Trust in a Relationship....

[Fandango 1,440]

How important is trust to you in a relationship? Could you marry your SO while thinking (s)he's a liar?

For me, if I didn't trust D with my life, we wouldn't be getting married. Hell, we wouldn't be in an LDR. It's the foundation for everything, and without trust, there's nothing.

It boggles my mind how people will sell themselves short and marry people that they don't trust at all.

What about you?

[aminah 6]

I have total trust in my husband and vise versa. We may not be together physically yet because of immigration but we both know we're only a phone call apart. Without the trust in each other this marriage wouldn't be possible.

[Dawny&Tommy 0]

I trust Tommy completely, with mine and my childrens lives. I couldn't even consider relocation if I didn't. I love and trust him with every single bone in my body.

Dawn.

[churipu 4]

How important is trust to you in a relationship? Could you marry your SO while thinking (s)he's a liar?

For me, if I didn't trust D with my life, we wouldn't be getting married. Hell, we wouldn't be in an LDR. It's the foundation for everything, and without trust, there's nothing.

It boggles my mind how people will sell themselves short and marry people that they don't trust at all.

What about you?

I totally agree with you, it is the exact same for me.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The only thing I trust is Smith and Wesson.

[Fandango 1,440]

The only thing I trust is Smith and Wesson.

Cmon, be serious for a sec....I'm really curious.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

It depends on who the relationship is with and what she brings to it.

In the case of a wife, trust is essential. Other forms of relationships with women (assuming no marriage exists) can work without trust, if the woman brings other skills to the table (ahem) and the man creates the proper boundaries to protect himself.

[Caladan 19]

Are we talking about personal relationships here? Business relationships, no trust needed, that's why God invented contracts.

[Fandango 1,440]

Are we talking about personal relationships here? Business relationships, no trust needed, that's why God invented contracts.

Sorry, I thought since I talked about my SO that I was specifying trust in your romantic relationship.

[Aymerlu 3]

I trust my husband 100%. If I didn't trust him, I wouldn't be with him

[TracyTN 237]

Trust is one of the most important things (if not the most).

Without it, I'm not sure there's much of anything left to fall back on.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Are we talking about personal relationships here? Business relationships, no trust needed, that's why God invented contracts.

God was a Libertarian?

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Trust is fluid. I trust my doctor with my health, but I wouldn't necessarily trust him with my house. I trust my car with my life everyday I drive, but I wouldn't marry it. With marriage, a basic trust (along with honesty) in each other lays the ground work to be able to withstand the trials of marriage. Little things can gnaw away at that trust - such as a wife asking her husband to pick up her clothes from the cleaners and he forgets. He might be a terrific husband who loves her loyally, but he just sucks at remembering things. Can she trust him with getting to the cleaners without her constantly reminding him? Probably not. Does that make the marriage not work...I don't think so. In fact, I think later on after being married for several years, such things will be found to be endearing as both of them will be able to look back at him never remembering to go to the cleaners for her, laugh and tell him he's such a forgetful fool (affectionately of course).

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I trust my husband as well, 100%. He trusts me. If we didn't trust each other then why would we want to be in a such an intimate and vulnerable relationship together? I suspect a lot of times the trust issue has more to say about the one who doesn't trust rather than the one who isn't trusted (not always, but often).

The bigger issue I see, however, is acceptance: accepting him for who he is, warts and all - and vice versa. I trust him always to be who he is and that is where love enters the picture:-). One of his most wonderful qualities for me is that he accepts me totally as who I am and doesn't try to change me, even if some of my traits are not what he would prefer as well. He trusts me to be me. These are the traits that make our relationship strong.

Edited August 26, 2007 by Kathryn41

[ajames79 0]

no question about it, I trust Chris with everything I am...Like others said we wouldn't have started this LDR years ago if we didn't have that trust from nearly the beginning.

[Fandango 1,440]

Trust is fluid. I trust my doctor with my health, but I wouldn't necessarily trust him with my house. I trust my car with my life everyday I drive, but I wouldn't marry it. With marriage, a basic trust (along with honesty) in each other lays the ground work to be able to withstand the trials of marriage. Little things can gnaw away at that trust - such as a wife asking her husband to pick up her clothes from the cleaners and he forgets. He might be a terrific husband who loves her loyally, but he just sucks at remembering things. Can she trust him with getting to the cleaners without her constantly reminding him? Probably not. Does that make the marriage not work...I don't think so. In fact, I think later on after being married for several years, such things will be found to be endearing as both of them will be able to look back at him never remembering to go to the cleaners for her, laugh and tell him he's such a forgetful fool (affectionately of course).

I think that's a different kind of trust that borders on knowing your partner and his/her weaknesses...can I trust him to not forget to go to the cleaners? would not be a question I would hinge a successful marriage on.

What I'm really getting at is trust with the big things....to be faithful (if that's your arrangement...some might differ), with having your back, always being there, and NOT lying to you, etc.

Could you marry someone you felt was lying to you?