Mrs. Childs

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You’re in a difficult position but there is plenty in your post that shouts “warning” to any reader.
You wrote: “I thought she was intelligent enough…” That equates to: “she is not intelligent.” Starting your post out with a slur is perhaps not a wise thing to do. I fear you are not “getting over it,” but may be quite angry and perhaps not quite aware of that fact.
Your dad died and you were “a little upset?” Usually when people’s parents die they do get upset, but usually don’t snap at people. Yet anger is one of the always necessary steps to recover from a tragedy. I suspect that the way your family dealt with emotions was worlds apart from the way that her family dealt with emotions. What you may have considered “a little upset” may have come across to her as an enraged and violent and thus it is possible that you became an extremely frightening person.
Clearly there is no other guy involved as she went to your mom’s house for two weeks but what you say about the two weeks doesn’t make a lot of sense—didn’t your mom try to help out—try to mediate?
You wrote that she went to the Bayahihan Community Center and say: “she lied, no friend.” Uh, hmm… if she perceived you as enraged and thus dangerous and did have, for instance, a supportive female friend, and you at least thought that at one time she was intelligent—then don’t you think that she was intelligent to meet the friend in a safe neutral place such as a Community Center? Please explain how this scenario turns into: “she lied, no friend?”
The Bayahihan Community Center is a Community Center I don’t believe it has any residential facilities. It does have a Filipino worker’s rights support group that it supports, but it has no domestic support group. It does not appear to be a place where abused women go at all. You say that she won’t answer her phone for two months. Did you ever think to consider that she might no longer even have that phone or if you called repetitively that she blocked you. If so you may have called 20 times but she has not received one call or text.
You say that the police say it’s a place where abused women go but its main function is a community center. You think that she may have accused you of domestic violence but you have talked to the police. Well, if she even hinted at domestic violence (hitting, locking her in or out, etc.) you would have already been arrested and arraigned. You don’t even have a restraining order. Thus your facts seem very cloudy to say the least.
Yes, immigrant victims of domestic violence will find great support but I’m not at all sure that’s what’s going on. And “getting busted for Visa fraud” is a pretty harsh accusation. Is she defrauding you or running in fear?
A very important line: “This girl just was not a good listener, and refused to talk at length without getting angry herself.”
From a distance it appears that it may be that neither party can deal with each other civilly and now there is a “script” which goes no place. Such scripts are common in domestic relationships and often impossible to break.
She may be immature and selfish, or you may be immature and selfish—we can’t tell, and only you can decide; but if you really do love her and will “do anything” you might want to consider that it might be wise to try offering to “do anything” which includes an apology for being angry and a promise to never raise your voice in anger again. If not, then your relationship sounds to me to be long gone.
If that is the case what someone wrote earlier is sound advice. End the relationship earlier rather than later—in many states (state law rules) increasing length of marriage grants greater fiscal rights.
From a distance it’s hard to tell if you’re in the right, or she’s in the right, or it’s someplace in the middle—only you can tell.
As far as what can happen if she is indeed abusing you I suggest that you find a copy from your library or from half.com of “A Long Way to Go for A Date [Paperback] by
Henry Makow (Author). It’s a pretty convincing story of what happened to a guy who brought a fairly selfish and immature Filipino to America and it’s not pretty.

Lol....no way Jose. I'm scared.
I can sense Charles on this thread.

Gowon - come on !! Jump in, the water's fine!

to the OP -
Do you have a rich friend, single?
If so, here's an experiment...
Introduce him to her, then be absent for about 6 weeks.
Check in with yer friend after that time. If the two of them are madly in love, then your marriage was never meant to be.

You guys/girls are a great bit of information. It's helpful to have outsiders without the emotional ties to help remove the veil from my eyes.
Thank you : )

I would disagree. I don't see why anyone would want to rush into a lifetime commitment with someone who is unable to withstand the slightest shake in the ground.

Not only I do not agree with you on this one, as I believe the K-1 process should be longer, more demanding and require far more scrutiny. You need not look much farther than this forum to find out countless reports of those who were scammed by foreign fiances/fiancees.
The question I ask you in return is, how can you not envisage spending a few months away from the very person with whom you will swear to spend the rest of your life?

It really seems to me it was an arranged marriage. I do know in Indian culture this is very common but just because its part of your culture does not mean its the best for you! I would say you both are better away from each other, because love will not keep you strong and together. I do not see how you feel cheated if everything started wrong since the beginning!! Yo do not go looking for a spouse like they were a cd player or a microwave... Thats just wrong to me. Besides it seems to me you two did not spend time together trying to know each other enough. And still trying to understand how a man can think a woman has to be sexually aroused everytime he wants just because she is married to him. You should go to your nearest courthouse and find out about the divorce, or hire a lawyer. Good luck!!

It really seems to me it was an arranged marriage. I do know in Indian culture this is very common but just because its part of your culture does not mean its the best for you! I would say you both are better away from each other, because love will not keep you strong and together. I do not see how you feel cheated if everything started wrong since the beginning!! Yo do not go looking for a spouse like they were a cd player or a microwave... Thats just wrong to me. Besides it seems to me you two did not spend time together trying to know each other enough. And still trying to understand how a man can think a woman has to be sexually aroused everytime he wants just because she is married to him. You should go to your nearest courthouse and find out about the divorce, or hire a lawyer. Good luck!!

congratulations,

(WHAT'S next is that your case gets forward to tha NVC.)
Congratulation on your approval.

For now, MORE READING!
Loto's Wiki Page - http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/How_to_bring_your_foreign_spouse_to_live_in_the_US
Good Luck !

About time.. Congrats guys on your NOA2!

Congrats to you

Great news! Congrats

that's the electronic approval notice, you betcha.
The NOA-2 is a postal letter on formletter I-797C.
Regardless, you be approved !
Congratulations ! Whatcha cooking, to celebrate?

Yes, that is the NOA2 Approval. Congratulations!

It sure is! Congratulations!

Congrats good news.

I wish you both the best of luck.. and a bright future as well... thank you for the response.

Congratulations.

Congrats on your good news.

My husband does all sorts of odd things:
1) He puts hot sauce on everything he eats
2) He eats the food on his plate from left to right, complimentary flavors or not
3) He won't wake up if an earthquake goes through the bedroom, however the doorbell rings once and he's up and alert
4) He's good at driving but terrible at parking
5) His favorite movies are of the bad, terrible, extremely awful b-movie kind
The odd thing? He's the USC

Im currently facing the same issues... but with Spanish!!
As a teacher I thought this was gonna be easy for us but turned out that... not all the time... I think the most difficult part comes when dissapointment gets in the way. Sometimes when students face failure of certain kind they step back. This is when you have to be pushy. It has worked slowly for me! Make him practice, as much as possible and be careful when you correct his mistakes. Try to expose him to real life situations, like ordering food from a restaurant or other meaningful situations at work. (Role play can be a great tool you can use) Some mistakes are acceptable if the message was carried on successfully. Besides, later you will have the chance to correct those mistakes one by one. And praise him, everytime you can! Give him rewards for every little obstacle he overcomes! (pronunciation or grammar mistakes) Rewards can go from words or a kiss to an actual little thing you can buy. Build his confidence and everything will go fine. Just do not expect him to speak perfectly in a couple of months, remember it took you years to make your english perfect and, good luck!!