Situation escalating with abusive spouse

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1 minute ago, Family said:

Death threats, if real, in the form of texts/emails, are NOT a negotiating tactic to be kept in the back pocket ….

 

Continuing to do so is playing a dangerous game. ..as is continued engagement with your jilted husband : 

 

You described the death threats as reason for telling him the week you were flying in to activate green card , but not the day 

 

Your polite email to him about divorce and ongoing back and forth, am assuming your newfound I-864 upper hand. 
 

You are well researched and DIY savvy and called him “ ignorant and uneducated “ in how immigration/divorce works…but do not underestimate your once beloved IF DEATH THREATS are real and ongoing. 
 

I’m not using his threats as a negotiation tactic. I am actually trying to seek legal help to take out a restraining order against him.

 

I am polite in emails because I see it as a way to try and calm him down because he is constantly seething with anger but I have now gone no contact so I will not be engaging in any conversation with him.

 

I am not trying to underestimate him at all. I am well aware of the threat he poses to me. I’m just trying to navigate all of this in a way that keeps me physically safe from harm and in a position to try and move on.