RO_AH

Actually the vacation is a good idea. If you have receipts of traveling together on vacation and pictures together vacationing that seems like pretty good evidence to me.

OP you really need to calm down and relax. I also read your other post for some back story. Your husband is probably yelling at you because you are panicking, stressed out, and worried. This is not the end of the world. First you need to ask yourself, are you in a real bonafide marriage? I'm sure the answer is yes, so you have nothing to worry about. They are only asking for more evidence of that. People are giving you different examples of things you could possibly do or send for additional evidence. It does not mean you need to do them all or that they are mandatory. It probably would be very difficult for your husband to add you to a loan that he just recently acquired. But that's okay because there are many other things you can do. As you consider what to do, try to relax and talk to your husband calmly. Sometimes employers provide a free life insurance policy to their employees, if that's the case if he has you as the beneficiary that could be provided. Just look at all of the examples people are giving you and gather what you can. most of all RELAX. You will get through this. 

Just curious, but did you go into this marriage knowing in advance that she had a tubal ligation? 

This should probably be moved or the question asked in the Philippines regional forum as people would have better answers to your question there.

20 hours ago, blackbelt said:

My wife applied for tourist visa 11/2016 said she was going to visit my sister but ment to surprise me for Christmas , she was denied at inter I we she was told her answers were to prepared and denied we were married this year and I will file for spousal visa , problem be cause of denial ?  

I am assuming that you are saying that she was denied at interview because the CO felt the answers seemed too prepared. If the fact that she was actually planning to see you and not her sister never came up as an issue, it would seem the only people that know that she lied about the reason would be you and her and not the CO. In other words she was not denied for lying which would be a huge issue. Yes it is very bad to lie during any visa process. But I do not see how it would have any affect in this case unless she volunteers the information. Just make sure everything that she does this time around is honest and truthful.

Congratulations!

 

USCIS won't care about an annulment versus divorce. They just look at things in terms of married versus not married. Getting an annulment would be a personal decision here, but won't be treated differently than a divorce.

 

For the record, I thought the same at one point too. haha

I wasn't sure how it would be handled from a migration standpoint, thanks for clearing it up. But I do feel that from what the OP has said annulment would be a viable option and that might work out better for him financially than a divorce. Just my thought but definitely consult a lawyer to be sure.

 

There's never been love or intimacy in this relationship since the day she arrived in this country.

If that is the case I would think you could get an annulment which would be even better for you since it is legally saying you were never married. I am not as lawyer and do not know the law in your state but I would think that would put an end to her immigration.

Other than that I agree with everyone else. get out now. She will never leave until she has found another and at that time she will try to take you for anything she can. The only way you can protect yourself is remover yourself from the situation.

16 hours ago, jg121783 said:

If it was just a matter of not knowing it wouldn't have been such a big deal or taken so much time. This guy was on some weird power trip where I couldn't even get him to talk to someone above him without having to argue with him to the point of causing a scene. He believed everything he was saying was right even up to the end when the main office in Madison approved the permit. It was a horrible experience and I am sure it won't be the last related to immigration issues. By the way this guy does the driving tests in the town we live in so when it comes time for that we are going to the DMV 45 minutes away.

As the saying goes, there's an idiot born every minute...Unfortunately a lot of them have government jobs.

12 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

Just wanted to let everyone know what happened. She went to her local office and it was correct there. So she got 5 copies. Should be plenty. 

 

Thanks everyone for your help! 

Good to hear. I kinda thought it would be correct there.

I have always used LBC. I have sent about 15 boxes to over the years, after 10 they ship 1 free. You might want to check with them about an agent close to you that does pickup as the 2 closest office to you are still a bit out of the way. They have tracking online (not as good as FedEx or UPS) and I have never had any items lost.

I never cared much for FedEX myself, their rates are very high. I have used DHL in the past and have been very happy with their service. I know LBC also offers air service now, but that would probably only be good if you have an LBC office close to you. I would NEVER use USPS. USPS is not the problem, the problem is when it gets handed over to the PhilPost. Good luck!

My son went to the USPS and applied for a passport. (first time) a month ago. He received it in less than 2 weeks and that is with no expedite fee. Filled out and printed the application at travel.state.gov and carried it to the post office along with passport photos we had taken at Costco.

Not sure if that helps, but I just wanted to let you know the process is very fast.

On 4/24/2017 at 7:16 PM, Redheadguy03 said:

Thanks! I'll let you guys know exactly what happens with it. She's going back to the NSO Wednesday to get her CENOMAR. I told her to ask again and see if maybe she'll get a different response. 

I just thought I would update you on my fiance's status. So yesterday she received the 2 certified copies of her bc with her listed as a female...YAY!!! So when I was looking it over (she sent me a picture) I noticed another mistake. Her mother and father's age listed at time of birth was 45 and 47 lol. That would have made them 54 and 56 when her youngest sister was born. So yes when it comes to bc's in the Philippines accuracy is about 50/50. I have decided that I am not going to worry about getting those errors fixed as I think they will only be concerned with her info on the bc not her parents in regards to our marriage licence and immigration application.

7 minutes ago, Redheadguy03 said:

No NSO office where she is. There is one in her province about 3 hours away, but not in her actual city. 

Yea, nothing is easy there especially in the remote provinces. But the closest one to where she was born is the place where it needs to be fixed (even though they are the ones who probably already have it correct). It really sucks. But if they have the correct info there she could just get it there and avoid all the hassle. Good luck to you.

For those of you that mentioned Remitly, thank you. It looks very good and I may try them. They seem to have a better rate and no fee which makes it very appealing.

7 minutes ago, Redheadguy03 said:

She already had one that was correct though. That's what makes it so confusing. 

I understand it seems confusing to us sitting here in America, and I agree that it is rather odd. But in the Philippines I've come to accept these type of things as the norm. For example, my fiance had a court order signed by a judge stating that in fact she is a female. She was able to get a birth certificate and her passport as a female. In August we are going to get married there but if she were to go to the PSA today and request a birth certificate it would came back saying she is a male. Right now we have someone that is getting us 2 copies of certified birth certificates from the PSA that have her listed as female for wedding and immigration purposes. I wanted to have extra because I know that if we ever needed to get a copy at a later date she will be listed as male.

In your case the birth is registered locally then sent to Manila. The local probably had it correct but maybe there were mistakes when it was entered in Manila. The local office will need to request that Manila correct their records. But can't she just request copies from her local office? In that case they should be correct, but again this is the Philippines so hard to say.

In my fiances case in order to get a permanent fix (if there is such a thing there) she would have to travel back to the province where she was born (her family moved away when she was very young) and have them correct it, then they would have to send it to Manila for correction. That would take months if ever to complete. 

I know a lot of people in the Philippines who have issues on their birth certificates. It is much more common than you think. My fiance was listed as a male (obviously not) and we had to get that taken care of.

WU is probably the worst. I have had bad experiences with Xoom so I refuse to use them. I send every 2 weeks using LBC. I go in person because they have several offices here. My very good friend who moved here from Philippines uses World Remit. You can download the app on a cell phone and send away. The exchange rate is a little lower than LBC but their transaction is lower. I find that is usually the difference between sending online vs in person. When calculating for myself it is less expensive to use World Remit, however my fiance is used to LBC now and doesn't want to change. The one nice thing with World Remit is that before you send it tells you the exact amount in USD that you will be charged and the exact amount of PHP that hey will receive.

We plan to retire in The Philippines. I love it there and I would rather live like a king there than struggle with the cost of living in US.

On 4/15/2017 at 7:19 PM, Cruise77 said:

Wow Delta and United are $400-$600 more expensive than Korean Air and Eva form SEA to MNL.  In any case both airlines are superior in every way compared to United. 

I guess I am lucky I live in Hawaii. I just bought a ticket on United round trip for $550. If I left 2 days later it would have been $450. The next closest was Philippines Air @ around $700

11 minutes ago, Sagot said:

I use to fly Hawaiian also.. was sorry to see them stop the service.

Me too, I had 40,000 miles built up and lost them because they expired. I should have taken a free flight to the mainland (I'm in Hawaii) but I wasn't paying attention.

9 hours ago, Sagot said:

So who is flying UNITED to the Philippines, then heading to Bohol soon?  Anyone?

I will be flying United to Philippines in August, but Bohol is not on my destination list  

At $550 r/t it makes it difficult to choose another airline. I used to always fly Hawaiian Air but the stopped servicing Philippines. Last time I went Philippine Air but I didn't really care too much for them and their price was almost $300 more at the time I bought my tickets.

Yea, I didn't know what to say on the original post. I only ever change USD to PHP. Anything I have left over before going home I leave with my fiance to put in her bank. For me when I travel there I send all my money via LBC because I don't like to travel with large sums of cash. Then when I am safe in my fiance's neighborhood, we go to LBC and pick it up. They look a little perplexed when they see that I am the sender and the receiver  

When it comes to a long distance relationship always put your mind as a filter in front of your heart. Your heart will tell you to ignore the red flags that your mind sees clearly. Never ever trust someone that you cannot have a video chat with. There are internet cafes and such, there is no reason you should not be able to Skype someone in this day and age. If the have the means to talk to you via email and such, they can find a way to Skype.

Now for reference, I have a friend that went through almost thee exact same thing as you. He was stupid enough to send the money before mentioning it to anyone. Well the time came for her flight and guess what? She wasn't on it. She messaged him that she had been stopped by the KGB or some stupid ####### like that. Then she needed more money to fix her problem and send more money to the travel agency for a new flight. Luckily he finally talked to friends who told him he was being scammed. He knew already but was trying to convince himself that the flags were not real.