Zee Bee

Our condelences to the family

We just sent an RFE to CSC using Express Mail. They know how it works and someone will sign for it. Don't worry

Congratulations!!!

You may also want to look into getting his degree evaluated. Wes (http://www.wes.org/) is the only one I know of.
Depending on what the equivalent is in the USA he may/may not have to take extra classes before graduate school.

I organized my documents by using tabs. I then used a black binder clip to keep it all together. I put the check in an envelope and just stuck it on top.
I read on another thread that USCIS has folders/binders that they put the info in anyways so I didn't bother with one. I think the key is to put things together in such a way that it is organized and together.
Hope this helps.
Zee

As long as you met sometime in the last 2 years you are good
My fiance and I were only physically together for about a total of 24 hours when we filed.

The issue I have with USCIS is the transparency like RJ and kerewin21 said. Quite frankly, I don't care how long it takes them to porcess the petitions. I just wish that they would let us know what is going on.
If they say AP is going to take 6 months then it should. The part where people get frustrated is that they hear the "2-3 weeks" and 5 months down the road they call and are told to call back in another 2 weeks.
If they really stuck to the processing guidelines that they post on the website and actually tried to HELP (instead of the "give us 30 days to look into it. If we have not gotten back to you send us a letter or whatever and wait another 120 days for a response).

Geez....calm down!!!
It is completely unnecessary to berate the OP about this. She obviously didn't know that this was something that was frowned upon. I think she gets it. As someone who understands what the OP wants to do, she is not bringing her SIL here merely to avoid day care costs.
Believe it or not, in some cultures it is customary for a member of the family to travel and help a couple who has just had a baby. Its not unusual for a sister, aunt, cousin, what have you to take time off from whatever they are doing to help out with a new addition to the family (and yes, some can take off months at a time). It is how we keep a sense of community. When my SIL had her baby 2 years ago in MD I took off work to go and be with her to 10 days. She didn't ask, I offered. The same offers came when I had my son in August.
Its a lot more than someone coming here to defer the costs of taking care of a child.

What a lot of people don't know is rkk1 has posted MANY times about her husband. The gist of it is this:
- He will NOT help her with household finances once he's here and earning in US currency. He said he will send it all home to care for his family
- At one time, with the tax refund, he demanded she send him a portion seeing it was thanks to him that she got so much of a return (there was a lot more to this, with him constantly changing amounts and trying to use emotional blackmail on her)
- She was pressured to marry him and wasn't ready at the time (from her previous posts) but she's trying to make it work because of family pressure.
There are many previous posts of rkk1 which show severe issues in the relationship. I have no doubt she is being used, that his delay is due to getting the 10 year card so he doesn't need her anymore, or something else nefarious.
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Your Indin sisters here in the US, who have married tradional Indian husbands have told me to part these words of wisdom to you. HE is not going to change what you see is what you will have; here in the US or back in India. If you wish for him to be someone different, that's not going to happen.

Like others said, this has nothing to do with being Nigerian. This is just his personality.
How was his behavior towards you when you were apart?

Agreed.
VJ needs a red flag emoticon for situations like this one.

OK...I don't care if I get thread banned. Cases like this are the reason immigration is so difficult for people with BONAFIDE marriages and relationships to get through this broken system of ours. I will be the one to pass judgement. You just withdrew a petition for K1, now you're in "love" with a woman who has barely been married on a k1 to a different man and you want advice from those of us who would do anything to have our SO with us??? Those of us who have done everything legally, who love and miss our SO. Who have been separated for months, some couples for years. Couples like my husband and I, who did everything by the book,went through the entire process start to finish only to be told that we are in the black hole of administrative processing, we have to wait until the process is done. It has already been 2 months since we have been put in AP, and it could be months and months more before his visa is issued, we just don't know. We have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on travel expenses for me to go to see him every 3 or 4 months just so we can spend a few weeks together as a married couple in the same country, countless hours on skype and msn, phone and texting. the list goes on and on. I wouldn't trade one minute of it, because my husband and I know in the end we WILL be reunited, that we have a real and true marriage and we love each other, and that all of the stress and pain and worry of being apart will have been worth it. Your whole story is a hot mess and exactly the reason it is so difficult for the rest of us. I said what a lot of people here are thinking. Sorry for the rant people, I am just so tired of reading these stories, I really really am.

im not here to judge you or her but wanted to pass on some advise my mom gave all of us............
if you can take a man away from a girl some other girl will come and take him from you
same thing applies for man taking a women away from her husband.........
immigration is a long hard process.......six months is a very short time to fall out of love with someone that you left your home land for.... for your own safety please be sure of what your getting into
also the others are correct she would have to get a divorce and return home then you apply for her to come to the states either as your wife or fiance....she no longer has a valid marriage since she is now in love with you so for her to have her husband sponsor her gc would be legally wrong and also visa fraud i believe but i could be wrong on that last part
just my own opinion
sara

I agree with the above; it's the cleanest and surest method.
She could stay with her husband and get the GC and then divorce and marry you but when it comes time to ROC and get her 10 year GC; the timelines will look fishy and a visa fraud decision could be rendered.
She could divorce her husband and then try to AOS on her own. If she is not sent back and is given the GC, then you two could get married and then a similar ROC attempt be made.
I will also refrain from commenting on why you would be engaging conversation that leads to "love" with a newly married woman?!!

You're talking about removing conditions. Not adjustment of status.

Eid Mubarak!!!!

Where's the +100 button on this poster's birthday?OP, you will not CHANGE a macho, and if you stay with him you'll NEVER BE FREE from machista behavior. Machista = abuse. For example, I'd like to strangle 99.44% of the males in Ecuador because of how they treat their women. The women HATE it. If you decide to be a codependent masochist and are willing to submit your baby to that kind of abuse, you'll live to regret it.
And to hell with "you have to understand Jamaican men" in terms of making this relationship "work." If any of them behave this way, they're no better FOR YOU than the Ecuatorianos who behave this way. Understand them all you want to, but stay the hell away from them.

There's relationship advice and then there's immigration advice.
Marriages will succeed/fail regardless of immigration.

Have you been to her home country? Have you seen her personal family situation there? Do you have any idea what the kids life would be like in her home country? Living in the US doesn't mean the kids will necessarily have a better or worse life. She is doing right by her kids by taking them closer to family, and by her own admission, closer to their dad where he wil be only 9 hours away instead of 17 seeing he works overseas.
The US isn't the be all and end all for everything. I think she's making a very brave decision.
1. If the dad agrees then it is unlikely to be an issue.
2. Shelter maybe, but if you and your husband agree on the divorce and custody issues you don't need to remain in the US while it's being processed. An amicable divorce can be quite quick.

And also why having a kid is NOT proof of a valid and loving relationship

Why does conversion mean that the woman has no backbone???

You know your husband is African when he does not consider ground meat....meat....no no, its not meat unless there are bones in it.

I'd take what a lot of MENA guys say to American woman about MENA women with a huge, huge block of salt.

Sister,.no one is trying to put you on the defense. I think what we're trying to do is make you keenly aware that craziness abounds in MENA, fraud abounds, and to take everything with a grain of salt...actually, two grains. Be smart, be vigilant and be prepared. Nobody wants you to get crapped on...I can honestly say that we all have your best interest at heart.
For those of us that have been around these boards for years, we've seen everything. Hell, one if my favorite stories was the time that the CO brought the wife in to the embassy to tell her that the reason for the denial was that her husband already had two wives and children! Who had been presented to her as nieces and nephews. Yes, true story....my personal fave!
You two might be drama free, but just know that yours is a totally uphill battle and the COs will look at your age situation with a very leery eye.