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You need to be scared. Apparently your husband grew up in an abusive enviroment. If he had jumped right to your defense that would be one thing but you had to tell him.
People that grow up in an abusive enviroment frequently end up being abusive. Him flipping out when you went outside is a bad sign.
These are not normal people to start with but apparently your husband set this thing off with an over reaction to you being outside.
For a short time this seemed like a loving family. beware your husband grew up in this family.
The worst thing you could do right now would be to get pregnant. If he flips out you'll be even more alone than you are now.
Take charge of the birth control and put this guy on probation for a year before you decide to get pregnant.

Transcripts should be all that you need as far as tax documentation goes.
Off topic (a bit) > Always keep the W2's, 1099's etc. That is your only proof of what you claimed as income. If you were to need new copies (loan application, tax audit, etc.) they can be difficult to replace as you will have to contact the issuing employer to get new ones. No one else has them! Life lesson learned here - KEEP THOSE DOCUMENTS!!

Thank you. =)

BTW, just because she (your wife) has been refused Tourist visa doesn't mean she can't see her and/or your family members. Any of those people can buy airline ticket(s) and fly to VN to visit her. Since she doesn't care (since 2004 per your indication) to come to the US and work/pay taxes, I see no reason the US gov't and its people (taxpayers like me) should open our hands to welcome her.
In other words, if we feel like welcoming her, we may choose to do so. Just like the way she feels no obligation to come and contribute to the US system.
Sound fair and reasonable?

harsh reality of life
im sorry if i come off as a ######,but seriously,this isnt the first time people have posted stuff like this,just because the advice people give them is not what they wanna hear,just like jim said

While there are a few people here who are perennial pessimists, most people here are genuinely trying to help. When someone says that they've done something, or suggests that they want to do something, that's well known here to be a big mistake then people are definitely going to strongly recommend against it. That's why this site exists - to make sure people are getting good advice.
People are told repeatedly not to make any concrete plans until after they have the visa in hand. This advice even comes from the consulates. When someone insists on doing something that they've been told repeatedly not to do then it's only proper for people here to condemn that action. It may not be "nice", but if people "don't say anything at all" then other new members will get the impression that it's OK, and they'll blame VJ for not warning them when their world collapses around them because their visa was postponed or denied.
Just because one person does something they were warned not to do and they get away with it, that doesn't make it advisable for others. One person's experience does not become a blueprint for everyone else. It's the collective experience of everyone that should be relied upon. You might have made firm wedding plans in advance and things might have worked out fine for you. If so, congratulations. However, if you advise someone else to do the same thing and their plans blow up in their faces because the visa is delayed then you'll have to live with the fact that you helped contribute to their misery.

First carefully consider what Kathryn has said. Then put some thought into all the things you will be doing in the near future. Adding this into the mix is just a lot of work & drama that you may not need right now.
I know some of the backstory on this subject. I would caution you that doing this is about the worst thing he could to anger his family. Forgiveness will be very difficult by the family in Thailand. It may not seem to be important now but it could be huge later. What is to be gained by this much disrespect of the very people that supported him for all these years? Vengence? There is time to do this later if it just has to be done.
If he wants to do this in Thailand its not too hard. But as Kathryn cautions it will cause many problems with the docs that are in process.
I hope you will both realize these things are not productive or helpful. If this was important why wasnt it done a long time ago? Because he knows the impact it would have had on him as it relates to his Thai family. Their support will end as soon as they become aware of him even thinking of this.
A member did your home work for you on how to do it where you live. Think it over & proceed as you will after he is here if you want.

Probably somewhere close to where you live. Where ever that is.

Your adoption scenario is far more complicated than you anticipate. For all the reasons stated above you should consult a qualified immigration attorney to learn all the aspects of this set of circumstances.

Correct & I think the adopting family has to show two years of contact & support. This is a poor idea to try to do while she is here. I think impossible when the father is alive. Also Benin has its own reputation to live down. USCIS will never allow the child to simply remain in the USA.
THe O P has good intentions I am sure but this will prove to be very difficult to impossible. This is a good case where a lawyer will be needed for the duration of the case.
There is a lot of info on line about this adoption subject. Some on V J as well.

It's not evidence that there was an actual wedding ceremony that is important. The marriage certificate is proof that the wedding occurred.
It is evidence of co-mingling of lives that is important. A circle of friends demonstrating awareness of the two persons living as a married couple is one piece of the evidence pie that ought to be presented. Financial co-mingling is what is examined more closely when determining a bona fide relationship.

Before anything further is done you & she need to better understand the tourist visa process.
She applies on her own. These cases always come down to the application of the strongest ties rule. She must prove beyond a doubt she will return. This can be very difficult to do. Keep in mind USCIS views all people holding any type of visa as intending immigrants.
You may want to think over what you are sending to USCIS. From what you say it sounds like you are preparing to fully support her in a effort for her to stay. Your taxes ect are not required for her to submit her application.
Morroco is known to be a very difficult place to obtain any type of visa from. You & she will have to have a well uderstood plan to even attempt this visa.
The only way she will ever know is to pay the fee & be interviewed. These decisions are often made strictly on the application docs & made before the interview. For this reason she must make sure she has submitted all info that would cause them to believe she will return.

You lived this, write this & need others to tell you what to do? If anyone sent this to you asking for advice what would it be?
Are you being used? You are doing it to yourself. You are responcible for all of this. You are the enabler. You must know this. Did you have this in other relationships? Who holds your hand when you have a problem?
Help yourself while you can. If you dont do what you know you must what will you do later? What price will you pay to get what you want or think you had?
Put yourself first for a change & get on with your life. I know a hundred women that would never treat you like this. You just need one. It isnt this one. The investment you made didnt work. Accept your fate & move on. If not accept the fact you need someone to abuse you & live with that fact.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know the US Citizens services section of the consulate typically does not get involved in the VISA/Consular affairs, however in this case its worth asking if they can expedite the final steps in your wife's process. If they do not cooperate, contact your senators office fill out the privacy form and fax it in and ask them to intervene on your behalf. You also might try asking to speak to the chief consular officer while you are there, these are certainly extenuating circumstances and you deserve consideration.

Sorry to be so blunt, but it sounds like you were thinking with the wrong part of your body when you entered this "relationship". And she knew it and took full advantage of it. You are being scammed, used,or whatever words you want to use. I suspect you knew this some time ago but your rose colored glasses prevented you from getting out sooner.
And this point you need to get out and get out now. No more trips. No more money. Nothing. Just one phone call to say goodbye, you are filing for a divorce and hang up. She will get upset because she is losing the money train so expect that to happen. But this is not a relationship and IT WILL NOT CHANGE. I feel sorry this happened to you, but you will be none the worse for wear in a short time.

These tourist visas can be very difficult to obtain. The approval always hinges on the strongest ties rule. This means her ties to her country are so strong that she MUST return. Sharing ownership of dwellings isnt enough. Indicating she cant support herself isnt a good idea. It serves to show she is dependent on you.
A 25 year old will find it very difficult to overcome the USCIS idea that " all people with visas are considered intending immigrants".
The only way to ever know is for her to pay the fee & try. Its expensive & she has little chance of getting approved.
Ties to family, jobs, school ect are the best way to approach the attempt.

If you can write this sad tale it shows me you arent lost or confused. You know exactly where you are & whats going on. Living it is bad enough without writting it down.
I am sure you know the only thing to do is get on with your own life. He can learn to clean his own house or have one of those internet connections bring a mop. The huge suprise is that his Mom doesnt call. She helped create him & knows not to call. She spent years behind the mop.
Should you go to the AOS interview? Your must be joking. If you do you are not bruised. You are in fact broken.

A notary verifys signatures & has zero to do with content of documents. There is no need nor requirement to notarize the 134.

Here is a sample of what has been accepted by USCIS. Note the "certification" is simply what you see.
No need for a notary. Notaries verify signatures not content.

There is nothing wrong with your case other than the millions USCIS deals with every year. Everyone goes thru this. It like a Hitchcock movie. The unknown creates fear & anxiety. You just have to sit back & let it happen. V J represnts only a fraction of the total cases but we found the timelines to be pretty accurate overall.

If you can write this sad tale it shows me you arent lost or confused. You know exactly where you are & whats going on. Living it is bad enough without writting it down.
I am sure you know the only thing to do is get on with your own life. He can learn to clean his own house or have one of those internet connections bring a mop. The huge suprise is that his Mom doesnt call. She helped create him & knows not to call. She spent years behind the mop.
Should you go to the AOS interview? Your must be joking. If you do you are not bruised. You are in fact broken.

If you can write this sad tale it shows me you arent lost or confused. You know exactly where you are & whats going on. Living it is bad enough without writting it down.
I am sure you know the only thing to do is get on with your own life. He can learn to clean his own house or have one of those internet connections bring a mop. The huge suprise is that his Mom doesnt call. She helped create him & knows not to call. She spent years behind the mop.
Should you go to the AOS interview? Your must be joking. If you do you are not bruised. You are in fact broken.

Well this is refreshing news from the soap box. Lets us know when you rule in the Utopia you decribe full of former illegals that you are supporting as you perform in the new found positon of thought police, social director & devils advocate.
We will all sing its a wonderful world & sway to the music. That is if you allow music.

No need for the wise #### remarks. I suppose its the way you were raised.
You think myself or others should enter into helping illegals find a way to stay in the USA? They are breaking the laws while using the services provided for by taxes they dont apy amoungst other things. My guess is you run your mouth while exerting zero effort in any direction.
They arent ostrizised because of where they were born. Its because they arent born here & enter illegally. You think we should just open the boarders to rid the USA of all social problems? You must need to be educated in social sciences badly.
You think the problem is centered around hospitals that care for no paying people? Where we live there are many of those people & they are almost all illegals. You simply dont have a clue.

No need for the wise #### remarks. I suppose its the way you were raised.
You think myself or others should enter into helping illegals find a way to stay in the USA? They are breaking the laws while using the services provided for by taxes they dont apy amoungst other things. My guess is you run your mouth while exerting zero effort in any direction.
They arent ostrizised because of where they were born. Its because they arent born here & enter illegally. You think we should just open the boarders to rid the USA of all social problems? You must need to be educated in social sciences badly.
You think the problem is centered around hospitals that care for no paying people? Where we live there are many of those people & they are almost all illegals. You simply dont have a clue.