jennareid

I'm sorry, but it sounds callous to say 'I'm on my third one.' These are humans with feelings - at least have the courtesy to call them wives.

aside from the fact that I think your ex is empty headed, do you understand that you are assigning your new husband to be's future to your ex husband? So he gets a bit apeeved at you and decides not to co-sponsor?
Personally I would not use a co-sponsor, not even my mother, and be beholden t someone for that anyway, I would rather get a part time job or whtever was necessary to raise my income. I would certainly never consider for one moment my ex spouse for a co-sponsor.
as far as the consulate goes...I would be very worried they would consider this a financail arrangement to promote visa fraud.

Every time this thread gets bumped I think "Ooh, maybe that guy's seen sense and finally divorced that manipulative wife of his." But no, I see you're still treating her like a child and hoping she'll change when she clearly won't. It's getting boring.

RUN!!!! HE WILL NEVER CHANGE!

Right now, you don't have any options. I'm sorry - just because you came here as a child and attend school...sadly doesn't entitle you to anything
What is the status of your parents right now?
Good luck

None - there is nothing that you can do just coz you have lived here since 11 yrs illegaly does not give you a free ticket to convert to legal status.

It's been sounding to me (and, undoubtedly, to others) that your wife views it as a business arrangement: Marry an American, send her/his/their money to her parents and family. Had MY wife tried that, I'd have long ago kicked her shapely hindquarters back to her country -- and before I married her, too.

its your son. its you that is choosing to allow hatred of the US to be taught to your son by his grandfather. time to be mom & put an end to it.

Breatfeeding is the best for baby,and its free

Don't you think that's a bit too much to spring upon her?

As someone who had a later in life pregnancy 34 thru 35, I advise against this. I got pregnant by surprise. I had been on the pill for years and by some simple twist of fate got pregnant.
At the time, I was in a non-benefited position with the state, my husband did have benefits at his job. We had Aetna insurance ppo. This meant that we were paying out of pocket for everything. There were certain things that my OB had me do due to my age that were costly, some not covered by my insurance. Because I was a diabetic, I had to take insulin for the first time. It was like everything that could require expensive procedures I had to have it. For my last four months, I had to go twice a week to a peri natalogist for fetal bio physical profiles at $275 each.
Thank God, I was given a fully-benefited job in my 6th month. I had one of the best hmos in the country, which covered my peri visits. My son's birth cost me $250 for the copay, but due to an induction that went terribly wrong, an emergency c-section, and a five-day stay in the NICU, our combined bill was more than $42,000.
My husband and I still have financial difficulties with having a child. Child care is very expensive. Sadly, because my husband has been unemployed since july, we cannot even afford to keep my son here in the US. The daycare fees are exorbitant and we don't have the money. My MIL has taken care of my son, but her visa expires soon. He will live in Argentina with my in-laws until we can get back on our feet.
We have tried to apply for public assistance, but we make just above the cutoff for food stamps, wic, or even child care reimbursement. It is a tremendously pride baring experience since we are both educated and have good career backgrounds. I love my son very much, but I can honestly say with my hand on my chest, that please do not have a baby if you cannot afford to do so.

Using your logic every 15-year-old girl should go out and get pregnant. Children are our future, so if we're broke we should go on public assistance and let others foot the bill. I respectfully disagree with your characterization of Nigeria's comment about having a child without any reasonable prospect of providing support as presumptuous. It is being level-headed, while penury is not necessarily a valid excuse, however, starvation and becoming a burden onto others to the detriment of the child's welfare is. Our children deserve a happy, healthy future not a Dickensian nightmare of an existence.

Having a child you can't afford is a selfish act. This is going to sound bad , tough love, but a child is not a tool for personal gratification. The require money, lots of money. There is food and diapers, and medical bills. They outgrow their clothes and require a good education, which in the US means paying for a private school or paying money to live in a good school district. If you are scraping by it adds strain to your relationship, beyond what the normal bottles and diapers and sleepless nights bring. You still have a number of fertile years ahead of you. It isn't the 50's anymore where late in life babies were extremely high risk. Spend a bit of time getting your life set up to welcome the baby and then go ahead.

I understand your dilemma. Having a child is very expensive and, as a man, I really can't speak with the same authority as the ladies, however, the energy that you intend to devote to a child could be rechanneled to other pursuits. Perhaps helping out children or volunteering or something else. That would be my best advice until you are in a position to have a child. You are not old and there is still time for that blessed event to happen. Without health insurance and a only a temp job you are going to have real problems raising a child. I don't mean to sound harsh but living a hand-to-mouth existence is no life for a kid.

I can't beleive I wasted 2 hours reading 22 pages of this sh!t. I only kept going because I thought there might be an interesting finale. Oh well, back to work.
PS: It ain't love, you're just horny.

No tv for a month and she can't leave the table until she finishes all her vegetables.

I didn't say that putting the issue out there may not be beneficial to others. It may well be. But this has been going on for a while now - since December 2009 . Is there much more conversation to be had?
It's time to either s*** or get off the pot.

Every time this thread gets bumped I think "Ooh, maybe that guy's seen sense and finally divorced that manipulative wife of his." But no, I see you're still treating her like a child and hoping she'll change when she clearly won't. It's getting boring.

"Dear family,
Enjoy your new house. I worked very hard for it. I will get my green card soon. Then I can move, unless he pays my bills, hehe.
Love,"

PS: Sorry I don't email often, but I am currently grounded from the computer.

Hahaha! Sorry someone died but I just had to LOL. What a strange world we live in.
Sad story (sort of....) but this sounds like a case of 'anyone will do as long as they are USC". This is all happening while some of us wait for months for someone to let us know they have touched our files.

My God!!! I can't believe this...

I can't believe that anyone would be thinking of marrying ANYONE else after only 4 weeks?
Are you kidding me??????

She can marry whoever she wants. She can never adjust her status, unless she returns home. If her fiance just died and she is already trying to find someone else to "start all over again" with, then she's almost certainly looking for a fraudulent marriage to get benefits from, and will probably be denied even if she does return home and "start over." She should return to her home country, period.

True love!!! (for a green card!)