Robb&Ann

I have been in a similar situation in the past and learned a lot about this topic. I recently had to clear up a arrears I didn’t even legitimately owe.
First my story.
When my ex and I were getting a divorce we had agreed to a alimony and child support amount above the state calculation. I was attempting to be generous. Even without an order for support or a decree I started to pay that amount directly to her in cash. I had signed receipts from her for each payment.
When the decree was issued and order of support established the state initially had assed be as being 6 months in arrears. I was easily able to prove the error and my ex even asserted that fact. Because my ex helped me clear up the support issue I felt I could trust her.
I paid off the alimony about a year before it was needed. The state once again showed it in arrears and I proved it was an error and my ex helped prove it.
My ex’s BF has probably about 6 months total combined employment over the past 4 years. My ex would frequently ask for help and I would pay her cash and she at the time would agree to apply it to the support. I was mostly self-employed so salary deductions were not typical for me. About 1 out of 3 times I would just pay her directly.
This past summer my ex wanted an increase in child support and the state reviewed the support and denied increasing the amount.
After the review I needed to renew my passport and could not because I owed arrears. The state showed I owed $15,000 in arrears and interest. I tried to prove it in error once again but this time my ex stayed silent and refused to tell the state the truth.
When it was all said and done I ended up having to pay the amount and learned NEVER to trust her with payments or ever give her extra again.
Here is what I learned in the process. There is some variation from state to state but overall here are the basics.
1. If you give money without going through the court or state it can be considered a gift. Even if the amounts are exactly the same and you have signed receipts to the contrary. If your ex does not also provide proof the money was toward support payments you can be looking at an expensive and time consuming court battle. (I considered fighting in court but to retain a lawyer would have been around $5000 and could take a year to fight. Even if I would have fought I would have really gained nothing and just as easily been still ordered to pay the arrears.)
2. Once the amount is over $2500 the state may suspend your passport.
3. When paying off the arrears the state is not obligated to remove the limitation on your passport until the full amount is paid. Not $2500, but $0.
4. In some cases you can negotiate a lump sum agreement with the custodial parent and they can waive the arrears if done with the approval of the state. If the custodial parent received assistance from the state, the state can choose to not allow that amount to be waived or deduct the amount to be reimbursed to the state.
5. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe more than $2500 in arrears it can be outright denied.
6. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe arrears, the total amount of arrears can be deducted from your estimated income used to prove you can support the beneficiary. For example, if your income is $40,000 and you have $2,000 in arrears, the adjusted amount can be $38,000.
7. Your children are considered part of the family household size even if you do not use them as a tax exemption or dependent on your taxes. For example if you have 4 children your household size would be 6. Your 4 children, your spouse/fiancé(e), and yourself.
8. Your income typically must exceed the HHS poverty levels at 125%. Sometimes the 100% level is used for K-1, but often the 125% standard is used because AOS is assumed. For example, consider the above $40,000 income adjusted to $38,000 because of arrears. Also consider if you have 4 children, making a total of 6 people in the household. If you live in the continental U.S., the 2012 income requirement at 125% for a family size of 6 is $38,712. In this example you would not meet the requirements.
9. A co-sponsor may be used in applying for a visa however embassies in some countries opt to ignore co-sponsorship as a rule.
10. A co-sponsor is usually only accepted when the petitioner’s income is close to the required amount.
The process is not cheap. Travel costs, application fees, the cost to obtain documentation, medical exam fees, visa fees, AOS fees, etc.
The basic moral to the story is you need to get your house in order before applying for a visa.

2 exact printed copies and 2 digital copies.
I am waiting for some TopFiles top punch binders to be delivered from Bindertek before I ship her copy to her. The Bindertek binders are federal/legal quality binders. I ordered 4, 2 black and 2 red. The black will hold the exact copy of the original I-129F, and the red will hold information covering from the I-129F submission until the interview.
We have even assembled all the docs needed for the interview… Including filing 2012 taxes early prior to the Jan 30 processing date.

That’s why I make it clear we went above what’s needed. Just because we did an I-129F that Adrian Monk would be proud of does not mean it will make any difference.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

I see you've been waiting for five whole days...my condolences.

It's clear you don't know anything about the Deferred Action Program. Go learn something since you will be waiting, waiting, waiting (like all the rest of us) you have time on your hands: http://www.dhs.gov/deferred-action-childhood-arrivals .
FYI wait times are long from a combination of factors, not just this new program. It is mostly because USCIS has laid off half their employees and dramatically cut funding in the last 2 years. That you can thank Congress for.

So it's Obama's fault the post office lost your petition? Lolz. He's only one out of a long line of recent presidents who have supported gutting spending on federal agencies, like the post office and USCIS. Are you even sure it got lost? What information has USPS given you?
If it is in fact gone forever then YES you should cancel or put a stop payment on your money order and send a new packet. This is why the guides say to make a complete copy of the petition packet in case something like this happens.
Chill out and try again. Chances are this is not going to be the last time this immigration process frustrates you.

I have been in a similar situation in the past and learned a lot about this topic. I recently had to clear up a arrears I didn’t even legitimately owe.
First my story.
When my ex and I were getting a divorce we had agreed to a alimony and child support amount above the state calculation. I was attempting to be generous. Even without an order for support or a decree I started to pay that amount directly to her in cash. I had signed receipts from her for each payment.
When the decree was issued and order of support established the state initially had assed be as being 6 months in arrears. I was easily able to prove the error and my ex even asserted that fact. Because my ex helped me clear up the support issue I felt I could trust her.
I paid off the alimony about a year before it was needed. The state once again showed it in arrears and I proved it was an error and my ex helped prove it.
My ex’s BF has probably about 6 months total combined employment over the past 4 years. My ex would frequently ask for help and I would pay her cash and she at the time would agree to apply it to the support. I was mostly self-employed so salary deductions were not typical for me. About 1 out of 3 times I would just pay her directly.
This past summer my ex wanted an increase in child support and the state reviewed the support and denied increasing the amount.
After the review I needed to renew my passport and could not because I owed arrears. The state showed I owed $15,000 in arrears and interest. I tried to prove it in error once again but this time my ex stayed silent and refused to tell the state the truth.
When it was all said and done I ended up having to pay the amount and learned NEVER to trust her with payments or ever give her extra again.
Here is what I learned in the process. There is some variation from state to state but overall here are the basics.
1. If you give money without going through the court or state it can be considered a gift. Even if the amounts are exactly the same and you have signed receipts to the contrary. If your ex does not also provide proof the money was toward support payments you can be looking at an expensive and time consuming court battle. (I considered fighting in court but to retain a lawyer would have been around $5000 and could take a year to fight. Even if I would have fought I would have really gained nothing and just as easily been still ordered to pay the arrears.)
2. Once the amount is over $2500 the state may suspend your passport.
3. When paying off the arrears the state is not obligated to remove the limitation on your passport until the full amount is paid. Not $2500, but $0.
4. In some cases you can negotiate a lump sum agreement with the custodial parent and they can waive the arrears if done with the approval of the state. If the custodial parent received assistance from the state, the state can choose to not allow that amount to be waived or deduct the amount to be reimbursed to the state.
5. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe more than $2500 in arrears it can be outright denied.
6. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe arrears, the total amount of arrears can be deducted from your estimated income used to prove you can support the beneficiary. For example, if your income is $40,000 and you have $2,000 in arrears, the adjusted amount can be $38,000.
7. Your children are considered part of the family household size even if you do not use them as a tax exemption or dependent on your taxes. For example if you have 4 children your household size would be 6. Your 4 children, your spouse/fiancé(e), and yourself.
8. Your income typically must exceed the HHS poverty levels at 125%. Sometimes the 100% level is used for K-1, but often the 125% standard is used because AOS is assumed. For example, consider the above $40,000 income adjusted to $38,000 because of arrears. Also consider if you have 4 children, making a total of 6 people in the household. If you live in the continental U.S., the 2012 income requirement at 125% for a family size of 6 is $38,712. In this example you would not meet the requirements.
9. A co-sponsor may be used in applying for a visa however embassies in some countries opt to ignore co-sponsorship as a rule.
10. A co-sponsor is usually only accepted when the petitioner’s income is close to the required amount.
The process is not cheap. Travel costs, application fees, the cost to obtain documentation, medical exam fees, visa fees, AOS fees, etc.
The basic moral to the story is you need to get your house in order before applying for a visa.

I have been in a similar situation in the past and learned a lot about this topic. I recently had to clear up a arrears I didn’t even legitimately owe.
First my story.
When my ex and I were getting a divorce we had agreed to a alimony and child support amount above the state calculation. I was attempting to be generous. Even without an order for support or a decree I started to pay that amount directly to her in cash. I had signed receipts from her for each payment.
When the decree was issued and order of support established the state initially had assed be as being 6 months in arrears. I was easily able to prove the error and my ex even asserted that fact. Because my ex helped me clear up the support issue I felt I could trust her.
I paid off the alimony about a year before it was needed. The state once again showed it in arrears and I proved it was an error and my ex helped prove it.
My ex’s BF has probably about 6 months total combined employment over the past 4 years. My ex would frequently ask for help and I would pay her cash and she at the time would agree to apply it to the support. I was mostly self-employed so salary deductions were not typical for me. About 1 out of 3 times I would just pay her directly.
This past summer my ex wanted an increase in child support and the state reviewed the support and denied increasing the amount.
After the review I needed to renew my passport and could not because I owed arrears. The state showed I owed $15,000 in arrears and interest. I tried to prove it in error once again but this time my ex stayed silent and refused to tell the state the truth.
When it was all said and done I ended up having to pay the amount and learned NEVER to trust her with payments or ever give her extra again.
Here is what I learned in the process. There is some variation from state to state but overall here are the basics.
1. If you give money without going through the court or state it can be considered a gift. Even if the amounts are exactly the same and you have signed receipts to the contrary. If your ex does not also provide proof the money was toward support payments you can be looking at an expensive and time consuming court battle. (I considered fighting in court but to retain a lawyer would have been around $5000 and could take a year to fight. Even if I would have fought I would have really gained nothing and just as easily been still ordered to pay the arrears.)
2. Once the amount is over $2500 the state may suspend your passport.
3. When paying off the arrears the state is not obligated to remove the limitation on your passport until the full amount is paid. Not $2500, but $0.
4. In some cases you can negotiate a lump sum agreement with the custodial parent and they can waive the arrears if done with the approval of the state. If the custodial parent received assistance from the state, the state can choose to not allow that amount to be waived or deduct the amount to be reimbursed to the state.
5. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe more than $2500 in arrears it can be outright denied.
6. If you file for a K-1 or K-3 visa and owe arrears, the total amount of arrears can be deducted from your estimated income used to prove you can support the beneficiary. For example, if your income is $40,000 and you have $2,000 in arrears, the adjusted amount can be $38,000.
7. Your children are considered part of the family household size even if you do not use them as a tax exemption or dependent on your taxes. For example if you have 4 children your household size would be 6. Your 4 children, your spouse/fiancé(e), and yourself.
8. Your income typically must exceed the HHS poverty levels at 125%. Sometimes the 100% level is used for K-1, but often the 125% standard is used because AOS is assumed. For example, consider the above $40,000 income adjusted to $38,000 because of arrears. Also consider if you have 4 children, making a total of 6 people in the household. If you live in the continental U.S., the 2012 income requirement at 125% for a family size of 6 is $38,712. In this example you would not meet the requirements.
9. A co-sponsor may be used in applying for a visa however embassies in some countries opt to ignore co-sponsorship as a rule.
10. A co-sponsor is usually only accepted when the petitioner’s income is close to the required amount.
The process is not cheap. Travel costs, application fees, the cost to obtain documentation, medical exam fees, visa fees, AOS fees, etc.
The basic moral to the story is you need to get your house in order before applying for a visa.

I know divorce can be a painful and anger filled situation,many of us have been there. The normal first reaction is to think ‘that b***h’(or b*****d) and want some vindication.
You have 2 kids together, it’s better to put them above allthe talk of fraud. Imagine the negative effect it would have on the kids if shedid go back. For your sake, and the sake of the kids it’s better to encourageher to stay.
How would you explain when asked where’s mommy? Do you thinka kid 3 or even 13 is going to really understand?
Don’t make your scars theirs. It’s doubtful you could provefraud, but even if you could the real damage will be felt by them, not her.

2 year rule as it pertains to petitioners filing I-129F:
IMBRA regs state that you cannot file more than 2 I-129Fs in a 2 year period.
If you are filing #3 within that 2 year period, you must ask for a waiver, via written letter attached to the I-129F submittal.
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Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

It's not wise to seek out an assumed stereotype. Family oriented means vastly different things to different people. Prior to finding my Ann I dated women from all over, the one thing I can say is each woman is unique. Race and culture have much less to do with things than people think. Don't assume "traits that most Filipinas have".
It's more than just the wording that is sending red flags.
When did you get divorced? You're other posts look like you have been divorced a very very short time and your already looking for specifically for a Filipina wife.
My friend, take a deep breath, relax, and slow down. Take the time to find the right woman. You haven't mentioned having a girl you have in mind. You're starting with the view of seeking a wife before anything. Be cautious because it seems like that view can set you up for the same mistakes you made before. I don't intend to insult you. I am trying to I am trying to help you prevent another mistake. Most people don't decide they are seeking a wife and narrow it down to just one group before even having a first date.
Are you opening your mind and expanding your possibilities of finding your soul mate or limiting yourself and making assumptions before even saying 'Hi' to the girl.
Before I found Ann, when I first opened my mind to the possibility of a relationship with a woman from outside the US I had come to an epiphany. There are almost 7 billion people on earth, half of them are women, that's 3 billion people. Out of that maybe 1 billion are in an age range to have a relationship with. So if I am seeking my one true love she could be anywhere. My view was to expand my possibilities,not to any one race or country. I had the realization that the perfect woman was not only possible but probable, and I would be her perfect man too. Wider possibilities means it can take years, and for me it did take years to find Ann. Once I found her it was like lightning struck. I fell in love with who she is without all the preconceptions.
Don't look for a wife, don't look for a Filipina, look for lighting to strike. Find the girl who takes your breath away with every simple action. Look for the girl who makes every moment last longer, and makes the mundane a cherished memory.
Do some soul searching first. Look in yourself before seeking your woman. Open your mind to all possibilities rather than setting blinders on a 'Filipina wife'.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

It's not wise to seek out an assumed stereotype. Family oriented means vastly different things to different people. Prior to finding my Ann I dated women from all over, the one thing I can say is each woman is unique. Race and culture have much less to do with things than people think. Don't assume "traits that most Filipinas have".
It's more than just the wording that is sending red flags.
When did you get divorced? You're other posts look like you have been divorced a very very short time and your already looking for specifically for a Filipina wife.
My friend, take a deep breath, relax, and slow down. Take the time to find the right woman. You haven't mentioned having a girl you have in mind. You're starting with the view of seeking a wife before anything. Be cautious because it seems like that view can set you up for the same mistakes you made before. I don't intend to insult you. I am trying to I am trying to help you prevent another mistake. Most people don't decide they are seeking a wife and narrow it down to just one group before even having a first date.
Are you opening your mind and expanding your possibilities of finding your soul mate or limiting yourself and making assumptions before even saying 'Hi' to the girl.
Before I found Ann, when I first opened my mind to the possibility of a relationship with a woman from outside the US I had come to an epiphany. There are almost 7 billion people on earth, half of them are women, that's 3 billion people. Out of that maybe 1 billion are in an age range to have a relationship with. So if I am seeking my one true love she could be anywhere. My view was to expand my possibilities,not to any one race or country. I had the realization that the perfect woman was not only possible but probable, and I would be her perfect man too. Wider possibilities means it can take years, and for me it did take years to find Ann. Once I found her it was like lightning struck. I fell in love with who she is without all the preconceptions.
Don't look for a wife, don't look for a Filipina, look for lighting to strike. Find the girl who takes your breath away with every simple action. Look for the girl who makes every moment last longer, and makes the mundane a cherished memory.
Do some soul searching first. Look in yourself before seeking your woman. Open your mind to all possibilities rather than setting blinders on a 'Filipina wife'.

It's not wise to seek out an assumed stereotype. Family oriented means vastly different things to different people. Prior to finding my Ann I dated women from all over, the one thing I can say is each woman is unique. Race and culture have much less to do with things than people think. Don't assume "traits that most Filipinas have".
It's more than just the wording that is sending red flags.
When did you get divorced? You're other posts look like you have been divorced a very very short time and your already looking for specifically for a Filipina wife.
My friend, take a deep breath, relax, and slow down. Take the time to find the right woman. You haven't mentioned having a girl you have in mind. You're starting with the view of seeking a wife before anything. Be cautious because it seems like that view can set you up for the same mistakes you made before. I don't intend to insult you. I am trying to I am trying to help you prevent another mistake. Most people don't decide they are seeking a wife and narrow it down to just one group before even having a first date.
Are you opening your mind and expanding your possibilities of finding your soul mate or limiting yourself and making assumptions before even saying 'Hi' to the girl.
Before I found Ann, when I first opened my mind to the possibility of a relationship with a woman from outside the US I had come to an epiphany. There are almost 7 billion people on earth, half of them are women, that's 3 billion people. Out of that maybe 1 billion are in an age range to have a relationship with. So if I am seeking my one true love she could be anywhere. My view was to expand my possibilities,not to any one race or country. I had the realization that the perfect woman was not only possible but probable, and I would be her perfect man too. Wider possibilities means it can take years, and for me it did take years to find Ann. Once I found her it was like lightning struck. I fell in love with who she is without all the preconceptions.
Don't look for a wife, don't look for a Filipina, look for lighting to strike. Find the girl who takes your breath away with every simple action. Look for the girl who makes every moment last longer, and makes the mundane a cherished memory.
Do some soul searching first. Look in yourself before seeking your woman. Open your mind to all possibilities rather than setting blinders on a 'Filipina wife'.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

It's not wise to seek out an assumed stereotype. Family oriented means vastly different things to different people. Prior to finding my Ann I dated women from all over, the one thing I can say is each woman is unique. Race and culture have much less to do with things than people think. Don't assume "traits that most Filipinas have".
It's more than just the wording that is sending red flags.
When did you get divorced? You're other posts look like you have been divorced a very very short time and your already looking for specifically for a Filipina wife.
My friend, take a deep breath, relax, and slow down. Take the time to find the right woman. You haven't mentioned having a girl you have in mind. You're starting with the view of seeking a wife before anything. Be cautious because it seems like that view can set you up for the same mistakes you made before. I don't intend to insult you. I am trying to I am trying to help you prevent another mistake. Most people don't decide they are seeking a wife and narrow it down to just one group before even having a first date.
Are you opening your mind and expanding your possibilities of finding your soul mate or limiting yourself and making assumptions before even saying 'Hi' to the girl.
Before I found Ann, when I first opened my mind to the possibility of a relationship with a woman from outside the US I had come to an epiphany. There are almost 7 billion people on earth, half of them are women, that's 3 billion people. Out of that maybe 1 billion are in an age range to have a relationship with. So if I am seeking my one true love she could be anywhere. My view was to expand my possibilities,not to any one race or country. I had the realization that the perfect woman was not only possible but probable, and I would be her perfect man too. Wider possibilities means it can take years, and for me it did take years to find Ann. Once I found her it was like lightning struck. I fell in love with who she is without all the preconceptions.
Don't look for a wife, don't look for a Filipina, look for lighting to strike. Find the girl who takes your breath away with every simple action. Look for the girl who makes every moment last longer, and makes the mundane a cherished memory.
Do some soul searching first. Look in yourself before seeking your woman. Open your mind to all possibilities rather than setting blinders on a 'Filipina wife'.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.

Your post raises a lot of questions.
First it sounds less like you're looking for love and more like you shopping for a loaf of bread.
My fiancée, Ann, is Filipina but that is merely coincidence.I am with her because I love her and she loves me. I KNOW her thoughts and feelings almost as clearly as my own. Everything else is secondary.
Why not fall in love with the right woman first. Don't be in such a rush to just marry anyone.
To make an inter-cultural marriage work you need to be MORE open minded not less. You need to want HER because of who she is not what she is.
You sound a little creepy the way you're looking at it. Look past her race and see HER, you will have a better chance of things lasting.
If you're looking for a girl to just be a like a maid, and have sex don't expect it to last long. Pay attention to her heart and mind first, the rest will follow.