Obc333

I'm beginning to think your husband found out you scammed him so he didn't go any further with the paperwork and now you're trying to dig yourself out of a ditch

Why would a man who doesn't think it's important to help his wife AOS buy her a brand new computer is beyond my understanding. If he is such a lovable guy why did he not do the most important thing to make your life easier when you came here. If I were in your shoes I would pawn the gifts and Get the paperwork done.

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I'm sorry but I don't believe a word of your post. You seem to have an answer for everything that is thrown at you. You have the freedom to be able to be on this site for so long but you paint the picture of an abusive husband who has been lying to you about everything. From the picture you paint of him he would not have given you access to a computer where you will be able to find so much info. From reading the posts I too was shocked at how good your English was and to think you learned it from tv and all that with no one to practice it on. No matter how smart a person is I doubt they would grasp it that quickly.
If I'm wrong about you I hope God will forgive me for judging you. I wish you all the best and hope you take the advice that was given to you

I'm beginning to think your husband found out you scammed him so he didn't go any further with the paperwork and now you're trying to dig yourself out of a ditch

You send evidence. You don't have to send it all, but send some. You will have an interview because only those on K visas who have already had an interview at the consulate can be approved without an interview. You can get letters but if you have a lot of other evidence it's generally not needed. You can bring your lawyer if you want. We used one but didn't bring him to the interview. Most people choose not to use a lawyer anyway.

Does it really matter who pays the bill? I mean this is supposed to be a joint venture.
I do agree that every situation is different and only you know what amount of money is in your pocket. I think going into the whole process it is to be discussed thoroughly and I don't think it matters what country your partner is from but talking about the financial aspect of the process is just as important as everything else. I don't think as partners we should just say you have more money than I or you are in a better country than I am. The responsibility lies on both parties and depending on your individual situation you should decide who pays and who doesn't. For my husband and myself we both paid in that because we have a joint account that we both deposited money into we just paid the fees from it and I lived in Jamaica at the time so the different countries didn't count. We just knew that we wanted to be together and the money wasn't important.

I think we ought to learn to be nice to someone asking a question. I think a simple no would do, don't have to be so sarcastic even if you think it's a dumb question.

Seem to me like you're trying to find a way to let your wife stay here even after her time is up. Sounds like fraud was already committed in that she didn't say she was married, being romantically involved means a lot of things and that's why that answer was used instead of saying I'm married. Sometimes these things will come back to haunt.
If she plans to go back home whats the problem?

Hot water in the shower. I don't have to heat water on the stove and bathe in a bath.

When did you stop.. A couple hrs ago....lol

It is a dumb question but I think he really wants advise on his options. I just think he didn't word it properly, but that doesn't mean we ought to be sarcastic about it.

I think we ought to learn to be nice to someone asking a question. I think a simple no would do, don't have to be so sarcastic even if you think it's a dumb question.

I think we ought to learn to be nice to someone asking a question. I think a simple no would do, don't have to be so sarcastic even if you think it's a dumb question.

I think we ought to learn to be nice to someone asking a question. I think a simple no would do, don't have to be so sarcastic even if you think it's a dumb question.

It is obvious that this person does not care if the child is his biologically. He loves the child and wants him to be a part of his life. He is asking advice on how to go about how to do that, I think that's what we should give him advice on and not how he wants to deal with his personal relationship with his wife.
I think you should be honest in your immigration proceedings, let them know the child is not biologically yours, and see about filing for him as a stepchild. I suggest you seek the aid of an attorney if you can afford.

It is obvious that this person does not care if the child is his biologically. He loves the child and wants him to be a part of his life. He is asking advice on how to go about how to do that, I think that's what we should give him advice on and not how he wants to deal with his personal relationship with his wife.
I think you should be honest in your immigration proceedings, let them know the child is not biologically yours, and see about filing for him as a stepchild. I suggest you seek the aid of an attorney if you can afford.

It is obvious that this person does not care if the child is his biologically. He loves the child and wants him to be a part of his life. He is asking advice on how to go about how to do that, I think that's what we should give him advice on and not how he wants to deal with his personal relationship with his wife.
I think you should be honest in your immigration proceedings, let them know the child is not biologically yours, and see about filing for him as a stepchild. I suggest you seek the aid of an attorney if you can afford.

It is obvious that this person does not care if the child is his biologically. He loves the child and wants him to be a part of his life. He is asking advice on how to go about how to do that, I think that's what we should give him advice on and not how he wants to deal with his personal relationship with his wife.
I think you should be honest in your immigration proceedings, let them know the child is not biologically yours, and see about filing for him as a stepchild. I suggest you seek the aid of an attorney if you can afford.

How sure are we that this person is not trying to get us to help him to commit another fraud? He lied to a CO thats why he was denied.
When I have a 2yr old daughter at home and have to be finding evidence of a 4 yr old relationship so that my daughter can have her father in her life every single day I am not gonna help someone who went through the wrong tunnel find his way to the right one. He should have done things legally like everyone else... If his new relationship is real be honest on every single application. Don't lie. That's what got you where you are right now. If you are honest then everything will work out for the best

He does not sound honest and it's not a matter of being judgmental. If you are seeking help from a forum, we are a family of people who are willing to help in whatever way we can. When you break the law be straight up and honest about it. He tried to put one over on the CO and he caught it. I think he is trying to put one over on us.
He wrote that his first wife and friend took money from him and that's all they wanted then later he's from a country that arranges marriages. He knew what was going on and willingly participated in it.
I am all about honesty, and will turn a listening ear when the details are clear.
However my advise would be to get to know your new wife. Give stuff some time to cool off. And then reapply. When you do things in a rush it will come off as fraud.
Save up for a good lawyer and try again

How sure are we that this person is not trying to get us to help him to commit another fraud? He lied to a CO thats why he was denied.
When I have a 2yr old daughter at home and have to be finding evidence of a 4 yr old relationship so that my daughter can have her father in her life every single day I am not gonna help someone who went through the wrong tunnel find his way to the right one. He should have done things legally like everyone else... If his new relationship is real be honest on every single application. Don't lie. That's what got you where you are right now. If you are honest then everything will work out for the best

He does not sound honest and it's not a matter of being judgmental. If you are seeking help from a forum, we are a family of people who are willing to help in whatever way we can. When you break the law be straight up and honest about it. He tried to put one over on the CO and he caught it. I think he is trying to put one over on us.
He wrote that his first wife and friend took money from him and that's all they wanted then later he's from a country that arranges marriages. He knew what was going on and willingly participated in it.
I am all about honesty, and will turn a listening ear when the details are clear.
However my advise would be to get to know your new wife. Give stuff some time to cool off. And then reapply. When you do things in a rush it will come off as fraud.
Save up for a good lawyer and try again

How sure are we that this person is not trying to get us to help him to commit another fraud? He lied to a CO thats why he was denied.
When I have a 2yr old daughter at home and have to be finding evidence of a 4 yr old relationship so that my daughter can have her father in her life every single day I am not gonna help someone who went through the wrong tunnel find his way to the right one. He should have done things legally like everyone else... If his new relationship is real be honest on every single application. Don't lie. That's what got you where you are right now. If you are honest then everything will work out for the best

How sure are we that this person is not trying to get us to help him to commit another fraud? He lied to a CO thats why he was denied.
When I have a 2yr old daughter at home and have to be finding evidence of a 4 yr old relationship so that my daughter can have her father in her life every single day I am not gonna help someone who went through the wrong tunnel find his way to the right one. He should have done things legally like everyone else... If his new relationship is real be honest on every single application. Don't lie. That's what got you where you are right now. If you are honest then everything will work out for the best