Life is All Over for Me......

[RandyandRina 2]

Maybe she is taking her frustrations out on you, give it a few days

Yes indeed, you are so far along in this process, I agree - give it a few days, hang in there.

same here jigi. you have to be strong for her, and even if things do not work out the way we wanted it to be with this whole process...look at the bright side, that at the end of this all, will be a life fuller and more joys.

[PlatyPius 5]

That kind of attitude right now might be an indication of things to come....

[JeanneVictoria 55]

First... Jigi the visa process is like life itself...there will be ups, downs, sideways, fronts and backs...WE DON'T GIVE UP...we hang in there and just take it day by day...

Second....You were married on my birthday and NO ONE BUT NO ONE GIVES UP ON MY BIRTHDAY!!

[end of atmosphere 0]

Hi

I dont know who will read my post today.. but i am devastated.. My wife is very MAD on me... and i dont know.. what to do .. she is very angry.. she is in so much stress that she wants to end all ties with me. I dont know I am done with my Life.... I give up..... NVC wins.... and i loose..... I dont know whose fault it is... Certainly not of my wife .... Am I at fault.... I dont know its better i go away from every one......

Bye Friends... I dont know whether I will come back ever.... Thanks you every one.. who have always responded to my messages, views and added me in their friends list. I am sorry to any one on this forum if I said them something wrong....

JIGI

Is your wife stressed because she lives with your family???? I know a little about Indian culture since I have lived in India over the past ten years.

It's very hard to be seperate from a husband as it is...But then to be seperate from her own family is even harder during this time.

However, another thought is that the end is near and maybe she is getting nervous to come to the USA also. Leaving all that she is comfortable and familiar with.....

Don't fret...She will come to her senses.

Take heart.

[Tussie 0]

Jigi,

Dont give up. She might be saying things out of desperation and anger. I do it with my husband too. I have my days where I think maybe his life will be better if I ended instead of it being on hold. He quit his job thinking this will be a smooth process, gave up his personal space, car, pretty much his life and is currently living with his dad until hopefully he is here with me. Im in the service so its not like I can just get out or get stationed there with him. God knows when we will get approved by CSC, or even if we get approved. At least you both are halfway there. Maybe in three months you both will actually live together here in the US. Give her time to vent, reflect and express her thoughts. But even if she is negative about things you will have to be the positive one in the relationship. Some truths may come out of this for you both, but at this point you will know where each others hearts stand.

[Dakine 26]

That kind of attitude right now might be an indication of things to come....

Yep!

The process is stressful but not a reason for busting up! If someone can't handle it what else will blow their top?

May be more than just the process.

OP may be luckier than he knows!

Edited October 6, 2007 by Haole

[Sonshyne 2]

Dont give up hang in there, the process takes time and patience

[Jigi 0]

Helllo,

GOD NEWS guys...after all the stufff... wife calllled.. she was frustrated a lot.... she was speaking for 1 hour non stop.. i didnt say a word.. then she called me again.. i was awake whole night.. and she just kept talking and then i kept talking.. at the End i got her back

THanks for alll your support......

GOD blesss you friends..... lets go and face NVC with Fresh energy....

Jigi

Edited October 6, 2007 by Jigi

[vbtbmrt 2]

Helllo,

GOD NEWS guys...after all the stufff... wife calllled.. she was frustrated a lot.... she was speaking for 1 hour non stop.. i didnt say a word.. then she called me again.. i was awake whole night.. and she just kept talking and then i kept talking.. at the End i got her back

THanks for alll your support......

GOD blesss you friends..... lets go and face NVC with Fresh energy....

Jigi

ALL RIGHT WAY TO GO

[jayzar 1]

hi Jigi!

Nice to hear that you and your wife are okay now!

We all know that this process is stressfull, and yes, we all have to wait. For us, we started the journey January this year, yet have completed my case at NVC just this Oct.2. Its normal for us to be frustrated and down at some times, but as my hubby always telling me, HE NEEDS ME, and that i've got to do anything that would fulfill his needs, and vice-versa.

Hang in there, you're the next one to recieve the good news!

-jyz

[ELW 5]

Jigi, I think all of us have been so frustrated at one time or the other that we almost feel like giving up completely. Hang in there! You two are nearing the end of the process and you two will soon be together! Best wishes to both of you lovebirds for a speedy rest of the harrowing process!

[manda 1]

Hang in there. both of you! This whole process causes my wife and I much stress, there are days where we fight all day. It can tear 2 people apart if you let it, but you can't. The NVC can't win nor can the government. I think that everything happens for a reason and maybe this is all one big test to see if we can make it or not. If you can get through this you can get through anything!!! If not, maybe it wasn't meant to be anyway...

just a thought

[Jigi 0]

hi

thanks all my friends once again,....... i am biting nails for DS-230 approval..... and wait... its 5 working days done... i will call them after 5 days... so i guess like next monday

Jigi

[lheeanne 0]

You guys are almost there. Just hang-on and for sure everything will be alright..

[Frank+Jocelyn 1]

Just have faith in your love for each other. It's you and her against the world...don't let the world win!