CanGal

Apparently not too shy to bring this up on a message board.

Lol i guess in some sense maybe but I can also hide behind my computer and not have a face to face with anyone :-p. I really don't think its a bad topic I just wanted oppinions. It's not too racy lol. or is it? I wasn't asking for peoples details of their private lives, just some input, am I the only one who thought it would be a good idea or is there others out there and if so are they shy about it as well but would like to pull something off as such. Thats all, I hope i haven't offended anyone by the topic of the post. If so I apologize .... I just wanted some input, that tis all

haha, i giggle when i'm nervous. I'm gonna end up giggeling my whole way through it. I'm about to bust a gut just thinking about it. I guess it's worth a shot to try that lol .... butt naked dance for myself lol ... *shakes head*

hey thanks lisa! lol .... i guess i'm just scared i'm gonna make a fool of myself. Like someone said in another forum, i feel silly just shaking my hips a bit let alone this, but hey. But I thought maybe if I learnt lol maybe he would have that shock value you know, because he knows I'm shy and probably wouldn't expect it. Lol knowing me I probably find myself laughing the whole way through it haha. The question isn't really me doing it I guess I was just curious how other people felt about it. Now I'm not talking in a public sense whatsoever, I just want to know in front of an audience of one, hence husband or whatever. It is becoming popular I guess but the lady on oprah, oh I'm sure you'd all know who she is if you saw her, she's famous actress or was I dunno if she still is and her hubby is an actor as well, I think he used to be on the west wing. Anyways thats all besides the point. I'm just curious, am I the only shy one or is this the norm between lots of couples? lol ..

QUOTE(roi_aggie @ Jul 8 2006, 05:34 PM)

QUOTE(LisaD @ Jul 8 2006, 11:29 AM)

good times, good times!

And when you're done, you just take it down & no one's the wiser

Are you speaking from experience here?!!!

Err...I think I saw an infomercial.

Or summat

Too funny hehe

Ok so here is the thing. I'm a shy girl when it comes to certain things in life. On the most part I'm pretty outgoing but in other areas I'm shy. I've been thinking of different things that could maybe catch my husband off guard, something he wouldn't expect as a gift or just whatever. So the other day I had nothing better to do but watch tv all night. So I ended up watching Faith & Hope, I never seen it before but nothing better was on. Anyways, she takes up stripper dancing classes to surprise her husband. Well then I watched Oprah as well and they had a lady on there, forget her name, and she as well teaches it, She's really popular and she calls it the S factor. Now I'm a christian and have no want or desire to attend a strip club or anything like that but I thought it could be kinda fun to learn in the privacy of my own home and surprise hubby. Is there anything wrong with that? Now part of me is really shy in areas such as this lol and I'm scared I'd end up being more clumsy and make a fool of myself than anything. I just want peoples oppions, ladies and men alike just to see what they think and if any of you out there would be shy about doing this but interested, you got tips on how to get over it? lol .... We will see where this goes ...

CanGal aka Alicia

I agree that all 3 that were up for the chopping block last night could have went. Duran Duran, like come on! I have to say I do kinda like this one better than American Idol though these people want to be part of tommy lee's band supernova which I'm not a big fan of but it is still fun to watch. It's a nice change from a whole bunch of sweet ### ballads and stuff.

I believe many people feel the same as you daisy. I don't know if you get alot of this but I too am from Canada and I get told alot that it really can't be that bad, Canada is really no different than America so ajusting shouldn't be that hard. I didn't expect it to be but I have come to realize that many things are different here in the US compared to back home. People always say the first year is the hardest, especially when your dealing with AOS and gov't on top of being married and joining and sharing your life with someone else. It's like extra pressure, because not only are you newly married, but you moved and are trying to re-establish yourself once again. Trying to build up what you once had and had to leave behind. I too am having a hard time ajusting but alot of it was because I had nothing better to do because of waiting upon aos and such so I had too much time on my hands. Now that I have my greencard I'm hoping that I will be able to find it easier to ajust more since I can start looking for work and a vehicle and get myself back into a groove. I'm sorry you had to leave your children behind, thats hard. I on the other hand don't have kids but I left my entire family behind and friends and I am finding it very hard. I am very close with my mom and its hard to not be able to just go out and hang with her. Hang in there, hopefully things will get better for you and you can finally start getting your groove back soon as well!

I agree with alot of people. I too have to admit that my process has moved alot faster than I expected but I do know that this entire process can bring on great amounts of stress. I too think I hit a point here where I just couldn't get motivated and so on and so forth. I agree that there is no shame in seeking out help professionally if that is what you feel you may need. I at some points thought about it and sometimes still do, just counseling or something. Hang in there, I know it's so redundent to hear that but we are all here for you but be sure to surround yourself with a support system at home and I hope that you will be ok.

CanGal

meauxna , lol too funny. Nice signature ... :-p hehe

Thank you

I just believe that he is and tries to be represenative of the people. He wouldn't be elected if people didn't want him to be. As for the American People in themselves, sometimes I think they don't even know what they want. We are at war right now, nobody likes war, everyone wants troops to come home, that is natural. But it would be dumb to pull out now. Now if we didn't go to war people would have been screaming to bush about that and why we aren't doing anything and such. It's a two way thing, we are never going to make everyone happy. No matter what decision he made people aren't going to agree ... it's always been like that, it tends to still always be like that. Now I'm not one to talk about politics, I'm really not, i'm not an expert by any means, lol I'm from Canada and well our politics at home are weak in my mind and I just never paid attention. Here in america you can't go anywhere without hearing about the right or left and politics. *Shakes head*

and it keeps going and going ...

if he won the election then he's "representative of the american people"

Agree

Ya I watched it last night, I liked it cuz it was kinda of layed back. I just thought that the guys coulda been a little more criticking or something because some of them were way better than others. That one guy, the baseball player guy I thought was horrible. But there were some really good ones. I think the girl who sang the nirvana song and the last guy to sing seem to look and sound like they fit more of the bands profile... maybe its just me ... lol

think the problem is not of ignorance but one of apathy and skepticism. We aren't a culture of 'believers' - affirming what we're told as much as we are emotional reactionaries - we respond to the most basic human impulses and the information sources feed those primal emotions just as the advertisement industry has done successfully for years. It's a psychological mind ####.

It is so sad but so very very very true.

You're not allowed to be for Israel on this forum any more. This here is Hamas-occupied territory

Ooooh I c .... lol interesting ....well I'm still for Israel all you Hamas ppl lol. Gupt have we met? Or you someone regular here under a different name??

Hey miss shonnie! I see you at the bottom of this page lol .... how you doing??? As have things changed around here, I dunno, I've been around for a long time and I haven't really noticed a whole lot change except for maybe some attitudes .... *shrug*

I didn't read through all of this but am I allowed to say I'm for Israel??

Finally I gave up and admitted defeat. I couldn't keep up....so I tried to get a life

I second that lol !!

aww i'm not leaving lol if anyone cares to know :-p haha

And I do agree that it is cheaper to eat unhealthy foods - it really squeezes my budget to choose organic or more healthful choices.

They actually say it is cheaper to buy healthy than it is unhealthy. Yes the upfront cost seems to be more such as for example when I buy whole wheat pasta it tends to be at about 1.50 to 2.00 depending on what I get compared to 1.00 and .50 cents. But if you look at the bigger picture, like someone said above, you tend to eat more of the sugar and unhealthy stuff up alot quicker than you would healthy foods so then you end up going out and getting more, etc. Though the upfront cost of healthy food is a little more expensive, it usually tends more and should last you longer than the latter. It takes a lot less of to fill you up.

I am excited as well!!! I thought the first one was really good and I love Johnny Depps character, I think he does a great job!

However, in the day to day living when your partner does something that normally would not earn your respect. Do you sho respect anyway?

I think this is a big thing! I too believe you need to respect one another before you get married but I think as Onwa is saying just the daily stuff. Day to day living, not an overall picture maybe. As I said above, I do think it is different for men and women. I have asked many men since reading the book i'm reading would you rather have, respect or love and every single one of them said respect and all the women said they would rather have love. I think men need respect just as deeply as we women need unconditional love. Usually in my day to day living with my husband sometimes there's comments, or spats, and there are times where I think he has done something hurtful so I lash out maybe in a disrespectful way trying in return to get his love or him to show me love. I feel if I'm not getting his love then I need to hold back maybe in a respectful way till he shows me love but I've learned that no matter how much it hurts or how hard it is, I have to show the respect even when I feel I don't want too even though in the bigger picture I do love and respect my husband, he may see it differently. I have talked to my husband much about this and he tells me all the time " Honey I know that you love me, every moment of the day I know you do, but sometimes I just feel like though you love me you just sometimes don't like me or respect me" I didn't know he felt that way, so we talked it out. And he's been kinda following along with me in this book I'm reading. I've been learning alot abotu the everyday stuff and how he feels disrespected sometimes.

We did the smooshing! It was fun, messy but fun. we got a big cheer for doing so

Just as I want unconditional love from my husband, my husband wants unconditional respect from me. Its been a complete mind change for me but its as almost as a light bulb went off in my head

Onwa, I am figuring this out myself. I am actually reading a book right now that talks about this exact same thing. It is called Love & Respect, The love she most desires, The respect he desperately needs. It is by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It talks about what you stated above exactly. I also used to think that respect had to be earned but I am learning how me and my husband as male and female reacte to one another. I want unconditional love from him and when I don't feel that I'm getting it somewhere, mostly unintentionally my respect for him diminishes. But I am learning that the oppositte happens to him. When he feels he is being disrespected by me he tends to hold back the love towards me in actions, words, etc. He shuts completely down. I am learning from this book how to change this. That sometimes, even when I don't want to or feel love coming from him, that I am too still show him respect. It's hard, but I am beginning to believe in the concept because I see the change in how my husband reactes to me.

I guess the past is the past. Hopefully people can learn from their pasts and not make the same mistakes. But it is the past that molds the future. My husband and I have always been pretty open when it comes to one another and our pasts. There have been some things in his that I don't like and or even agree with but it was phase and he has moved on and grown up from it. If I ask he tells and vice versa. Open communication with much honestly is always the key!