NerdyGirl

Call me old fashioned but don't most people want to be married for life when they get married?! I know I did on my wedding day and still do!

Is he aware of the consequences of his staying here for years out of status and at risk of deportation, not being able to work or drive? I know the love is new but you need to look at the future. If he decides to go home later because he can't handle sitting around the house all day being bored, he will incur a ban depending on how long he was here out of status. That means no VWP (if he stays past the 90 days), no tourist visa, and added time and expense when you file for the immigrant visa.

In my opinion this is not an option. I'd sooner take a year off of school, work two jobs to have 35k annually (if possible) and sponsor aos before I'd let my spouse be out if status for 4-5 years. At that point he'd be subject to deportation and would need a hardship waiver to return which is often difficult to get if he's from a country where it's easy to find work and be stable. Search out things like catholic charities. They may be able to help you find a co sponsor.

We sent our petition July 8th, approved October 20th, so you should get your NOA2 sometimes in December, no worries. Be thankful your case was sent to CSC

bag tags? keep any bag tags? that'll have your name, flight numbers, origin and destination.
just a thought.

So they're only asking you for passport photos and you're going to send them (another) copy of your passport plus more evidence of meeting in the past two years?
Either I'm not understanding what you're saying, or you're going to get a second RFE in the near future.

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

Big congrats!! Your story has touched so many people on here and everybody wanted to know what happened. Now we do Good luck with the rest of your visa journey

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

I feel so sorry for him reading this....
unless he is seriously ill (old doesn't mean dying!) and even then, ... it's horrible to ask this question.
Instead of focusing on his belongings, focus on making him have a great time if he is terminaly ill but if not, excuse me but I am totally judging.
Too many people in real relationships with big age differences get judged because of golddiggers like that. Smdh
This is just horrible! Excuse me being harsh, but if you used him in any way I hope he won't leave you anything...

I would go as far as saying: shame on you for even having such thoughts. Actually I think someone like you should be REPORTED to USCIS! And yes, I believe there are MANY "gold diggers" fooling this country their spouses and abusing the whole system. It makes me sick.

OMG, this is such an example of a gold digger..... I hope you really understand how negative you look just asking questions like this... I hope your fiancee hears about your questions...

Because of so many gold diigers like this the whole process is heavily backlogged. All they want is a green card. It's so frustrating that these people are even given a chance.
Sorry I do not sound rude normally but in this case I can't help myself. Disgusting!!!!

First of all, you are joking, right?
Second, if you ARE serious, you might want to consider telling us you're still joking.
Your topic annoys me. See, because of people like you, who want to get marry for such selfish, immoral reasons, we, who genuinely love our partners, have to go through this long, sometimes frustrating process!
So, thanks a lot, "Erika", and good luck, not to you, but to your fiancé!

Always to sides to any story. Marriage is hard work and it involves give n take. If you are ready to jump ship at the slightest storm then it was never meant for you.

Asthania,
First of all, I am very sorry you found yourself in this situation. Since, in a way, we are all anonymous here, maybe we can help each other in other ways, other than just give information about visa. I have found two wonderful girls on this site, and we've become friends.
You are married for only a few months. IF he is not violent, if he has not severely betrayed you, why don't you give it another chance?
It is easy to get a divorce, it is not easy to maintain any kind of human relationship, let alone a marriage. Love, like life, has it's dynamics. It is not meant to stagnate. Just because sometimes we can't seem to stand our partner, and our love-tank seems to be empty, it doesn't mean it will stay that way. It will most certainly not, if we work on it. Maybe you can talk to him, go to therapy? Remember the vows? Remember why you went through this long, frustrating process to be together. Remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Now, if the situation is serious, and you think there is no chance you can solve it, go for a divorce.
Sorry if I went too far, I am very sensitive, stories like yours make me sad.
Whatever you decide, I wish you best of luck.

Some people come here and are abused, other arrive and start abusing. Lucky for most of us we are not at these extremes. If the OP wants a divorce and NOT to be on the hook for this man for life possibly she can terminate the I864 and the AOS petition will be impossible. She should also be careful that he doesn't stage a fake VAWA claim as it ruins lives. Many people jump into things they aren't ready for. Neither the US person nor the foreigner should move based on a relationship they are not 100% certain of and they shouldn't go into this without extensive face to face time ( monitor to monitor is a poor imitation )

i think my question would be if this person is not someone that you want to spend your life with the LOGICAL and REASONABLE thing to do is get a divorce. why are you even thinking about immigration? this is just sad.... to make it seem that immigration is the fix to your marriage problems.
i dont think i can ever think to harm my spouse ( whom i petitioned to come to the USA).
i'm sorry you think this way. your husband is a human not some packaged goods you bought from an online store and want to return.

I would say you have a couple of red flags.
1. Age difference. Now, that can easily be solved with with a rock-solid bonafide proof!
There comes the second. You have literally met her last months, for FIVE days! Snapshots of your chats mean very little, as it is not relevant enough. Marriage is a serious thing, and going for the petition after 5 days spent together is a little bit suspicious.
You should meet her at least once more, for MORE than 5 days!
My fiancé and I were also together for 5 days, the first time, but then we got together again for 21 days, and after that a whole month, before we filed a petition. And after we filed, we met for 17 days, and in October he is coming to my country for 11 days. Now, I understand not a lot of people have the possibility of seeing each other that often, but you need to see her, for lets say, 2 weeks again, before you file for the petition. There has to be some sort of consistency, especially when you already have a red flag (a huge age difference).
When you meet her again, make sure you go to as many places as you can, and save all the evidence; tickets, receipts... We even sent business cards from the restaurants we went to, and tram tickets from Amsterdam (hired a lawyer, and she was very much into details). So save everything! There is the proof right there, doing activities together.
Get to know each other as much as you can. You should do this, not just for the petition, but for yourself. Meet each other's families, and take pictures. She will probably be asked if her family approves of your relationship.
How is her english?
I am sure your relationship is genuine, and that you are in love, but having a red flag demands you prepare the best you can for the process, especially the interview.
Best of luck! : )