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5 hours ago, Quarknase said:

I so feel what you're stating here. I'm from Germany, got married here in the US and my husband turned out to be a violent piece of cr** only days after we got married. All the promises, all his words turned out to be lies and after filing my first police report the police officer looked him up in her phone (she probably wasn't allowed to) and hinted that he had an extensive list of domestic violence reports from his ex. Looking back I'm glad that she did this, as it helped me see that his violence was unlikely to go away.

Anyhow - I was all by myself in the US and of course the thought of going back to a much more comfortable life in Germany came up. But I decided against it because the thought of leaving my new life behind because of him was something I didn't want.

The US would have always reminded me of this scary and painful part of my life, and I was determined to create more (positive) memories in the US before - if ever - I return to Germany.

Fast forward - 4 years later - I am happily married and sponsoring my husband to come share a life with me in the US.

 

This shall pass, and I adore your clear mind and determination in this situation. And I'm sure you and your daughter are of great support for another ❤️

 

 

Thank you for sharing your story ♥️
 

I am so so sorry for that you had to go through all that 😔 But my starts (like they say here) how strong woman you are! Good job getting out of that kind of marriage.

Thank you for your support ♥️ I have been so alone with this thought about fighting my way trough this. Every Finn who is living a safe life here (money comes from their husbands) has all those opinions what I should do and how hopeless situation I have. I am sad that they don’t see that I have strength to go trough this. I don’t know all the options I have (which is the reason I wrote here the first time) but all the time I have had this thought that me and my daughter will survive from this and going to start our own life here and then later on move if I feel like it. 
 

Thank you so much for sharing your story♥️♥️ This will keep me going ♥️
 

And Frohe Weihnachten, Hyvää Joulua, Merry Christmas to you and your husband 🎄😊

2 hours ago, Georgia16 said:

Every time you move you have an obligation to change address. Also you said the card would come where you used to live so you didn’t updated that address either? 
just wait til you have the cards so you are sure to get them and then remember to change the address when you and the girls find your new place. 

Well this is the safety place we are staying so we didn’t exactly move here.

But thank you for reminding. That is something I can easily forget in the middle of this all.

♥️

8 minutes ago, Georgia16 said:

Okay remember you have to change address with USCIS within 10 days of a move (both you and daughters)

Should I really change my address now that they are sending the card already? 

9 minutes ago, little immigrant said:

Is your case already approved or not? 

Yes it has. My Green Card is on it’s way. 

2 hours ago, Amadia said:

@Boiler it's only after your reaction to my post that I see where I faltered in my explanation 🤦‍♀️ 

I was thinking of it from a "not yet having GC in hand" scenario....my explanation definitely would get a confused look  

2 hours ago, Amadia said:

@Boiler it's only after your reaction to my post that I see where I faltered in my explanation 🤦‍♀️ 

I was thinking of it from a "not yet having GC in hand" scenario....my explanation definitely would get a confused look  

 

Oh I didn’t give that reaction 😅 but yes still I was confused.

thank you for your support ♥️

2 hours ago, Georgia16 said:

Stay safe! Remember there is a huge Scandinavian forum and community if you need it.  
 

will the GC’s come to the address he is at? 

Thank you.

And no, Green Card is going to be delivered to his mom’s and step dad’s address where we first lived. I trust the step dad, he is being supportive to mez

47 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

You got this!  🇫🇮

Thank you 😭♥️

1 minute ago, USS_Voyager said:

He has no power over you whatsoever. You are always in charge of your own destiny. 

 

As mentioned, he cannot cancel anything. He has passed the point of no return. He cannot even withdraw the I-864 because the I-485 has already been approved. 

 

Like I said, your focus right now should be:

 

1. The safety of you and your child, both physically and emotionally. If you feel like it's not safe, time to think about moving out. There organizations that help people in your situation: victims of abuse, woman's groups, ... Contact them. Remember to get the green card. If he hits you or your child, call 911 immediately. 

2. File for divorce. You need that to proceed with immigration. 

3. Collect evidence as I mentioned above. 

4. Start the process of healing. 

Thank you ♥️ I am fortunate and living with a Finnish/American family right now. There is no way I could stay in a same place alone with him. 

Thank you for being so supportive. ♥️

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

You need a Divorce Lawyer, nothing currently for an Immigration Lawyer.

Okay thank you. Have to start looking. Thank god for this Forum. ♥️

8 minutes ago, debbiedoo said:

he can not cancel your green card

 

you can adjust status with a divorce waiver

Thank you for your answer. ♥️
The only thing is bothering me is that I just had the Green Card interview so my actual card is still on its way by mail.

8 minutes ago, USS_Voyager said:

Yes, with a divorce waiver. You have to get divorced first, then file the I-751 with the divorce and it will be processed accordingly. 

 

You need to proofs of the marriage was entered in good faith, proof of the time you lived together since came here, how the financial was commingled, then document how things changed, you tried to work on the marriage by going to counseling, how he walked out, .... All of that is good stuff, you need to keep proof of all of that. 

 

Yes, it can be done. Yes, people do that all the time. No, you are not alone. I see people apply with divorce waiver and routinely get approved. 

Thank you for your advice! You had so specific answer. Maybe I should try and find another lawyer and do it with him/her or is it possible to do it without a legal adviser?

I am so like a deer in the headlights right now and the power my husband is holding over my head is overwhelming even to a strong Finnish woman like me 😔

1 minute ago, Georgia16 said:

Actually if a person gets divorced and have the decree they can file right away. That said it would not look so good right after you get the 2 year green card in the mail and you still have to provide evidence that the marriage was real. 

2 minutes ago, sasha8384 said:

you can only apply in the time you are required. at this point I personally recommend you seek legal advise.

I have heard cases that have been able to apply removal before the 2 year is full. 

Lawyer is only saying that I should just hang in there and not do anything.

What should I do: I just had my Adjusment of Status/ Green Card interview. We got married last April and my husband has been showing really aggressive nature. We have had counseling but he walked out from the last session. Me and my daughters Green Card are on it’s way but now my husband decided to threaten me that if I don’t behave like he wants (do things like he wants) he is going to ask the immigration officers to cancel our Green Cards and send us back to our home country. 
I sold everything and gave up everything to come here based on his apparently empty promises and I cannot go back straight away for financial reasons and also cause it would be so hard for my daughter having to move again and leave her new friends.

Is there any way that I could apply for removal of conditions on my Green Card this early?