Kiesel

I just want to spread some positivity to someone tonight. I am awaiting i485 interview but I still come every now and then to read your stories. I used to check this board like crazy because nobody understands us like us. By the grace of the Great lord we will all have our papers. There is a light at the end of every tunnel, sometimes anxiety gets the best of us but then just imagine what if there was no such law as VAWA? Then what would life be like? Do not deny the favors of our lord. This too shall pass. Breath! Everything and its timing. 
love you 

You're brave and strong. If all docs are in place, go for it. We're all here to support you! Someone said a few days ago, doors are closed when we stop believing, so don't stop believing and have faith.  I'm yet to file, and I get my inspiration from this place.

You're brave and strong. If all docs are in place, go for it. We're all here to support you! Someone said a few days ago, doors are closed when we stop believing, so don't stop believing and have faith.  I'm yet to file, and I get my inspiration from this place.

Just remain positive..everyone went through that phase..I stayed prayed up and believed..Jesus won't let your heart break! You will win!👍

Hi Everyone, just wanted to let you know that I am about to file my petition. I am so scared. The lawyer sent me the package today and I don't have any expertise to know if it's any good. I am so scared and nervous but I guess there is no other way to go from now.

The most dangerous time for a survivor is when he/she leaves the abuser.Do not tell that you are leaving, just pack your belongs when he/she is not home and leave the house. Exclude  him from your social media, block his email and phone calls.
 
If you have a child with the abuser you should ask asap for custody, ask the Court not to disclose your address.
 
 

good suggestion. my counselor told me to be prepared for anything at this stage. 

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm actually scared of leaving. One of my primary concern is losing my source of income, and I'm still not done writing my declaration. Still trying to get through to a psychologist too. I've reached a stage where I lost my confidence in my decisions. When did you file for divorce (before leaving or after leaving)?

I am interested in getting a new psychological evaluation as soon as possible.
However, I don't have an attorney for my VAWA case, and some doctors don't want to have evaluation session with clients who don't have attorneys.
Can anyone recommend someone who are accepting independent clients?

Then I suggest to be ready for plan B and filling for restarting order as well; the number that you have to call and things like that. I suggest to let them know (the VAWA hotline) that you are planing to leave. 
 
The more prepared you are, the less stress you go through and you will enjoy your freedom. 

If the package is too big they will generally put a slip in your PO Box and keep your package for a few days in the backroom.
 
If it's ready to be scheduled for an interview then it's most likely at the field office. You can find your field office by ZIP code here: https://www.uscis.gov/about-us/find-a-uscis-office/field-offices
 
Best to write to both the service center and to the field office requesting to hold the I-485. Worst case scenario one of those requests will be thrown in the trash.

I personally didn't have big packages arrive to my PO box but I did ask people working there what happens if I receive one - they said they put in a slip in your box and keep the package in a separate room. 

Wow!!!!!😀✨🌟💫🌟🌟💫 terrific!! Huge! So excited for you girl...where the party @😘 imma pull up!🚙🌟💫✨✨🌟💫 CONGRATULATIONS!!! Big win!!!

Hi my friend, sweetie,
 
@sandranj
I got I-485 approved!
 
 Total 988 days , 2 years9 months 
I can’t believe that! Thank you guys !
 
I love here anyone ,  from here I Learning a lot. Here give me a lot of help. And Sandranj told me how to face to my arrest record .

if someone still on waiting your vawa approved and greens card approved , you should be come to here study and Learing something .
 
due to may be you miss some document or have some arrest record .
 
if you have arrest record , you should be go to expungement your record . That is easy to do it .
i done that by myself.
 
when I ready my I-360
i went to saw my psychologist , they write the report to me ,  That help my I-360 a lot , make vawa easy approved .
 
and about my I-485 , must be ready I-485 security question , if you don’t know question , you should be translated To your language and bring to interview . 
 
when they asking you , you can take your I-485 translates language to look at that and answers the security question. Don’t alway answer No , because they will be think so maybe you don’t understanding the security question .
 
Houston tx 
9/21/2020 got I-485 mail card to me! 
9/14/2020 interview date 
9/3/2020 got interview notice 
8/25/2020 sent interview notice from houston 

8/21/2019 transferred to NBC 
8/21/2019 approved I-360 
3/22/2018 sent I-485 and I-765
1/7/2018 I-360 PD date 
 
There has been a recent processing action taken on your case. 
 
Receipt Number: EAC181
 
Application Type: I485, APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR ADJUST STATUS 
 
Your Case Status: Card/ Document Production 
 
On September 21, 2020, we ordered your new card for Receipt Number EAC181, and will mail it to the address you gave us. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address. 

don't lose faith and all i can say is if you have a work permit or a job leave, i was just like you afraid to leave even tho i was the person with the income, you need to move away and hopefully you will be able to recover and move forward with your life, me personally i'm still depressed and scared and kind a antisocial, i hope that if im allowed to stay in this country and my AOS gets approved i will be able to finally move forward.Just have faith and know things will get better, if you need help or if there is a way we can help please let us know. One thing i have realized that this forum and the people that are here are like one big family and we are here for each other in one shape or form.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm saving so I have enough to survive and I'm not in danger to file for a restraining order. Perhaps, if things get bad when I leave, then I'll get one. 

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm actually scared of leaving. One of my primary concern is losing my source of income, and I'm still not done writing my declaration. Still trying to get through to a psychologist too. I've reached a stage where I lost my confidence in my decisions. When did you file for divorce (before leaving or after leaving)?

- Financial resources to survive.
- If possible, get a restraining order. 
- Change your phone number. 
- Change all you passwords. 
- Spend your 100 to file VAWA (if you haven't already). It is really not complicated if you just follow the steps. 
 
- Start learning meditation and self-care (if you don't practice already). 
- Read books that help your mind and soul to empower you. 
- Never look back and be proud of yourself. 
- Surround yourself with positive people and things. 

My experience was that once i left him, i feelth so relieved, and the first few days, it felt amazing, no fear, no anxiety about what may happen. One of my mistakes was that i didn't change my phone number and that i didn't file for a restraining order right away. Then again, my case was quite extensive, what i mean by that is that the abuse continued, and i had to file multiple restraining orders since he always violated them. He also hired a PI to find me and to continue to abuse and harassed me. Then again, then he also had like good moments, when he was saying how he was wrong and feel guilty for what he did and how sorry he is, but he never changed. He always went back to his mean and abusive behavior.  One advice that i def want you to follow if you can is. If something happens and he/she continue to abuse and harras, don't be afraid to file charges. I just recently filed charges, and that made hi stop. He went away for now. I didn't want to file charges because when you love someone, you always give them a chance, and you don't want to put them in jail or harm them, but just like a few police officers told me, and also the two judges and the states attorneys and the family center told me multiple times told me mine/your safety is important and if someone is trying to harm you that means that they don't care about you and /me/you have to do what you have to do to keep yourself safe even if it means that you have to press charges and to call the police not to be afraid. After i pressed final charges, he was warned by the judge that if he does it again, he will go to jail this time. So don't be afraid to protect yourself. 

How should we answer if the officer asks questions about abuse or VAWA details? I honestly don’t think I can remember some details or even handle trying to think through all those details. It overwhelms me and my brain just gets like a big fog cloud. 
 
I know they shouldn’t ask but some still do...

it takes about a month for them to send a rejection letter (VSC) mine submitted on 07/24/20 rejection on 09/14/20.

3 weeks ago on August 20 

@Kiesel DM me, I know an excellent psychologist in WA state who handles VAWA evaluations and doesn’t require referral from attorneys. Just tell them you simply can’t afford one and they’ll take your case. Plus they’re affordable and also offer flexibility with payments. They did mine and Sandra said it was “excellent”, it was instrumental in my case’s approval without RFE. 

Thank you all for the support. This place has shown me more support and comfort than anyone else I talked to! you guys are  good people  

True statement. Thank you for highlighting this point.