Janjolette

Im not fishing for sympathy, I just want to put something into perspective for all you guys. My petition was received on may 16th. After 5 years together we were finally coming to the end of our long journey to be together forever. August 11 my life was turned upside down when my darling fiancé was tragically killed in a car accident. I still don't know what to do with myself. For all of you worrying about how long this process is just remember the time is coming for you to be with your loves. You will see each other again no matter how long it takes. I can not come to this thread anymore to read the news. It just hurts way too much. 

Much love to everyone going through this process and good luck to you all.

😘

jan

2 hours ago, LabOz said:

maybe some technical issues on that side. Do you have FB contact with any of his friends , family or co-workers over there? you may want to consider contacting one of them to see if they know anything.

Could be lost or damaged phone.

I'm sure all is fine.

I don't have FB or contact with his family. 😞

Having a rough go of it today. Haven't heard a single thing from rashed in over 48 hours. No texts, calls, nothing and it's showing my texts are not going through. I am sick with worry and beside myself in a panic. Help 

3 hours ago, Chris2870 said:

I understand. My ex was supposed to file an uncontested with me and be done over a year ago, but ran off with her BF and then dodged every Sheriff that showed up to serve papers.haha But I finally caught her at work and it was served.

My ex moved from my house in with his girlfriend. And she filed our divorce papers. How's that for efficient.

3 hours ago, Salty2305 said:

So tonight I've gone down the rabbit hole and convinced myself that we will have trouble getting our noa2 because Matt is recently divorced  

 

Does anyone else go through stages of complete and utter panic that they won't get their NOA2 at all or is it just me? 

I'm divorced too. No biggie. We are also using an attorney and she is very confident that we will be approved. If she is confident than I am confident and so should you be! 😊 Best of luck!

1 hour ago, AnaMolina said:

Day 105 here since noa1

Me and my fiancee were apart for 1.5 year  only facetiming and looots of texts, then when I finally got vacation from work and school I got to go visit him february/march this year. The waiting is terrible and saying goodbye hurts too much. The good thing is that, hopefully, it won't be necessary anymore!  keep up with the good vibe guys, we are so close now!

Positive thoughts coming your way! And on a lighter note, it won't be 1 1/2 years until you see each other again! 

1 hour ago, Keith & Monica said:

Just called our favorite people in the world (notice the extreme sarcasm) and was told that an RFE was sent to me on 7/31.  I of course have not seen anything in the mail nor does it show online that an RFE was requested.  I am beyond pissed off and frustrated with the lack of information and compassion from them.  Tier 1 still says that they received it on 3/28 and that they are working on Feb petitions.  Asked for a Tier 2 and got a call back while still trying to setup the callback and they say that I got an RFE. ####### could it possibly be!!!  I can't imagine.  I need something to calm me down.  I wish I could speak with Monica, but she is at work.

That's such a bummer! I've been looking forward to your approval. I'm almost as sad as you over this. But probably not quite.

2 hours ago, smilei said:

Haha...oh well, try having not a really good internet connection. The last time I heard his voice was few weeks ago, saw his face over FaceTime was a month ago. I'm just grateful the signal lets me text  to have some decent conversation with him. 

Been there too. When he was working offshore for his previous job there were times when months went by with not a word. Finally we are moving forward and I just have such positive feelings going through this process because finally we are getting somewhere no matter how long it takes it's the last leg of our journey.

14 minutes ago, ME & Æ said:

😳😳😤😡😡😡

im sorry 

 

no wonder USCIS has been taking their time approving our petitions and working at a sloths pace ever since trump took office...

i mean before January 2017 it was taking 60 days or less for NOA2.. now you're lucky if you get your NOA2 in 150 days at least

Will be pumped beyond belief when this is over for sure. 

Just now, ME & Æ said:

A whole year!!!????

i can't even begin to imagine...

as expensive as it is i been flying over to Africa to see my fiancée at least once every 3 months...

i got a second job where I'm making just enough to cover the flight tickets 

Rashed tried coming here for Valentine's Day. But there was "not a Muslim ban" going on. When he got to the airport they interrogated him for 7 hours about his religion. Asked him his political views then escorted him to a plane back home. 

Just now, qqq said:

Lets all just think that this is the last leg of waiting.... after this no more crying and goodbyes in the airport. To be honest we've been doing this for 5 years but we still cry when I leave. It always feel like the it was the first time

We've been together 5 years too. Fully together for 2 and apart off and on now for 3.

43 minutes ago, mcs said:

Almost a year for us too... Skype is good but it oftentimes makes me miss her more... :((

Agreed. I cry when I see his face. We do have Netflix dates quite often though. Watching the same movie on a relaxing day. That's nerdy, but nice

Just now, Estibaliz said:

I thought you were joking, yep. Just you forgot the

Lmao yep I'll try to remember that for next time

Just now, Adam_Bauer said:

No need to be rude. 1 month, 4 months, 12 months.. it's all long when you are separated from the one you love. We are here together for support and information. Are members who have been away from their S/O for more than X-amount of time allowed to express their feelings here? Nope. Show some compassion.

Jesus you have no sense of humor. I was not being rude. That is just my personality 

3 hours ago, smilei said:

So jealous! The last time I saw my fiance was over four months ago. Ugh

Been almost a year for me so quit complaining 

27 minutes ago, Janjolette said:

Probably tmi, but I was in the hospital so sick. He slept in my hospital bed with me. I had this drain tube coming from my stomach and the nurse thought we were so cute laying there that she didn't want to bother us so she didn't empty it in the night and it exploded all over. He didn't run away in fact he sat there with me all day with that nastiness on his clothes and we had only been together for 3 months 😮 In sickness and in health right?

I will add that my grandfather was in the same hospital at the same time and he passed. So in addition to sitting around with my bodily fluid on his clothing, poor Rashed was meeting much of my family for the first time.

48 minutes ago, tcovington said:

So this is kind of off topic, but in trying to break my habit of being a negative Nancy when I'm typically an optimistic realist I thought of a way to bring up every ones spirits, if they do choose to partake. 

Lets hear the stories of when you figured out your SO was the one. 

 

To set this off: i knew jonathan was the one when, back when we were just best friends, we were watching some tv thing about divorces and I made a comment that if I get married the only way it end is by death. Jonathan looks at me and says I can get you to give me a divorce. I of course call bs. I don't believe in them. Anyone can do what that want, I just don't like them, but anyway back to the story. I laugh and say oh how do you figure Mr wise one. He looks me straight in the eye and says I'll continuously put the toilet paper on the roll backwards. I called him a monster and fell off the chair laughing. That was my he's mine moment. I ppl forward to reading others responses! 

 

Lets get the positivity rolling!

Probably tmi, but I was in the hospital so sick. He slept in my hospital bed with me. I had this drain tube coming from my stomach and the nurse thought we were so cute laying there that she didn't want to bother us so she didn't empty it in the night and it exploded all over. He didn't run away in fact he sat there with me all day with that nastiness on his clothes and we had only been together for 3 months 😮 In sickness and in health right?

2 hours ago, GazLisa said:

OH by the way peeps it does look like uscis and embassy may check your fb accounts the consular officer asked me if I had any dogs 🐶 my fb page is full of photos of my dog Sheldon 😁

I don't have Facebook. What's gonna happen to me now?

38 minutes ago, troika said:

Not even a lunch break ? 🤔 

 

I have found that American culture is very much a workaholic culture. Live to work, instead of work to live (except for USCIS 🤣 ). What is it like only 10 vacation days a year normally ? We get standard 25 days over on this side of the pond. We try to do as little as possible, if we can. Preferably in the pub around lunch time, maybe we'll make it back to the office that day, maybe not 😂 haha

 

I am worried it's gonna be a culture shock to me. 😬 

I work 10 hour days with 20 minute lunch break and 4 paid vacation days per year. That's life.

8 hours ago, Maria1989 said:

Hey..... Roll Call !!!! I'm Maria NOA1 is May 17, my fiance is in Dakar and I'm tired of this waiting..... But as soon as we get the appointment date Im flying over, yaaaay !!!

My noa1 is the same as yours! Fiancé in KSA.

Just now, AnJ Co said:

Some states are like that.  Every state I have lived required it to be stated on registration for primary purposes.  

I don't know how it works in MN, but you never have to declare when appearing to vote in a primary?

Interesting.... 

In the primary typically the votes are in different places but you don't have to register as any party affiliation. 

3 minutes ago, AnJ Co said:

The implication is that we register to vote and you are required to put your political affiliation on the registration form.  If your choice is incongruent to the affiliation of the person sorting your file -a potential for a bias appears.  Whether a USC actually exercises their right to vote probably would not have a bias as it is an expression of free speech.  Casting votes comes into consideration when someone is trying to become a USC and they have represented themselves already as being a citizen and registering and voting.  Immigration has a very dim view of this type of infraction.

In MN you don't have to register as republican or democrat. Just vote for whomever you please. They do not care here.

Just now, Trinab80 said:

Thanks but I'm a May filer so I have awhile. I just like to lurk in April's forum and share yall happiness. Kinda living through you guys! 

Just now, Trinab80 said:

Thanks but I'm a May filer so I have awhile. I just like to lurk in April's forum and share yall happiness. Kinda living through you guys! 

I'm a may filer too. I lurk all around. I'm obsessed like a dang peeping Tom 😳

4 minutes ago, Trinab80 said:

Sorry to hear that. Sound almost similar to what happened to us.

I'm sorry it happened to you too. I'll be watching for your approval. I hope this tragedy doesn't delay the process.