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Probably because I751 allows for a waiver based on divorce, death of the petitioner or annulment.

If something goes wrong, the bill for delivery may be much higher than $24K. I am not sure though if medical bill can force people into bankruptcy...
Besides, making $500 a week is not so easy without being employed full time, pregnant women are not on the top of the list for hire and not all of them are healthy enough to work full time throughout the pregnancy.
You may be better off going to your home country for the birth, even if no health insurance there, I am sure that "cash" delivery will be much cheaper than in the US. Meanwhile, you need folic acid, prenatal vitamins and an ultrasound... all that should run you less than $500. May be you could try to get help from Planned Parenthood - they supposedly offer prenatal care at fraction of the usual cost.

Not so many people file I-751 with a waiver. You may be the only one for March. Why don't you add yourself to the long thread of the I-751 waiver filers?

I consider both what the OP told us and what I know about the culture. What was my advice according to you?
(Me thinks you have difficulty understanding what I wrote, let's make sure if it is so... or not).
You on the other hand avoid the question I asked (How would you feel if it turned out your harsh accusations were wrong?) and keep persisting that your opinion must be the only valid one.
Let's assume that she's a GC hunter...
OP can not send her home and seeing that she has a minor daughter and no income, he can't kick her out of the house either. Report her to ICE? The only evidence that may carry any weight is her e-mail stating that "this marriage never was" - which a good lawyer would reduce to nothing. She can remove conditions on her own, divorce or not.
If she is a heartless GC hunter, she already achieved her objective. If she planned on staying in the US, she should be looking for jobs and acclimating her child (teaching her English to begin with). Instead she spends her time chatting on the net and "haunting the playgrounds", with no plans for the future. Those are classic depression symptoms. She's a social butterfly, but no physically present friends are mentioned.
No job/ no income/ child to take care of with no relief (no nannies/family/friends)/ no friends or family present to share her frustrations/ failed relationship and prospects of divorce (aka "life without love is nothing") / foreign country with weak economy/ high expectations were not met... yeah, she could not possibly be depressed and taking it out on the only victim available - her husband.
Remember, this relationship started with a "whirlwind romance", not with agreement of "Ok, I'll have sex with you for a GC".
TBoneTX - literal interpretation is not always correct. The woman is well educated and has a good command of English. Possibility that she is not being literal? High.
J&O - thank you. I am trying to bring a balance to what otherwise would be a witch hunt, because I see a possibility that the lady is not what they think she is.

You do not know realities of life in Russia and that leads you to jumping to conclusions.
The ex did not give up his apartment out of the goodness of his heart. If this woman (and/or the child) was registered in the said apartment, the ex had no legal right to kick her out. He did have legal right to live there (hence he could visit as long as he wanted), but this lady probably knew how to be unpleasant enough to send him running to his mother. You see that she does know how to be unpleasant, right?
The allowance was for the child, no? Voluntary child support, perhaps.
Why is she talking to her ex-spouse... she might be trying to pave the way into his apartment again. Depending on legalities of her departure, she still may be able to get her sweet deal back. They may be talking about the child, too.
I will not change my mind? I do not have a mind to change, so to speak. I am not the one who is determined that this lady is into GC fraud. I see two possibilities: may be she is, may be she isn't.

:no:
USCIS is not an enforcer of your will. If you report him as fraud, they will ask for proof (and look for evidence themselves), but... if they find anything, if you use USCIS to "scare" him into coming back to you, very soon ICE will pick him up and take him away from you and no pleas will stop them.
Don't do it unless you are sure that you want him out of your life!
You will not get him back from ICE by saying you changed your mind, this is not a reversible process!

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss. A year of "just" lack of attention and respect is more than enough to kill love.
in "through the good times and bad", the times applies to the outside circumstances, not to how you treat your partner. If you forfeited on the vows for a year and now take them seriously when she's leaving, then you are too late. Let her go...

To the OP:
1. Don't feel guilty. You may want to take papers, but you can't, no matter how much you want it. Conditional GC is his and there is nothing you can do about it.
2. He will have hard time removing conditions. He may fail.
3. Why would your children be concern for your new husband's family???... They are not HIS children and he does not even like them!
4. If you are unhappy and he is too, and there is no reconciliation, just divorce. There is nothing you can fight in regards to immigration. Your affidavit of support will remain in force even after divorce. Outside of that, immigration is not your problem, but HIS problem.

That's right, don't file for her AOS, get a divorce and sole custody of the child.
I hope she is smart enough to claim abuse and get herself a GC on VAWA.
What you are doing is abuse:
- withholding AOS so that she can not work and support herself
- planning to take her child away (sole custody eh?)
- recording what's going on in your household without her knowledge - effectively, a set-up.
Children of soft age are traditionally awarded to mothers, so yes, you'll need a lawyer to pull this off and you will need a psychiatrist for your child and yourself if you succeed with your evil plan.

Mmmmm... well, naked pics may be a different story... She never said they were naked pics.
...but at the same time, me, personally, I would laugh about it and tease my man

Being friends with exes is indeed American way
If you can not handle it though, then there are underlying issues in your relationship...

Dude,
do you seriously stand by your statement that your wife did not show up to the divorce hearing because she never cared for your marriage?

I think the above reason IS the reason. She is just not that dumb
As well, in your writings you come out as a hell of a mean SOB. We did not hear her side. Who knows what you did to her that she abandoned you. I mean, she may or may not be a scammer... but you are definitely not in any shape to be in a relationship with a woman.

And you can thank your 'right-to-life' colleagues with making abortions much more dangerous than they should be. With the harassment and death threats it is no wonder that many decent doctors and clinics have decided against providing this medical service. If you folks get your way abortions will be driven back into the alleys and completely unsanitary conditions where they were prior to abortion becoming legal! And as a result many more women will die.
Pro-choice people like myself recognize the inherent tragedy abortion represents. We are NOT 'Pro-abortion'! We want abortion to be safe, legal, and rarely needed! We do NOT want you, or your church, trying to assert a right to make the moral and medical decisions for the rest of us!!!

Aha.
And this is why I would not recommend this article to any hurting and confused person, be they hurting alien or hurting citizen.
It simply is not a good guide/reference material.

He does act mean and irresponsible to you and you do need to protect yourself.
You need to cut every avenue he could use to hurt your credit further - cell phone including. Then tell him that he should take care of the bills he incurred immediately and that if he does not - you will procrastinate with giving him the divorce he wants.
That should work
As far as assembling the divorce application together - you are in the right. Under the circumstances, I don't think either of you should trust or expect to be trusted. When people break up they often act mean, even if they are the ones who chose to walk out. It does not mean he did not love you though. Years later when everything is ancient past - find him and ask him, only then he will be able to give you the honest answer.

And yes, just tell your friends to drop the subject, don't dwell on it, move on and think positive! What better revenge than to have a happy life

Dear Zilla,
a man who did not love you could not have possibly lived with you for 1 year and 3 months (that's what I see in your siggy). Especially, since he speaks English and I don't assume he needed financial help from you. I don't know your story, so I am assuming here about financials. If he always planned on walking, he would have left sooner. Unless... did he just wait to receive conditional GC?
As far as paperwork goes - yeah, he took it to protect himself and he will need it to remove conditions, if he already has conditional GC. Put yourself in his place - would not you do the same? It does not mean he scammed you, and I don't think you can call it stealing - while you did the paperwork and prepared that folder - it is his paperwork as well. Did he steal anything apart from paperwork? Did he try to take advantage of you somehow (apart from GC)? If not, then I'd say take comfort in that he did love you. People who are after GC are also usually after money etc. They take all they can.
Good luck,
Rika

How does it 'solve' anything when you reinforce the message that inter-personal problems are solved with violence of the strong against the weak?! Your personal experience involves also at least one felony conviction for violence as I recall you saying. You think this is a model for others to emulate?

That is why. That attitude right there among Republicans towards minorities. That is why minorities prefer Democrats.

My 2-cent...
Consider having the baby in Mexico where presumably she has some sort of coverage through the national health system. That will take care of the hospital and medical expenses. Register the child in the US Consulate so it will inherit your citizenship and once they are both ready they can join you in the US. IMHO this might be a safer option both for mother and child, and for you it will eliminate the costly hospital bills, sure to follow, if she were to have your baby here in the US.
In Mexico not only will she be near family but also she will be given the necessary care and attention should the need arise.. Meanwhile she can slow the pace of her K-1 by timing interviews, medical exams and paperwork so that the visa is ready not long before she is ready.
Good luck and congrats!!

She lacks social network to help her and with a 6 mo old baby she may very well be sleep deprived and too tired. A clueless husband who's gone a lot wonders in, steps on wrong tows and gets yelled at and, if not getting any wiser, gets thrown things at.
She probably can't even think to divorce, as she never worked in the US and so may not believe to be able to support herself, add to that immigration status and issues with not being able to go to her home country (with a baby).
Big question here, is what was thrown and if OP is afraid of her. If she threw a ball of paper or a pillow, it's one thing. If it was a knife, entirely another.
Being hot of temper, she may not be a threat, but if she's a homicidal maniac, then she's a threat no matter her size. OP may know what she is, but I doubt anyone here can.

She lacks social network to help her and with a 6 mo old baby she may very well be sleep deprived and too tired. A clueless husband who's gone a lot wonders in, steps on wrong tows and gets yelled at and, if not getting any wiser, gets thrown things at.
She probably can't even think to divorce, as she never worked in the US and so may not believe to be able to support herself, add to that immigration status and issues with not being able to go to her home country (with a baby).
Big question here, is what was thrown and if OP is afraid of her. If she threw a ball of paper or a pillow, it's one thing. If it was a knife, entirely another.
Being hot of temper, she may not be a threat, but if she's a homicidal maniac, then she's a threat no matter her size. OP may know what she is, but I doubt anyone here can.

Businesses are not taxed based on overall "revenues"! Even employee salaries and benefits come out BEFORE that small business has any tax calculated. Taxes only come out of the PROFITS. Profit is that amount of money left after all expenses including wages, salaries, employee benefits, rent, utilities, supplies, raw materials, consultant fees, depreciation of major equipment, etc... are subtracted. You apparently were unaware of this very basic but very important fact in this whole discussion. I would invite you to consider this new information a while and after you wrap your mind around it reconsider all these arguments and policies in light of this new understanding! That sole proprietor you refer to would obviously have 'profit' well below the $250,000 threshold that has been proposed for a modest increase in tax rate.

National Institutes of Health has a new trend of hiring scientists as contractors rather than as federal employees. It's cheaper and not permanent, and this is a result of budget cuts. Just because someone hires a contractor, it does not make them a customer.
Anyway - do poor people create jobs? They do. Either out of necessity or as enterprise, when there is a good customer base and profits to be made. All you need is access to loans and if you have a good credit score and a good business model, you can do it. Even if you are poor.

National Institutes of Health has a new trend of hiring scientists as contractors rather than as federal employees. It's cheaper and not permanent, and this is a result of budget cuts. Just because someone hires a contractor, it does not make them a customer.
Anyway - do poor people create jobs? They do. Either out of necessity or as enterprise, when there is a good customer base and profits to be made. All you need is access to loans and if you have a good credit score and a good business model, you can do it. Even if you are poor.

"As you wish, my dear Sir"
Later that evening, the case worker gets clubbed on his head while leaving his workplace after the shift. His wallet was picked and $21 is missing. Why, but this is worth 4 hours of peach picking and sure did not take quite as much time.
Luckily, case worker only misses couple of days of work and his medical bills ($12K) are covered by his medical insurance. Police investigation leads nowhere (too many cases like this one) but costs a pretty sum of taxpayer's money. Increases in street crime lead to more guns purchased, so at least someone is making profits.
What kind of world do you want to live in, seriously?