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I can't believe how many a-holes are on here. I feel like their lives must really suck if they need to feel the superiority they must get from posting such demeaning comments...
Anyways, sorry about your situation, hope all turns out well for you and your love

I can't believe how many a-holes are on here. I feel like their lives must really suck if they need to feel the superiority they must get from posting such demeaning comments...
Anyways, sorry about your situation, hope all turns out well for you and your love

I can't believe how many a-holes are on here. I feel like their lives must really suck if they need to feel the superiority they must get from posting such demeaning comments...
Anyways, sorry about your situation, hope all turns out well for you and your love

I can't believe how many a-holes are on here. I feel like their lives must really suck if they need to feel the superiority they must get from posting such demeaning comments...
Anyways, sorry about your situation, hope all turns out well for you and your love

I can't believe how many a-holes are on here. I feel like their lives must really suck if they need to feel the superiority they must get from posting such demeaning comments...
Anyways, sorry about your situation, hope all turns out well for you and your love

I wish folks would keep their preaching to themselves or in their closets.
I'm headed to see Susan next month so I'm focusing on that instead of the K1 which may or may not happen this year the way Vermont is going.

I stopped reading from here so I can throw my two cents in, but if this has already been addressed... then my laziness apologizes. So a lot of businesses actually hire up from within. So a lot of companies might have positions open, but they try to fill them with people they have. So if he fits a skillset even though he isn't with the company... maybe you can have some luck? Also, starting anywhere to get experience is a huge bonus. I wouldn't do the restaurant route with his background. Also, probably not the top choice... but craigslist is always a source of potential income to the right person. Good luck in your journey together

Sorry to hear what happened to you. People suck. Glad you can keep your head up. And crying into ovaltine sometimes helps

I am sorry to read what you've written. Fulfilling the requirements , to be ABLE to file the I-129F, is paramount, prior to filing.
It seems you skipped that step. Did this AWESOME GOD mention that it'd be OK with USCIS? If so, please write more about this.

This entire situation is a disaster in the making or a train wreck that has already happened. When religion is involved in aspects beyond God help those who help themselves then your are going to fail which is what partially happened here and will worsen to another scammed victim if the OP continues to be blind to the realities of immigration laws and fraud.

I like how you respond to the comments that tell you things you want to hear... but how about this one. The best so far.
Please please please, keep us updated on this. We want more info to help understand your situation. Answer this post's questions.
"First off, did you even read the instuctions to the I-129F petition? It clearly states that one of the requirements is that you must have met (physically) at least once within the past 2 years. You should never have filed in the first place. They didn't even look at any evidence you sent them once they saw that you had never met. I can't imagine what kind of proof you sent in for somebody you've never met. Most of us who met our fiancees usually has sme worries about having enough proof, but never meeting?
Nigeria is one of the top fraud countries. I assume you are now aware of this fact and you would still attempt to bring over a person who you have never met? I know you believe all that "God knows best" stuff, but you are setting yourself up big time. You seem to be a perfect mark; somebody who seems to be somewhat naive and blindly accepts whatever happens. If this guy plays you, you will probably be here telling us how it was God's plan.
How did you meet? Who made the first contact?
What kind of work does he do? Have you seen any proof?How did you meet? Who made the first contact?
What kind of work does he do? Have you seen any proof? (I will not give my opinion on what I think he does for a living; yes, it's a generalization, but lets be real)
What is the age difference between you two? Are you fairly close in age or is he much younger? If the latter, that should be a red flag for you.
I already know that nothing anybody here says will change your mind (most people have to learn the hard way), especially since you think God will protect you, but I hope you are not back here in a year teling us how you were used."

That's true. But you don't have to be so COLD.

I like how you respond to the comments that tell you things you want to hear... but how about this one. The best so far.
Please please please, keep us updated on this. We want more info to help understand your situation. Answer this post's questions.
"First off, did you even read the instuctions to the I-129F petition? It clearly states that one of the requirements is that you must have met (physically) at least once within the past 2 years. You should never have filed in the first place. They didn't even look at any evidence you sent them once they saw that you had never met. I can't imagine what kind of proof you sent in for somebody you've never met. Most of us who met our fiancees usually has sme worries about having enough proof, but never meeting?
Nigeria is one of the top fraud countries. I assume you are now aware of this fact and you would still attempt to bring over a person who you have never met? I know you believe all that "God knows best" stuff, but you are setting yourself up big time. You seem to be a perfect mark; somebody who seems to be somewhat naive and blindly accepts whatever happens. If this guy plays you, you will probably be here telling us how it was God's plan.
How did you meet? Who made the first contact?
What kind of work does he do? Have you seen any proof?How did you meet? Who made the first contact?
What kind of work does he do? Have you seen any proof? (I will not give my opinion on what I think he does for a living; yes, it's a generalization, but lets be real)
What is the age difference between you two? Are you fairly close in age or is he much younger? If the latter, that should be a red flag for you.
I already know that nothing anybody here says will change your mind (most people have to learn the hard way), especially since you think God will protect you, but I hope you are not back here in a year teling us how you were used."

First off, did you even read the instuctions to the I-129F petition? It clearly states that one of the requirements is that you must have met (physically) at least once within the past 2 years. You should never have filed in the first place. They didn't even look at any evidence you sent them once they saw that you had never met. I can't imagine what kind of proof you sent in for somebody you've never met. Most of us who met our fiancees usually has sme worries about having enough proof, but never meeting?
Nigeria is one of the top fraud countries. I assume you are now aware of this fact and you would still attempt to bring over a person who you have never met? I know you believe all that "God knows best" stuff, but you are setting yourself up big time. You seem to be a perfect mark; somebody who seems to be somewhat naive and blindly accepts whatever happens. If this guy plays you, you will probably be here telling us how it was God's plan.
How did you meet? Who made the first contact?
What kind of work does he do? Have you seen any proof? (I will not give my opinion on what I think he does for a living; yes, it's a generalization, but lets be real)
What is the age difference between you two? Are you fairly close in age or is he much younger? If the latter, that should be a red flag for you.
I already know that nothing anybody here says will change your mind (most people have to learn the hard way), especially since you think God will protect you, but I hope you are not back here in a year teling us how you were used.

My prayers are with you buddy. I don't need to give advice because all of the advice already given is good. I'm sorry that the world is the way it is and the people in it aren't more respectful and considerate. May all go smoothly for you and best of luck

I'm not in this situation as my husband has never had an interest in living in the US, heck we'd stay in Moscow if we could.
What I've noticed here is a few patterns: a. old hot guy brings a tight-bodied girl he could've fathered or grandfathered, then gets pissed off that she doesn't want him or is a golddigger b. arranged marriage failures (I'm not against them, just saying what I've seen) c. American person gets duped by someone from the developing world who is from a culture that is rife with poverty and lack of opportunities or has a very anti-women/religious/etc culture where love comes secondary to necessity. Of course it can be a combination of a few of these, or something different.
What does irk me is people who quickly call "scam" on a marriage/engagement that simply dissolved. A big problem with the US immigration system is that unless you live abroad with your partner or he/she is from a VWP country, you have very, very little time physically together, so then when you actually live together things might be very different than what you thought they'd be, so you fall out of love. I don't think that's a "scam", I think that's simply an unfortunate consequence of a very unfair process that puts a strain on even the best and strongest relationships.

Rules are made to be broken! .... Unless of course you paid over a thousand dollars, waited about a year, and have been extremely excited about marrying the one you have been petitioning with... Then I just don't understand...

No no no. You are a little confused. Per USCIS memo, unlawful presence doesn't begin UNTIL USCIS or an immigration judge decides you are out of status. No USCIS officer can retroactively decide that you were out of status as of a particular date and start counting unlawful presence. This is explicitly stated in the foreign affairs manual and the most recent USCIS memo on unlawful presence.
Canadian citizens who are not issued I-94s are in "non-controlled status", which means they don't accumulate unlawful presence and are treated EXACTLY like D/S cases. D/S cases also do not accrue unlawful status UNTIL USCIS or a judge determines they are out of status--it can't be retroactive.
Here's the quote from the memo:
"If USCIS finds a nonimmigrant status violation while adjudicating a request for an immigration benefit, unlawful presence will begin to occur on the day after the request is denied. . . It must be emphasized that the accrual of unlawful presence neither begins on the date the status violation occurs, nor on the day on which removal proceedings are initiated."
This is on page 25 of this memo, under the section applying to D/S cases. The very next section says that "non-controlled nonimmigrant" Canadian citizens are treated exactly the same: http://www.uscis.gov/USCIS/Laws/Memoranda/Static_Files_Memoranda/2009/revision_redesign_AFM.PDF
Canadian citizens are "non-controlled" and can stay in the U.S. as long as they maintain B1/B2 status, meaning they are temporary visitors and not immigrants.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. And in this case, pictures really do speak worlds of your realationship. It sounds like you are doing the right things. Just take tons of pictures. Friends and family included with you and your spouse. Having a lot of business things together could make it exactly that, a business partnership. Pictures that show love will help!
May the power of love be with you~

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. And in this case, pictures really do speak worlds of your realationship. It sounds like you are doing the right things. Just take tons of pictures. Friends and family included with you and your spouse. Having a lot of business things together could make it exactly that, a business partnership. Pictures that show love will help!
May the power of love be with you~

No matter what anyone else here says, only you know the whole situation and everyones' feelings. So you have to ask yourself, is your new wife and possible new family worth giving up the family you have now? If the answer is no. Then just let her know that your family is yourself, your kids, and her if she wants. Otherwise it'll just be you and your kids.
Tough spot you are in, good luck getting out.
May the power of love be with you.

No matter what anyone else here says, only you know the whole situation and everyones' feelings. So you have to ask yourself, is your new wife and possible new family worth giving up the family you have now? If the answer is no. Then just let her know that your family is yourself, your kids, and her if she wants. Otherwise it'll just be you and your kids.
Tough spot you are in, good luck getting out.
May the power of love be with you.

It breaks my heart to hear this. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I'm glad that you can look positively upon such a negative circumstance.
Happy Birthday! Another year of life added to the memory books. This is just another page of a long journey. Every page is a reason we are the way we are. One day another person is going to love everything about you, even the pages you wish you could forget. Keep a light heart and a happy face!