Perla Austral reacted to JimVaPhuong in Confused, Divorce remarry
I don't like to be judgmental, but I have to agree with this. You broke up with her, and six months later she's already living in Texas with her new husband? There is NO WAY she started this new relationship AFTER she broke up with you.
Even if things progressed at a lightening pace, there would have to be at least a few weeks of online courtship, a trip to the Phils to satisfy the 2 year meeting requirement, filing the I-129F immediately on return, incredibly fast processing by USCIS and the embassy in Manila, followed by an approved visa, a quick trip to the US, and then marriage to her Texas fiance. If it was a CR1 then it would have taken even longer.
No, she had this guy on a stringer before you broke up with her. Who knows how many other guys she may have also been playing. When you broke up she probably told this guy to file the petition the next day. Now she's probably decided she doesn't much like living where she's living, or who she's living with, so she's looking for greener pastures in addition to a green card.
I'm sorry, but the timeline just screams fraud. Keep shopping. You don't want this one.
Perla Austral reacted to JimVaPhuong in It didn't work out
The most common scam that I could think of that would end this way is if you were being played for money by a girl who never had any intention of marrying you and immigrating to the US. Some girls in some countries (and some guys posing as girls on the internet) make a pretty good living doing this, and often have several guys on the hook at the same time. Tell tail signs would be a never ending string of minor "emergencies" that require you to send her some cash to get her out of some predicament. You'd have to think about the history of your relationship and decide if the shoe fits. If you didn't send her any money then you probably weren't being scammed. She probably just got cold feet.
There is a filing limitation on the I-129F imposed by the IMBRA act. If you've had a petition approved within the past two years, or you've submitted two or more petitions at any time in your life, then you'd need a waiver of the filing limitations in order for USCIS to process another I-129F petition from you. Getting the waiver is relatively straightforward. You just include a letter with the I-129F explaining why the previous petitions didn't work out, and why you believe the filing limitation should not be applied in your case. Unless you have some criminal violation that is covered by the IMBRA, they usually approve these waivers.
Perla Austral reacted to JimVaPhuong in so confused
If the instruction pack the OP looked at was for immigrant visas and not specifically for K visas then that would explain the discrepancy.
Nibake, Life's Journey is correct. You need to follow the consulate's instructions, but you need to ensure that you have the LATEST instructions from the consulate for K1 visa applications. If the instructions you have are for immigrant visas in general, and dated from 2008, then they are likely not the correct instructions, and also possibly outdated. I've seen a few members lately who have been asked for an I-864 for a K1 (usually for a co-sponsor) but the overwhelming majority are asked to submit an I-134.
K visas are unusual. Technically, they are non-immigrant visas. The applicant doesn't become an immigrant until they arrive in the US and apply for a green card. However, a K visa holder who meets the requirements of the visa after arriving in the US is eligible to apply for a green card. This makes a K visa different from most other non-immigrant visas in that the visa holder is presumed to have immigrant intent, whereas most other non-immigrant visas specifically require that the visa holder does NOT have immigrant intent. For this reason, consulates often treat K visas as a sort of hybrid between a non-immigrant and an immigrant visa. They may be required to submit some documents that are generally only submitted for non-immigrant visa applications, and other documents that are generally only submitted for immigrant visa applications. They may even be required to submit some documents that are exclusive to K visa applications. The bottom line is that you have to follow the instructions from the consulate because those instructions vary considerably from one consulate to another.
Perla Austral reacted to sjr09 in CO Request for Impossible Document
I doubt it has anything to do with the age deference and everything to do with the request for additional documents. What exactly was the request for? What is the impossible document? Give the CO what they are requesting and you’ll be on your way.
Perla Austral reacted to payxibka in translations
If you are going to do this yourself you need to understand the process.... The translation requirement is explicitly explained in the I-129F instructions.... read the instructions completely, you might also find other very important information that you missed (ie... fiance(e) or fiance(e) child's BC not required, original documents or regular photocopies, where to send the forms, who to make the check payable to... etc....)
Perla Austral reacted to JimVaPhuong in Is Advanced Parole Still Necessary?
There are so many mistakes on that page that I don't know where to begin.
Once you have received your immigrant visa, please note the expiration date.
Wrong! K visas are not "immigrant" visas.
You must enter the United States within the timeframe specified on the visa to obtain a legal permanent resident (LPR) or “green” card (Form I-151 or I-551) that will allow you to live and work in the United States.
Entering within the timeframe specified on the visa has nothing to do with eligibility to receive a green card. If you don't enter before the visa expires then you won't be allowed into the country.
At the port-of-entry, a U.S. Customs and Border Protection official will stamp your passport and make a notation that you are registered for a long-term permanent resident (LPR) card. You will have an opportunity at the port-of-entry to confirm the mailing address where you would like to receive your LPR card.
No, and No. They will put no such stamp or notation in your passport. They'll stamp your I-94 with a 90 day validity, and staple it into your passport. There will be nothing even remotely related to a green card entered into the passport.
It may take several months for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) to process and send the LPR card to you. In the interim, the passport stamp, valid for 6 months, permits employment and travel as you await your LPR card. You may depart and return to the U.S. before you receive your LPR card, as long as the stamp in your passport has not expired. Should the stamp expire and you have still not received your LPR card, you should contact USCIS in the U.S. before departure to obtain permission to return to the U.S.
There will be no such stamp in your passport, valid for 6 months or otherwise. A K3 visa will allow you to leave and re-enter the US for 2 years. A K1 visa will allow you to enter one time only. There will be no stamp or anything else inserted into the passport that will allow you to come and go for six months. There will be no automatic processing of the green card. A K1 has to marry first to become eligible to adjust status. Both K1 and K3 must file to adjust status after arriving in the US.
After arriving in the U.S., you have the option of returning to the Consulate or filing with USCIS in the United States for an adjustment of status to an immediate relative (IR) visa. K-1/K-2 applicants should file to adjust status after they are married.
Partially true. I don't know why they mention returning to the consulate, though. I have no clue what this is supposed to accomplish. A K1 has the option of marrying and filing to adjust status, or leaving the US. A K3 has the option of filing to adjust status, or leaving the US. YOU DO NOT ADJUST STATUS TO AN IR VISA! What the hell are they talking about?
Perla Austral reacted to ~ameriptian~ in She's Afraid of the USA...
I can relate to this thread so much. I was so afraid to leave the life I've known, the friends I've made over the years, my family that I've never been apart from all my life, and move 7000 miles away to a country I never had any idea I would move to. I had a job and was financially independant. I come from a rich family (had a maid in my parent's house and I didn't have to cook or clean). I lived in Cairo, the city that never sleeps and I always found something to do in... Yet, like AandD, I was not happy. It was very hard to be so far away from my love. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do...
I had a lot of emotional/down moments althroughout and even right before the visa process. It took me 2 months to tell John that I was ready to start the visa process. I literally freaked out so many times during the visa process. Every little something John did, meant something...whether it was positive or negative..it was like I was unintentionally analyzing everything and taking it as a sign for the future of our relationship, which felt awful because I hated feeling that, but like I said it was unintentional.
The hardest part was after receiving the visa and actually leaving... But he was there for me emotionally and made me feel very loved and secure.
Now that I am here in the US (and we live in a quiet town and a small house which is not bad for a start), I am truly happy. I am with my husband and that's all that matters. John continues to make me feel at home. We Skype with my family almost every single day. We went to the international food store a few times and he made sure I got all my favorite foods. We do the house work together, which is very fun sometimes He brings me flowers home every week. He calls a few times while he is at work to see how my day is going. He makes sure I'm spending the day with my mother-in-law or my grandmother-in-law if he has to be away most of the day. My in-laws are very close to him and me which feels great, I have a family here.
I, also, have to say that VJ has been of a great support. I made many friends on VJ during and after the visa process. Have your fiancee set up her own account and post in the RUB regional forum. She might find Ukranian friends that she can keep in touch with after arriving to the US.
Support her emotionally, assure her that everything is going to be fine, discuss your future plans together, let her be in contact with your family before she arrives to the US (if you are close with them), show an effort to learn her language and learn more about her culture, let her know every step of the visa process, be very close to her and keep constant communication with her, etc.
The visa process can be very stressful and moving to a different country and culture is not an easy step. The way your fiancee is feeling is normal. She needs you, be there for her.
Good luck to you both!
Perla Austral reacted to Gary and Alla in She's Afraid of the USA...
Some other important things. She KNOWS she will be depedent on you, do not even try to say otherwise, she will be. Even if she speaks good English she will be dependent on you for many things.
Are you dependable? I think something very important in a LD relationship is that you are 100% reliable and dependable. If you aren't calling her when you say you will and have an excuse (even a good one) how do you think she feels? Seems like a small thing, but you have to be 100% in all you do and you need to commuicate with her. "I am going to send our petition on Tuesday" Then on Tuesday you scan her a copy of the Postal tracking number for the package you sent on TUESDAY. "I will call you at 4pm" The phone better ring at 4pm. I will visit you on May 8th, send her a copy of the ticket itinerary for May 8th. She needs to know you are the MAN to depend on, the man that is her rock. If you tell her a puppy dog will pull a freight a train...she should just hook him up. Make her number 1 and make sure she knows it by your actions.
So inform her all you can, be there for her no matter what and always tell the truth and be honest with yourself and her. Think before you speak and try to cover all the bases, if you have somethign which might interfere with a phone call at 4pm, then better to tell her 5pm and go with that
Perla Austral reacted to Gary and Alla in She's Afraid of the USA...
Something I did, since she has an elderly mother and worried about her. I have a pretty good credit card that I never use, I told her it would be in her desk and she could buy a plane ticket anytime she wanted. She said "I prefer cash" A Canadian would take the credit card and run, a Ukrainian prefers cash. So she has enough cash in her desk drawer to get her to Ukraine anytime she wants for an emergency, etc. To say "your mom is 10 hours away" is pretty hollow if you don't have the price of the ticket. Since Alla spent a lot of time working in Moscow, which was more than 10 hours by train, she can accept that. I cannot say I would be different. You cannot blow up that "bridge" in my opinion.
The above poster's suggestion of a computer is a good one, IF her family will use it. My MIL would not know how to turn it on, so keep the LD phone cards charged up. Keep the communications open, by whatever means. Our oldest son is in Moscow 10 months per year, I did buy him a laptop early on so he can skype (and even use it for schoolwork...) Basically she was OK with it as long as she knew our son was cared for and her mother was cared for. Many times the parents fall to the care of the children and they cannot just leave that responsibility. Family means more in Ukrainian culture. Women usually live with their parents until they marry and then later the parents live with the children. If a woman divorces, she moves back in with parents. There is always a mutual dependence.
Perla Austral reacted to Gary and Alla in She's Afraid of the USA...
What? You mean she isn't willing to do anything to get a green card? To hear an ignorant jealous American feminist talk about it that is all these FSU trollops want! They wear high heels to attract fat, bald, old American men that otherwise couldn't attract a REAL woman.
I didn't find 1 in a 1000 Ukrainians that even wanted to visit the US and yes, many of them are afraid of the US. Especially if she is from a large city and you live in a rural area. I had some of the same concerns but Alla was used to international travel and not "afraid" per se. But hey, would you move to Rhode Island if you had lived in Missouri all your life and never even seen the east coast?
She is going to a place where they don't speak the same language, not only do they not speak the same language, it is so foreign few people here even recognize it for what it is. It isn't Spanish or French (though some morons will say "Bonjour" to her ) She will be asked "What language are you speaking?" The culture is completely different. It isn't like moving here from Canada where the biggest cultural difference is "no Tim Hortons". (horror) It isn't a VWP country so she can't just come and go to Disney World or look around the place. It is sink or swim, that is for sure.
You need to reassure her that you have a normal house, probably indoor plumbing (indoor toilet was a MUST for Alla) an indoor kitchen and you don't cook on an Hibachi on the porch. It took 700 or so photos to convince Alla that an island in lake Champlain was not living like Robinson Carusoe. Give her information on local cultural features, theatre, arts, etc. Give her as much info as you can.
Alla has made a lot of Russian speaking friends here, she probably has more friends and spends more time with her friends here than she did in Donetsk. In Donetsk she was working full time, here she is a student and while that takes a lot of her time, some of her Russian speaking friends are school classmates and she has lunch with them. Yes, she will depend on you, no doubt, and you better be up for it. But she will have friends.
Finally, there is no need to "give up" her life in Ukraine. We kept our flat in Donetsk and use it often, 2-3 months per year. Alla is there now and has been for a month. She will come back Tuesday, go back in August and go back at New Years also for a month. I do not stay as long as she does, but I try to go once or twice a year for 10 days at a time or so. The planes going across the Atlantic go both ways.
But this year, for the first time, Alla is saying "I miss you, I want to come home" and it is the first time she is referring to HERE as "home". Ukraine is now the "former home" or "summer home" or "vacation home". It took two years for her to accept that.
It is a big adjustment and natural to be afraid. The first 6 months are the nardest. Once they learn to drive and learn their way around and get around and do things by themselves (even if they usually do them with you anyway) they feel better. Wouldn't you? She is an adult, she is used to doing things on her own, she doesn't need someone to drive her everywhere, tell her what temperture to set the thermostat at, how to translate the knob on the oven to degrees C, etc.
She needs YOU now, she needs YOU when she gets here. So the best thing you can do is inform her, give her all the information you can.
Perla Austral reacted to Brother Hesekiel in K1 Visa received, opened wrong envelope
You obviously don't understand the severity involved.
The envelope contains her entire immigration file, in the original, of which no copy exists. Did she remove a document? Did she add one? Did she switch something?
They will have to look at every document and basically start over from the beginning. If they are unsure, you will have to resubmit documents in the original, to be inspected.
The resealing cost $1.00. The $299.00 is for tampering. Add a few hundred dollars for extended waiting and I hope you understand now why resealing is not really what this is all about.
Perla Austral reacted to HappyRs in Marraige
Your fiancee will receive NOA1, hopefully in a few days. All you can do for now is wait till you get NOA2 (approval notice) and in the meantime you can start collecting proofs of ongoing relationship (phone bills, emails, plane tickets, boarding passes, photos), as you will need them at your interview. Good luck!
Perla Austral reacted to thongd4me in My mom & neighbors love my new wife
After divorcing I moved back into a large separate apartment in my mom's house.
She is 84 and I sometimes worry about her being totally alone while I'm at work,
but she is very strong and self-reliant and doesn't have any major health issues.
I've always had good relations with our oldest neighbors but since my wife appeared
they have been much friendlier and closer. We have an Italian couple that has lived
next to us for almost 50 years and I knew all their children. Their best friend is a
widowed Korean lady who was married to an Italian-American during the Korean war.
The wife sometimes brings food to my mom, not because she thinks she can't afford
food or is starving but because she's a good Christian lady and it makes her "feel good."
She treasures the neatly typed thank-you notes my mom gives her.
Last night we were invited for a chat at our neighbors home and she told me how
she came to America. Her mom was US born but her grandfather wanted to move
back to Italy and he did with his family. Her mom got her a US passport in Rome
after WWII and sent her to live in our neighborhood with her aunt who was still
living there. You can imagine a 16 year old girl coming on a week-long sea voyage
all alone from Italy in the year 1950, not speaking much English.
She started working in the garment industry in the Bronx almost immediately, but
soon grew homesick. Her aunt, seeing her crying in the basement said that if she
didn't stop this, she would pay for her passage back to Italy because she couldn't
deal with this as America wasn't such a bad place.
From then on she stopped feeling sorry for herself, met her husband, got married
and had 3 kids. They are 2 of the nicest people I have ever met and because my
wife came here I am closer to them, which is something not likely to have happened
if I stayed single.
A guy living alone even if he is liked by neighbors is
treated differently from someone who is happily married.
People who are unhappily married are avoided by all.
My neighbors will provide statements for her AOS when
we are called for the interview.
I don't need any advice on this one, just happy to share.
Perla Austral reacted to kaibigan in To those who are married,not married and soon to be married read this.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conductive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
"I will keep a smile on my face and in my heart even
when it hurts today. I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul. Now I understand the secret of correcting the attitude of others and that is to correct my own." !
Perla Austral reacted to sugarapple in The Medical
You will have a wait first the petition has to be approved then it will forwarded to the NVC. Once the NVC forwards it to the embassy that is when you will get packet 3 this will tell you what you need to do in order to schedule a interview. Once the interview is schedule you will then take that letter and schedule yor medical. the embassy will let you know there choice of doctors to schedule the interview.
Hope this helps!!!
Perla Austral reacted to Darnell in Divorcing during AOS: What can I do?
It's a 2 edge sword, IMO .
If you WANT him to 'get some status' and stay in USA, he'll have to have his greencard.
That adjustment of status to GET the greencard is based on a bonafide marriage to a US Citizen.
This AOS process puts the USC 'on the hook' for 10 years, a contract between the USC and the US Government.
If you do NOT want to be 'on the hook' for these 10 years -
and SINCE he's not been granted a green card (yet) -
then YOU, the USC, can withdraw the I-864, affadavit of support, prior to either interview day or final adjudication.
IMO (however flawed ) - he's simply married you for the greencard, all else is for show, and he has a handler (or two).
I base that on his dichotomy of his treatment towards you, and the pile of emails that you've found.
IIWY, I'd ditch immediately, file for divorce, and withdraw the I-864, all in parallel.
If you'd like a professional opinion on this - hey ! The ICE hotline # is at the bottom of this page, in the fine print - give them a call, and get some 'other advice'.
Good Luck, however it goes, whatever you decide to you - ya, I always believe any rift is repairable, but at some point, you have to decide if you really are gonna bail out, or no.