should be worried as hell about your own right now.... do what protects you... otherwise you are responsible for him for a very very long time....and btw mental and emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse...