Helen Louise Pile

This sentence is perplexing.
If she had doubts she shouldn't have married him. This is very odd. How did he prove his love?
How long has it been since they were married? How long has he been out of status?
Being out of status for a while isn't necessarily a problem. It really depends on the situation. He can marryand adjust status while on a tourist visa if it was not his intention to remain here when he entered and he did not misrepresent himself at CBP. There are many many VJ posts on this topic.

People are telling you to go to Canada because you are a Canadian citizen and you'd have better opportunities there, not because they are being rude.
I understand you want to stay here. If that is not possible, you need to figure out a new plan instead of clinging to the old one. There are good Universities in Canada.
Stop wallowing in what was supposed to have been...start planning for what will be! Your future is bright.
Good luck.

People are telling you to go to Canada because you are a Canadian citizen and you'd have better opportunities there, not because they are being rude.
I understand you want to stay here. If that is not possible, you need to figure out a new plan instead of clinging to the old one. There are good Universities in Canada.
Stop wallowing in what was supposed to have been...start planning for what will be! Your future is bright.
Good luck.

People are telling you to go to Canada because you are a Canadian citizen and you'd have better opportunities there, not because they are being rude.
I understand you want to stay here. If that is not possible, you need to figure out a new plan instead of clinging to the old one. There are good Universities in Canada.
Stop wallowing in what was supposed to have been...start planning for what will be! Your future is bright.
Good luck.

People are telling you to go to Canada because you are a Canadian citizen and you'd have better opportunities there, not because they are being rude.
I understand you want to stay here. If that is not possible, you need to figure out a new plan instead of clinging to the old one. There are good Universities in Canada.
Stop wallowing in what was supposed to have been...start planning for what will be! Your future is bright.
Good luck.

My husband and I have lived in both his country and mine and now we are in the process of moving back to his. He has been gone for more than 3 months now getting a job, fixing a place for us to live, etc. He was concerned about the health of his parents. Its a good thing he left when he did...his dad passed away just over a month after he arrived. I would go to the ends of the earth for my husband...as he would for me. Is it difficult leaving behind things here and starting over again in the UK....of course. But we'll be together....and that's all we've ever wanted.

Bill, it sounds like you're the problem.
As a bartender, she will speak with customers, and they will hit on her. This is what life is like for every female bartender. You have to trust your wife to say no. If she didn't tell you about being hit on, perhaps you should be more suspicious. If she was a bartender in Thailand, and she did more than flirt with customers, you knew precisely what you were getting into.
If she were using you, she'd stay quiet until her status was solid, then leave you the day after she didn't need you. Instead, she's complaining loudly about the lifestyle and you. This would indicate that she did come with honorable intentions. She's also paying for you. Why would she do it if she didn't like you? She doesn't want to be here except for you.
Looking at it from her side, she's in a land she dislikes, paying for a jealous, deadbeat husband who's plotting to deport her.
You are the issue. You married a wife. You didn't buy an indentured servant. Educate yourself, get a job, and be worthy of your wife. All you have are jealous suspicions that would drive any woman into the arms of another.

bill tilman, this statement is pretty awful. im embarrassed for you for having typed it.
you have to decide if you want to continue with AOS or not. revoke the affidavit of support (i-864) if no.
once she adjusts status, she will essentially be free of the obligation to be married to you in order to legally be in the US.

This is the period that you will look back on and think "I wish I'd made more of the opportunity I had while I was still at home" once you get to the States.
Seriously, spend as much time with family and friends as you possibly can. You are leaving your homeland to live in America, potentially for the rest of your life. Build your memories, take photos, laugh, love, hug and cry while you still have the chance. You will certainly miss your loved ones and many familiar places and sights from home. Trust me. The first year in America is likely to be filled with sadness at how much you've lost, as much as happiness at what you've gained.
Missing your fiance is normal. Looking forward to a future with him is normal. Please don't forget to live your current life while you're waiting for the new one to start.
Also, you might want to start thinking about what you'll need once you arrive here in America. Perhaps ask your bank to build a financial portfolio showing your credit history (that may help establish your credit history here), all your academic/professional qualification paperwork, all your birth records, immunisation records, school history records, references from employers .. anything that may aid you in building status here. Look into getting a joint credit card with your fiance to start establishing credit, if his bank is agreeable. Take copies of all your paperwork.
Sort out your possessions at home. If there are items that you associate with others that you aren't bringing with you, make gifts of them to loved ones.
There are many things you can do to fill that time, that may make you feel less lonely. Your fiance shouldn't be the only significant person in your life, so hold on to those precious family and friends you have now.
Best of luck in your process.

You have no idea what this woman's relationship is, so please don't judge.
OP:
You are only 8 weeks pregnant so you have time. Have you started working yet here in the US? Coming on a K1 and waiting for AOS is tough on your relationship and your feeling of independence and self worth. Many here know that. Can you wait for AP and take a trip home to visit your family to clear your head? Can you go to counselling with your husband and try to figure something out? What does he think about the situation? Does he want to work things out?
I wish you all the best. Please ignore the nonsense some people have posted. Your baby will not hate you when it is 18 because you left the father. That is just ridiculous and rude. What ever you choose will be for the best.
Divorce and leaving the US is a big decision. Make sure it's the right one for you if that's what you choose.
Take care,
Helen

You have no idea what this woman's relationship is, so please don't judge.
OP:
You are only 8 weeks pregnant so you have time. Have you started working yet here in the US? Coming on a K1 and waiting for AOS is tough on your relationship and your feeling of independence and self worth. Many here know that. Can you wait for AP and take a trip home to visit your family to clear your head? Can you go to counselling with your husband and try to figure something out? What does he think about the situation? Does he want to work things out?
I wish you all the best. Please ignore the nonsense some people have posted. Your baby will not hate you when it is 18 because you left the father. That is just ridiculous and rude. What ever you choose will be for the best.
Divorce and leaving the US is a big decision. Make sure it's the right one for you if that's what you choose.
Take care,
Helen

Check your status every day?!!
I didn't check mine at all during the K1, and when I checked it during AOS it still said 'Initial review' when I had my greencard in hand. So I wouldn't put too much faith in whatever it says there.
Just be patient. You can keep an eye on VJ to see how long it is taking for the service centers to approve people if you are so inclined.
Good luck, I hope you are approved soon

I did not use the term 'into the mix'.
I said that the personal opinions of an individual should have no bearing on the relationships of others.
I was talking about the original issue of change to immigration law...not chat on an online discussion forum.

Well we have our proof, little did we expect the Associated Press to help us with it!
http://news.yahoo.com/photos/photo-of-the-day-slideshow-1309242001-slideshow/u-army-master-sgt-robert-mclaughlin-suffolk-va-photo-003725488.html
:dance: :dance:

The social security officer said the same thing to me...when I corrected her she didn't want to hear it.
You know the rules, don't let this person confuse you.
I have found that many officials (SS office, law enforcement) do not know the details of a K1 visa and the AOS process. It just means you have to know it and make sure you know what you are and are not allowed to do.
Helen

No, no, no to everybody who didn't go through London. It's a CD with the x-ray on it. It's not needed at POE or for any further immigration purposes. You can open the envelope. It's yours to keep for your personal medical information should you ever want to know how your lungs looked in 2011.

Englishbunny, I could have written your post
Yorkshirerose:
I can also HIGHLY recommend volunteering!
I've been here for 10 months and have made friends through volunteering (it can also help with confidence...volunteering your time speaks of your character and the people you work with will appreciate your time. PLUS it gets you out of the house!), I also attended a free weekly yoga class through my local library. I also emailed the wifes and girlfriends of my husbands colleagues and met up for coffee. One of them even let me borrow her car for my driving test and practiced with me. When I first got here I spent time going to my local library to check out books and now I know people there to chat with and I am recognised which makes you feel part of your community. Which is something you probably miss if you come from a small town. You can also 'audit' classes at the local university which means you attend but don't take exams..or pay for them. I considered that when I didn't have my greencard. Another way to meet people.
I volunteered full time when I got here and I got a job easily when I started job hunting because I had US references (which was a major factor) and I had learned the 'language' of my field here in the US.
If you are a beauty therapist can you advertise for clients and do home visits? Can you do charity work to offer your services to women who are suffering with illness or physical issues?
You may have low self esteem but you talk on here as someone intelligent and kind. You just need to get yourself out there!
Good luck with everything!

You should be grateful and appreciate anything that anyone gives you...ever!
Of course money is shared, as are bills and responsibilities and sacrifices. Marriage is an equal partnership, you should not suppose that beauty and youth are bargained for monetary gifts. Perhaps that something you have seen in your experience, but it is not what marriage is supposed to be and certainly nothing to aspire to.

I am a software developer and it is damn hard to write this stuff ! Somebody has to pay me to do it or I wouldn't bother getting out of bed.

I can tell you have not dealt with the american incomes taxes yet.
An american citizen is taxed on his international incomes, whereas in France, you're only taxed on french sources incomes.
Once you become an american citizen you will have to file every year, wherever you live, even if you decide to return to your home country.
Well, it would not be a real problem if the tax system and form were not so complicated...
I will personnaly wait a few years and make the step when I really feel like doing it.

I love this!
We had the most simple wedding ever. I had no dress, no venue, no seating plans, no guest list, no flowers. It was me, my son, my (now) husband, his mum, sister, best friend and the nice woman from the court house who married us in the sunshine. My son wanted a toy with his dinner so we went to burger king, I wouldn't change a single thing about it.

Most people dream of having the perfect wedding but we here just dream of having a wedding.
I personally am not fond of a huge elaborate ceremony and it boggles my mind how much some women obsess over every single minute detail of their wedding.
I joined TheKnot.com to help in creating a wedding guest list and wedding website but I sometimes get ridiculous emails like "practice your wedding hairstyle a few times before the actual day!" or "never have a friend or family member bake your wedding cake! Always hire a professional!" Ridiculously absurd. Who cares if your hair isn't perfect the day of your wedding? And if you want to have a friend or family member bake your cake, why not? Again, perfection does not have to be attained. It's one day!
I personally have more important things to think about than the color of ink that I'm printing my wedding invitations in or taste testing the food that will be served at our reception. Among these important things are actually getting my fiance here so we can procede with the said wedding
I don't want to remember the day of my wedding as the exact hue of my bridesmaid dresses or the flavor of the wedding cake or obessing about the exact placement of the table centerpieces.
I want to remember it as the day that I became legally wed to the most wonderful man and that we will never have to be separated again.
Maybe it's the whole immigration process, but my wedding day has really been placed into perspective for me. This whole planning receptions, rehearsal dinners, going on extreme weight loss plans, finding "the perfect florist" and other silly frivilous nonsense is not for me.
I just want to marry the love of my life, honor our cultural backgrounds, family and friends, with a small celebration afterwards and finally begin our lives together

So im not the only one to notice this, it actual happened in January and by April he was in the Philippines with a new woman talk about WOW also look at the timeline in her personal blog. Look i dont know what happened to the X wives but somethings not right and apparently someone else thinks so also!
http://www.eugielene.blogspot.com/
First Chapter
03/00/2010 - We met online at Filipina Heart and chatting
03/00/2010 - We started sending email and chatting on yahoo
04/22/2010 - When love sttrikes and We became lovers
04/00/2010 - James proposed me online
06/13/2010 - James booked a flight to Philippines
08/16/2010 - I booked a flight for Manila (to meet James) via Cebu Pacific
08/25/2010 - James arrival (5:55 AM) 1st visit Philippines NAIA Manila (he waited for my plane to arrive)
08/25/2010 - James Proposed at Century Park Hotel (Night)
08/25/2010 - I received my engagement ring
http://www.myfoxtwin...ife-in-accident

If I were you, I would...
1. Take a deep breath and drink a cup of tee (or a glass of wine)
2. Print out forms I-130, I-485 and all the additional forms (such as I-765, I-131, I-864, I-695) AND print out the instructions for each form
3. Pour yourself another glass of wine and read them all through, carefully, with time - and with your husband. Then read them through again.
After this, it's easier to ask questions. Right now you don't yet have an understanding of the full process in your head, which is why it seems so complicated to you. The pieces are not fitting together. Once you understand the purpose of each form and how those forms supplement each other, the process will start to get more understandable all together. It is not as complicated as it often seems at a first glance - you need lots of attention to detail, patience and common sense, but those will already get you very far.
What we did was make our own list for each form of items needed, and pinned that on our wall. We had a folder for each form, with the forms filled out and signed, and started to add the supportive documentation as we accumulated them. When we added something, we would cross that off from the list. Once everything was there, one of us had the list of items and would read out loud a name of a document ("medical form" , "2 passport photos", "copy of marriage certificate", etc.) and the other one would check that the item in question was in the folder. Make it organized from the beginning, it will help you stay on top of what you have and what you need.
Book your medical next week, as it might take a while to get an appointment. Make a list of things you need to get from Canada and have those mailed to you as soon as possible (I assume you did not enter with, for example, your birth certificate or vaccination records as you were not planning on immigrating when you entered..).
It took us about 3 weeks to get everything together. Don't rush it, it's better to do it well and properly the first time around then rush through getting the papers together and mailing an incomplete package, and then getting an RFE.
Hope this helps. Patience. And common sense. Keep those in mind and you'll be fine.

Very tragic can someone please answer the mans question!!!