Harpa Timsah

I am sure there are 1,000s of deleted tweets, the defect is genetic

Two words: She lied.

That's not how it works. You are fine to stay no worries.

No, I want to win with ideas, not voter suppression.

It's deleted! Throw the book at him!

Trying to take over the mothers role to his son is not going to help, your husband needs to coparent with his sons mother not with you. Be civil to the child but parenting choices such as which school to go to, activities the child can do, and discipline is for the parents to do.
I'm all for accepting cultural differences and learning about your partners culture but going tampo is not helping, only making things worse. It might be culturally acceptable back home but in places where that isn't the norm it comes across as petulant, childish, and emotionally manipulative. It says to him that if he doesn't do everything you want then you are going to sulk which is probably why he says you are controlling. Talk through your problems, explain to him how his actions make you feel.
If he is spending money you have earnt then I get your point about the gifts but if he is spending the money he has earnt then that's up to him. If it isn't stopping him from contributing to the bills then that's his business.
My husbands father got remarried, my husband now has a half brother who is 28 years younger than him. Their father died three years ago. He buys his half brother presents all the time, but my husband uses his money to do it so I don't care. If it meant he couldn't pay his share of the bills I would tell him he was overdoing it.

Just an overall caution. I wouldn't recommend smoking until you're naturalized. Weed is still illegal on all federal levels, so even if you're in a state where it's legal to smoke weed, if USCIS comes knocking at the door while you're smoking, you're going to have a bad time. Until you're a citizen, you're under federal guidelines, so just be careful with that.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...

WOOF!

No, I want to win with ideas, not voter suppression.

People are saying Donald Trump is so charitable; he's the most charitable person you'll ever see.

People are saying he spent a hundred bajillion on his campaign.

Well he's right about one thing. It is a waste, a tremendous, stupid, damaging waste of everyone's time and sanity.

No, I want to win with ideas, not voter suppression.

No, I want to win with ideas, not voter suppression.

No, I want to win with ideas, not voter suppression.

People are saying he spent a hundred bajillion on his campaign.

This oughtta keep her busy for a couple years.

? they're not ?

http://www.cnbc.com/2016/11/08/if-i-dont-win-the-race-would-have-been-a-tremendous-waste-trump-tells-fox.html
Ummm, you haven't spent $100 M.
Great positive message from the narcissist!

First things first. You need to have these discussions with him immediately. If you have expectations of him you are going to be disappointed with him while he thinks everything is just fine.To answer your question, YES it is normal in America for a man not to send to a woman that has a job if she doesn't ask. In America, women are seen as being independent. So when you say you have a job he is thinking, " that is great. She can take care of herself". That doesn't mean he doesn't want to. It just means he sees you as independent. And as someone already mentioned, if he wasn't around, wbat would you do for money? What did you do for money BEFORE him.
As for you coming to America and not being able to work, I think that he would provide for you. But if you want him to give money to you to send give to your mother, you will have to have a serious conversation with him about that. Sending allowance to family happens in the US, of course, but it is NOT A EXPECTED COMMON OCCURANCE. And I have seen (both personally and on VJ) relationships sour because their spouse wanting to continuosly send money back to their relatives. I have also seen Ameeican spouse have no problem with helping their in-laws. But it is careless to make a move in a relationship without discussing that first.
As for him not wanting you to quit your job WHY WOULD HE? You want him to be your only source of income? Once avain, this is not common in American culture. I have not known a single guy personally that asked his wife or girlfriend to stop working UNLESS there were children involved as he believed it would be better for the kids if she stayed at home with them. To be honest, if you want to quit your job it would be careless as you don't know what his financial commitment is. You shouldn't be thinking about quitting until the visa is in your hands and your flight to the US is booked.
My wife is Dominican. I have experience in this very topic. I have been to the DR many times for business and vacation. I have seen and heard many stories like this. I can tell you that American and Dominican expectations from family are very different. My wife sends money to her mother. But this is money that she makes from her job. She has only asked me for help with sending money to her mom one time and I had no problem with that. But there was a lot she had to learn (and see) how American family structure is.
She asked me if I send money to my mother. I tell her that I don't have to. It wasn't until she actually saw how my mother lives that she realized how different things are. My father died when I was young and my mother never remarried. In my eyes she is truly and independent woman. My mother is a senior manager for a healthcare company for more that 25 years. She has a 3 bedroom house on 2 acres of land that is completely paid for meaning she has no mortgage. She has three vehicles she owns. 2 years ago she her sold the boat she used to fish in because she wasn't fishing as much as she used to. She is heavily active in her church and community including being on the board of a charity organization that sponsors underprivileged kids to go to college. I'm sorry as if this sound like I'm bragging because I am not. My point is that where my mother is at in her life today, me or my brothers sending money to her is the last thing on her mind. In fact, if I did she would call and ask me if I crazy.
To summarize, routinely giving an allowance to a working significant other or sending money to family is not very common in America. It DOES happen sometimes, but it is just not expected.
I hope that helps you understand a little better.

I thought we already talked about the cough drop of doom. Need some new material. It's awfully boring in here.

Among many, I vote for the end where he says he will "win for you." He is in this race only for himself.

He probably thinks that you were fine before you met him so you are fine on money now. And I would agree. You don't live together and you're not married so it's weird to give money. Plus cash gifts are gauche, at least from an American perspective..