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On the contrary, if she's doing it to get help the court would likely see it positively. That said, tell him personal reasons for not being able to take them and work out make up time

For a support group, try this. Also on FB.
http://shrink4men.com/

She does not need to live on her own. But by my calculations she barely makes enough to be a sponsor. If you co-sponsor, the gov could sue you to pay back any means-tested benefits the immigrant receives, like welfare. It does not mean you have to give the immigrant any money or anything.

There is nothing worse than when a woman is in charge? What a messed up discriminating kind of comment is that?
For the love of God wake up and join the 21st century.

Think of this as one heck of a hard lesson learned, people can be so evil and hurt anyone and never show remorse for it. Karma will come looking for them one day. As for now, take care of yourself, and move on. I know it hurts, the pain will subside, and you will grow stronger from this mess.
Don't let one bad egg change your heart to others. You will get through this, and will say to yourself, "what the heck was I thinking?" a slight giggle and you will move on stronger and head held high.

It sounds like you may have had the evidence of fraud they needed to actually do something. This is rather rare, as infidelity does not constitute fraud. Many have tried to do what you may have done with evidence of infidelity, it gets them no where. I don't believe a judge can actually nullify the I-864, but if they deport him, you'll be off the hook. If they yank his green card and don't deport him and he stays illegally, you are still on the hook for the I-864. I know that sounds wrong, but it is how it works.
You've done all you can now, and it sounds like you did a good job. Congrats. Time to forget about this bad experience and move on with your life.

Nothing like a man who thinks he could be in charge. Ever hear of 50/50? And that's nice tell him to commit fraud by hanging in his marriage until he can get his green card. Makes me wonder how and why you got here.
Interesting ?

I understand and I thank you all for your input. As this is my first experience with something of this nature, I wasn't sure what to expect. It sounds like all I have done is all that will be done. I'm just going to get an order of protection and hope he stays away. I must concede that it is disheartening to know that he will or may get away with what he had done. But, I will rest assured in knowing that while he may never see an immigration judge, the One Just Judge sees him and will respond and reward him accordingly.
I understand and I thank you all for your input. As this is my first experience with something of this nature, I wasn't sure what to expect. It sounds like all I have done is all that will be done. I'm just going to get an order of protection and hope he stays away. I must concede that it is disheartening to know that he will or may get away with what he had done. But, I will rest assured in knowing that while he may never see an immigration judge, the One Just Judge sees him and will respond and reward him accordingly.

That is a shame. Not only did that man ruin the wife's life he ruined the little girls too. I agree with you 100% I do believe many people look for a way here and marriage seems to be the easiest way. I also think that sometimes in other countries life is so bad men/women may be willing to do anything to get out of their country. I think there are people that pray on that. I also think some people (the husband you spoke about) are just evil. It is hard enough when people move here from other countries. Culture shock is real....no need for people to make it more difficult. I do have to say one thing though, it seems many marriages today in all are not genuine which is sad. I agree the Devil loves to sink his teeth into any situation he can. I hope this woman and child you know can get out of there and get help and stay here.

Some one in his position should be documenting and protecting himself when his spouse starts throwing around the divorce word. And yes he should be calling the police when she starts hitting or scratching him. Had he been a woman, people would be all over telling him to call the police and get a restraining order. So far, its been her who has called the police. Its been her locking him out of joint accounts and the internet. So far I've seen you blaming him for everything when he's just reacting to what she's been doing, as if he should just ignore and accept her aggressive and abusive actions. His reactions have been fairly normal reactions from what I can see. Their marriage sounds like its over by her choice, he should do what he needs to do to protect himself. I think you've got some past bad experiences that are making you superimpose your own bad experiences on top of this situation and are ignoring what is being said.

No, in many states it's the law unless you have a written agreement otherwise

That is your opinion, different strokes for different folks.

You can file K1 WITHIN the 2 years of meeting. You cold have met once or multiple times as long as you file the K1 within the 2year from when you last met. In other words, you can file now or file any time from now until February 2018.
P.S. Did you mean February 2016 you last visited her and May 2017 you plan on visiting again? Just keep in mind 2 years from when you last met. If it's within thone years, then you can file K1.

you do not cancel a credit card. It will hurt your credit score. The length of your oldest credit card is a major factor in when other companies determine if they want to give you a card.
No annual fee for quicksilver anymore =)

The one report is dated for 3 months and i was worried as it was going to expire beforela interview but no problems ( la mochkila) they did not ask for another at interview
the other report for driving record does not expire
You need them to be trans;ated into and attached to originals /and NO / not copies for NVC / not for Morocco / you will get an RFE saying these are not original as the paper size for Morocco is different
when sending the documents to them put your CSB case number and both DOB in upper right hand corner of each and every page
make sure you keep copies for yourself
incha allah
good luck to you

Okay, if it is TJ Maxx, then the issuer is Synchrony Bank and your wife can try calling 1-800-480-0186 to attempt to resolve the issue/get more info on what the actual issue is.
P.S. Capital One is good to try for people with thin/no credit files. I'd go for the Platinum (no rewards, but no annual fee) or Quicksilver One (1.5% back, but with a $39 annual fee) or, if that fails, with their secured card. Also, if you can't get them to open the TJ Maxx card because of the ID issue, you could try opening a Walmart Store card for her (same issuer as the TJ Maxx card actually) in person (i.e., in a store) where they can verify her identity (if she has a drivers license).

Everyone is "bipolar" these days, the fashionable diagnosis was clinical depression in the 90s. It does seem one condition somehow catches spotlights and then it's a tidal wave effect.
Glad you have gotten your bpd managed

There may or may not be more to it.
I witnessed a young lady chase her husband ( also an immigrant) out of their home with two sharp screwdrivers and a kitchen knife because he insisted to have dental work done for a chipped front tooth. She thought he was doing it to attract other women to sleep with (it was an episode of severe mania and paranoia plus off meds in reality). She did all of this in front of two small children. If he hadn't have hauled out, I think she would have hurt him or at least tried.
That is all I will say. And no one diagnosed the person, we aren't doctors. Some of us are just giving our two pennies because we have been around it or lived it.

Marital assets will be split but not stuff they had pre marriage.

Look I really think you got your answers. This is going around and around in circles. She will have to prove why she is scared of you. If she has lived in that town for a long time and has had mental health issues all her life than I am sure the police know about her problems...especially if she frequently has outbursts. Getting a restraining order (by either of you) will not be easy...you will have to explain to a judge why you need one and how your life is in danger. You didn't report the abuse so there is no record of it...it will be your word against hers....Really you have to seek legal help. Let your attorney help you and request all the documents that will be needed to go through with the divorce. Move on. You can keep going over and over what should I do but truth is we can all tell you what to do and it may not be right and attorney will tell you what you MUST do...I can guess the first thing they are going to tell you is not to communicate with her. You will be granted your divorce and you can get on with your life. You have no kids and well I don't believe you could have accumulated much if you have only been married for 2 years so splitting things up won't be hard. It won't take long. Good luck and I hope everything works out.

I just wouldn't pay the bill =P no password well then no payment.

I hear that I see a huge problem with his hesitating but maybe it's the cultural differences...either way he needs to move he can't stay there and call 911 each time someone changes the wifi password....(joking)

Thank you so much for the advice. I appreciate your response. The subject is something I prefer not to dwell on with my fiancé, but he does know about it. I was just wondering if my prior "file" will travel from one embassy to another.
Thanks again and good luck to you in your journey as well.

Your fiance may be asked about it. Just make sure he knows the whole story but for you I don't believe it will be a problem.

Don't think he was asking for sympathy...I think he was looking for advice. I would be worried too if I didn't know the rules and regulations in a country and someone started telling me I was going to pay alimony. I am going to go out on a limb here and say he probably does not have a job that he could even afford to put a roof over his own head let alone pay for another to survive. When do you want him to start documenting things? Do you document things in your relationship now fights, problems, and what not JUST IN CASE? No normally people start documenting when things go wrong. Some people would rather not sit in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship and would rather divorce. Not sure why he even still talks to her but...